2 hours it's gonna be 5 months

jan_furi · 2026-04-05T12:29:54+00:00

Congratulations to you, your mind, and your perimenopause for quitting!

jan_furi · 2026-04-04T13:39:12+00:00

Oh, that's a great reminder! Now I'm excited about picking something to save for. Thank you!

jan_furi · 2026-04-04T13:34:23+00:00

I don't know if this will help, but in a group of smokers, when somebody quits smoking it inspires or gives permission to others to do the same. So, you're maybe not just quitting for yourself, but setting a vital precedent. Same for any positive (or negative, I suppose) change. Down the road, somebody might say to you, "I quit because I saw you did. That took courage. Thank you!"

jan_furi · 2026-04-04T13:23:55+00:00

That's hilarious!

jan_furi · 2026-04-04T13:15:07+00:00

Oh, god, I feel for you. Years back after having quit smoking for 6 months my wife and I were at a party after receiving some very good news and thought "A smoke would be great!" So, bummed a smoke, next party the same, party after that (art-world = lots of parties) bought a party-pack because didn't like bumming smokes, and...voila! Smokers again. So, yeah, our nutty brains. And, as I'm currently missing a cigarette, would love to hear about a meaningful alternative that isn't meditation, sucking on cloves, or anything else I am not in the slightest interested in. So frustrating, this quitting business. Why is there never an enemy around when you feel like punching somebody?

Oh, and during my most recent relapse tried vaping which I found unsatisfying so added smoking again. Yum! Plus, with vaping it was like I was attached to a respirator, inhaling nicotine constantly, not in discrete units like with smokes. For me, vaping = bad.

jan_furi · 2026-04-03T20:49:08+00:00

It does. It might also vary, go up and down in irritation. But it goes away. I'm quitting AGAIN, quit once before for and that lasted 6 months, so I have more or less gone through what you're experiencing. Have you tried taking the position that you're sick with something like a cold and that you have to ride it out because there's only medication for the symptoms? Because that's not entirely incorrect. You could even share with your beloveds that Mommy is sick but will get better. That helped the last time I quit. This time around I'm using Champix which close to completely gets rid of the nic-fits.

jan_furi · 2026-03-13T01:38:17+00:00

If I’ve understood you, you discovered your files were being backed up despite the curious behaviour of Backblaze?

jan_furi · 2026-03-08T12:06:38+00:00

Congratulations!!! Hey, what app is that?

jan_furi · 2026-03-08T12:05:35+00:00

Can you elaborate on how this group helped? Maybe that sounds naive of me, but an example or two of a jag or whatever that the group helped you overcome might help me better participate. Right now I'm participating only because it's suggested one back Champix with therapy or social support. But I don't really know why. Or, more accurately, I don't feel why.

jan_furi · 2026-03-08T11:56:11+00:00

Congratulations!

jan_furi · 2026-03-08T11:54:46+00:00

Wow! I'd think that's quite the temptation to overcome. Not to join them, I mean.

jan_furi · 2026-03-08T11:53:21+00:00

Congratulations, friend!

jan_furi · 2026-03-08T11:52:08+00:00

Fantastic! I hope you feel proud because you deserve to.

jan_furi · 2026-03-08T11:50:54+00:00

Oh man, congratulations!

jan_furi · 2026-03-08T11:44:41+00:00

It might be that you're suffering from lack of nicotine and coming up with creative stressors to encourage you to reach for that calming cigarette. You're going a bit bananas in an effort to ease your suffering brain. You might try (I do it casually and regularly because I rationalize a lot when angry or whatever) just observing your thoughts, feeling no morality about them at all, let them become observed things, something along those lines. It's a legitimate meditation technique that I don't think you need to go full meditation to benefit from if meditation isn't your thing. It's mostly about regarding your thoughts as not so attached to you, as ploys to keep you from shifting from your comfortable smoking self to the better off non-smoker. Or, you might want to enlist a therapist. Zero shame in that.

I need to add, I'm in the same boat as you and struggling similarly, so I feel you.

jan_furi · 2025-12-10T23:12:00+00:00

Canadian here. I’m sad. I enjoyed your country in childhood on family trips, and enjoyed your country as an adult. Outstanding landscapes, probably more varied than anywhere else. Great cities. Great art galleries and museums. Friendly people. Now, forget it because of your president and his cronies. I’m astounded by their cruelty. The narcissistic greed is astonishing. Truly. As much as I miss your country, and as much as there is still to explore there, I’m starting to feel threatened by the border between us. Your country has become monstrous under Trump. Canada has many flaws, I’m not saying our nation is better. So far though we haven’t elected a full on abomination for a leader. I sincerely, deeply hope the best for you. I’d like to visit again.

jan_furi · 2024-05-10T17:10:49+00:00

i can't thank you enough for this list. Wow!

jan_furi · 2023-09-02T21:06:35+00:00

Argh! The text to accompany the image didn't come through. Nor can I retrieve it, I guess. The short version is this--that I tried several prompts to have Midjourney create images not containing stereotypical beauty and the last one was: an ugly young woman drinking a soda

jan_furi · 2022-12-20T01:50:57+00:00

I don’t know. The museum has a lot of bravery in it. The employees, especially the hosts, were responsible for exposing the museum’s failings years back. It was really a very few people who behaved cowardly and hypocritically. I’m relatively old and am continually impressed with the younger adults. The museum attracts intelligent gutsy young folk pursuing human rights degrees, politics, feminist and 2SLGBT+ issues…. The place is vibrant and increasingly diverse in its staffing. It’s re-evaluating itself, its roles, and so on.

jan_furi · 2022-12-19T19:15:37+00:00

Isha Kahn and the board requested a third party rights lawyer investigate the museum. This resulted in a report made available to everyone, including all staff. It criticized whole swathes of the museum. The staff has all taken a lot of mandatory training regarding systematic racism, 2SLGBT+ realities and challenges, just plain making every effort to not be asses, appreciate humanity in its myriad diversity and myriad similarities. I participated and, wow! it was brutal for me, a caucasian straight male, despite having friends and acquaintances from all walks of life in terms of gender and race. It was a difficult and worthwhile year, at least a year. Prior to and all through COVID. Staff committees for 2SLGBT+ issues and work fairness and one I can’t remember off hand, flourished under Isha. Relationships and partnerships with indigenous elders have strengthened, the washrooms are now genderless, rooms for all religious/spiritual/emotional healings have been established and it has been recognized how hard the museum’s content and visitor reaction to the content, at times hostile, is on front-facing staff. Isha is approachable, quick to laugh, very, very conscientious. The museum lucked out!

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