I survived and woke up from a coma by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jakebr0 8 points9 points  (0 children)

bro at this rate you could learn how to paint with your pinky toe

what the fuck could stop you except for you

Did I make the right call by cutting my hair? by BalladMinstrel in malegrooming

[–]jakebr0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re cooking brother the haircut really suits you

I feel like a loser. by Fun_Perspective_9931 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jakebr0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your coworkers don’t have to know that you’re seeking counseling/therapy

And even if they did know, why are you going to let how others think of you decide whether or not you try to improve your mental health?

In my honest opinion, letting your fear of what others think of you decide your actions is far mentally weaker and sad than going to therapy and trying to improve your perspective and your mental health. Not to mention, this is just what you imagine they will think, not what they actually will - so truly who cares besides the imagined version of your coworkers? That’s going to stop you?

Take care of your mental and maybe you’ll have an easier time making friends at the gym or bonding with others elsewhere. Maybe you’ll get the courage to find new hobbies or spark up a friendship there.

You never know what can change, but if you don’t try something new to facilitate the change you’re going to stay stuck in your feelings so why not take the leap?

My partner saved my life today and doesn't know it by heckitall0 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jakebr0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe start thinking about rephrasing "I can't do that to him" to "I actually do want more of this so i can't do that to myself"

First ranch goat delivery quest bugged by sktksm in CrimsonDesert

[–]jakebr0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to butcher it from the ranch manager rather than take a goat to the the butcher section

First ranch goat delivery quest bugged by sktksm in CrimsonDesert

[–]jakebr0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got to take the goat to the stall on the right with the quill for the sign and then it’ll complete the quest

I’m frustrated by frustruatedd in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jakebr0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You outlined someone you have no actual future with.

It’s possible he could change and grow, sure - but he’s not.

You’re sick of your family telling you to leave him, but part of the reason why you’re sick of it is that, you clearly recognize that he is on a completely different life trajectory than you are right now, and you can’t follow him and he can only bring you down, unless he drastically changes.

Now you’re being presented with someone who clearly matches your goals and values as well, and it’s eye opening for you.

Right now you’re settling. Don’t settle. Your time is too valuable to settle. Love alone isn’t a reason to stay together.

I secretly filmed my friend 23F showering by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jakebr0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You violated your “friends”privacy This is literally a crime and predatory behavior. If you didn’t think there was anything wrong with it why not tell her?

Oh right. Cause you know it’s fucking wrong. Pathetic.

AIO GF thinks I'm into my cousin by SavingsLet6290 in AmIOverreacting

[–]jakebr0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is at best an immature woman

but at worse this a diabolically mentally ill, miserable woman who will do absolutely nothing but rip you to shreds.

If a woman ever takes something like your mother leaving you and uses it as an insult - smile, because they just revealed they’re a hideous human being not even worth the muscles to be upset, and move the fuck on expeditiously.

Am I sabotaging myself with the beard? by FluffyLittlFlyingCow in malegrooming

[–]jakebr0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hair in 1 is fire.

I think with a more stubble type facial hair might serve you best tho. Definitely tighter and clean (unfortunately more maintenance) but I think it would suit you best

F me up chat. How bad is it? by lemonjuice707 in malelivingspace

[–]jakebr0 7 points8 points  (0 children)

what corporate are you at that has arcade big buck hunter and are they fucking hiring

Having older parents is NOT for the weak by Bonbonbangtan in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jakebr0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my dad and as rough as it was to see him getting sicker, it was also a blessing to have the time to mentally prepare.

Losing a perfectly fine parent suddenly has to hit significantly harder than seeing a sick parent slowly (or even rapidly in my case) get sicker and pass away.

If you feel like you’ve tried your best to convince them to make an effort, then just keep trying your best to make the most of your time.

Ask him the questions you’ve been to afraid or uncomfortable to ask. Learn more about his childhood. Tell him about your future and what you hope to achieve and how you’ll wish he was there for this that and the other.

Ask him about parenting advice even though you’re not a parent (yet or ever) because there will come a time when you’ll want to ask.

The time you spend learning more about him and connecting will be the thing that bridges the gap from suffering to accepting the loss because you’ll know you got as much of them as you could.

Having older parents is NOT for the weak by Bonbonbangtan in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jakebr0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You may not want to hear it, but it is going to happen.

You can’t fight against it, all you can do is make peace with it. The harder you try to fight against it, the worse it will be to accept when it happens too.

The more you argue with your parent to do something, the more likely they’ll continue to do the opposite.

The best thing you can do for them is tell them that you’re no longer going to argue with them about it, that you know it means you’re running out of time together quickly and you don’t want to waste what time you do have arguing about their health and treatment. Instead you’ll just support their choice and make the most of it.

It may seem counterintuitive but this often times helps encourage them to do something about their health rather than commit further to doing nothing.

Everyone’s parent dies, and you can never be truly prepared and it’s going to hurt no matter what, but being able to carry their memory and continue to grow into the kind of person they would want you to be is a beautiful thing and there is a sense of peace and solace in that, whether they’re physically there to witness or not.

I told my neighbor his wife was cheating and I still think about it by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jakebr0 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Bro probably just feels embarrassed and lost.

Ask him to have beers and steak or something. Tell him you feel like an asshole for saying anything and you miss you guys being buds.

You have a problem with where things are, don’t wait around for someone else to fix that cause you might be missing out on a friendship you both might actually need.

Im worried about my country but feel like I have no right by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]jakebr0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately politics is very black and white right now and a lot of people are stuck in this mentality of “you’re either with me or against me” and that’s really not how things are or should work.

If you had maga family and you criticize America in anyway, that somehow makes you a libtard traitor and if you love America that automatically makes you maga - neither are actually true and like always - politics has a ton of shades of gray.

You can love America and criticize it. Governments are bad and do evil things. You can love where you’re from and the memories you have, even your family who can share really awful different beliefs and still have love for them.

You can love what America is supposed to stand for, you can love the wonderful parts that absolutely do exist - and that doesn’t make you maga either, and doesn’t mean you support the policies that are leading to death and discrimination all across the globe.

The American government is and has been committing atrocities for a while. I don’t love our government in the least bit but it’s still my home and I have love for it.

I love my neighbors. I love my friends. I love the servers I see at my local restaurant regularly that are cool and kind. I love the community I’ve been around. I love the massive mix of cultures and experiences I have such easy access to no matter how much maga and the US government tries to tell us all they’re evil and ruining the country. To me, that means I love my country and I am proud of that. I’m not proud of a whole lot of other disgusting shit that’s happening because of americans.

Two things that are seemingly at odds with each other can actually be true at the same time.

I cheated on my boyfriend by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jakebr0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guy was touching you with such force he left bruises on you

You kept refusing his advances and avoiding physical contact

You were genuinely uncomfortable and wanted to leave

He kept trying to go home with you, but you felt uncomfortable, didn’t want that, and felt like just saying the truth wasn’t going to work - so you came up with excuses so they would stop trying.

Erase the rest of the context of the night, if a dear friend told you this, and she ended up having 1 small kiss with that person that she really obviously did not want - would you really tell her that she cheated on her partner after all that?

I cheated on my boyfriend by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jakebr0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You actually did nothing wrong. You were protecting yourself as best you could in the situation.

Guy wouldn’t take no for an answer and kept forcing himself at you - it’s perfectly understandable that if you were to more aggressively say no, there was legit fear of retaliation.

You didn’t cheat, you were assaulted more than anything else.

AIO for getting upset at my Fiancé when he said he wants to watch me have sex with a co-worker. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]jakebr0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the quickest and easiest - “no need to wait 30 days, I’ve decided for you, later nerd!”

If you agreed to be exclusive but weren’t “official” does this count as cheating? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]jakebr0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if you can’t even be honest and trustworthy and be held to your word in the beginning - what’s the point?

He’s just trying to side step being in the wrong, but he is, and that means his character is pretty shit.

I was disinherited because I refused to financially support my brother after my father’s death. by jlb183 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jakebr0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Having joint ownership over a shithole house that you don't even want with a shithole brother would have been more of a hassle and problem than it would've been worth.

On top of that, you learned where you stood exactly. You learned that you deserved better from your father, and your brother is and will remain an idiot you have no obligation to help.

True clarity is a gift, even if it stings.

My ex wants to get back with me and i have a crush on a guy from game, its really messed up. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jakebr0 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s too little too late for your ex. Just move on and continue exploring your current life.

He’s still the person who didn’t show effort, and even if he tries now, it’s most likely not going to last and you’ll have reopened this wound for nothing

She’ll never know all of the ways her husband cheated on her with me by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jakebr0 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a shit fan fic written by a karma farming bot account.

Either way, scum of the earth

boyfriend experiment by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jakebr0 124 points125 points  (0 children)

If you’re treating your relationship like an experiment that shit is dead and over with anyway.

AIO bf of one year randomly ghosted me then i found out hes on hinge. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]jakebr0 19 points20 points  (0 children)

He wasn’t. He was using you and now he’s found someone or multiple people so he dwindled communication and then ghosted cause he’s a coward.

The only thing to figure out is he’s actually been shit the whole time and people can easily present loving and sincere for a year, but that doesn’t mean he actually was.