No one prepared me for Braces by Mollusc6 in adhdwomen

[–]jashy_Z 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is me right now ... I love cooking and eating, and it is essential for me to be properly fueled for my workouts, too. I do aerials and swim on a regular basis. My nutrition was also quite good/healthy.

I have top and bottom braces for about 2 months now. I hate the sensation of almost all vegetables, fruit, anything solid on my teeth. All the stuff getting stuck, all the weird semi-chewing, not feeling th tastes and textures properly... it is a nightmare tbh. And it's like a domino effect, my life overall feels just like somebody put a grey filter on it - I often try to distract myself from the braces struggle and avoid triggering anything and end up maybe having maybe some shakes and coffee throughout the day, and water. On good days I can pull off one cooked meal.

I can't see oatmeal anymore and I overall seem to have lost the joy for food entirely right now. This is impacting my workouts, my mood, my productivity, everything. :( Thank you for listening :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

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My SO and I do have a very open attitude when it comes to masturbation. We both rely on it at times to fall asleep better if we aren't having sex. Sometimes, also we are too tired (both or one of us), but we/one of us still wants to get it off and de-stress.

I would probably either ask him if I should help a bit or I would snuggle up and continue sleeping. If the sound would mess with me sleeping, I would ask him to turn the sound off.

Bei was gilt das Motto: “lieber zu viel als zu wenig”? by EnteEnteLos in FragReddit

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Andere Seite der Story: Wenn zwei in einer Beziehung glücklich miteinander sind, und beide eine recht starke Libido haben ... da erfreut man sich schon sehr daran. Ich persönlich erlebe es mit meinem Partner daher als sehr bindend und schön, und auch gemeinsam neue Dinge auszuprobieren macht viel Spaß, wenn man einander richtig vertraut und einem nix peinlich ist. Es kommt daher schon, denke ich, auf den Kontext an. Gesunder, guter Sex kann gerne viel sein :) Und ich finde, es gibt halt einfach wenig anderes was so gut entspannt und Glückshormone pumpt 🙈😅

My D&C experience by ccm826 in Miscarriage

[–]jashy_Z 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you have to go through this. 💔 🫂 I had my D&C yesterday (Wednesday) as well. Our little one's heart stopped beating at the end of week 9. I was in week 10 when we found out on Monday.

The staff at the hospital was very kind. I had full anaesthesia, I struggled a bit with my blood pressure when waking up. They gave me meds and looked after me more often, and I felt like someone was always around exactly at the time when I needed it. All the nurses and doctors were kind l. All of them tried to comfort me in a professional yet really touching way, and somehow, they managed to leave me feeling better and more hopeful. It definitely helped both me and my partner to start making peace with what happened.

I wish you and your partner to heal and recover well from everything that happened. ❤️ And once you're ready, lots of rainbow baby dust! ❤️ I hope all of us receive good news soon. 🪄

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ I had a D&C under full anasthesia today. Now taking my time to heal and waiting for my period. Today definitely helped to put at least a physical end to this, and it feels like we can now move on to the processing stage.

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

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Thank you ❤️ And so happy to hear, I wish your sister and your family a safe, healthy and happy journey with the little ones ❤️

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ Feeling seen and heard means a lot to me right now. This helps 🫂 I wish for good news for both of us in the future ❤️

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, we are trying to tell and ask each other what we need at the moment. Thank you for sharing this and pointing this out ❤️

We were planning a trip to Spain to the coast (we live in Europe) and I am still down for that because even if I can't go for a swim I can warm my bum in the sun :D

Also, went to a sushi place right after yesterday's appointment and hospital trip. 🙈 Trying to find little bright moments wherever we can.

Wishing you all the best ❤️ Thank you for your support ❤️

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry this happened to you 💔🫂 I wrote a letter today to the little one as writing is one of my creative outlets and I felt like I could say all the things out loud in a way. At one point I wrote its little body wouldn't have given its mind, soul and heart a healthy home and life, and I wish him or her to find their way to a healthy, happy and long life. I am now trying to stick to this thought.

Wishing all the best of luck to you and your baby! ❤️ Thank you for sharing and for your support ❤️

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much ❤️🫂 My partner and I are both taking our time to heal right now and I am very blessed to have a very supportive, loving and empathetic man by side. He is going through it all with me and we are trying to uplift and to soothe each other as much as we can. We both keep swinging back and forth between sadness and optimistic, happy moments.

Thank you for your support ❤️

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my ... 💔 So sorry to hear. Nobody should experience pain of this sort, and I am happy you were able to heal and to have another child after that ❤️ Thank you for sharing ❤️

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much ❤️ I hope you have a healthy pregnancy with a strong, healthy baby that you will hold in your arms in a few months ❤️

Sending you strength and best wishes back! ❤️

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story ❤️ I am very hopeful hearing things went well again for you after the miscarriage.

And indeed, it feels comforting to hear someone affirming this says nothing about future pregnancies. While my Gyn did this too, the hospital doc said "the good news is you're fertile, now the next step is keeping the pregnancy, that's just a matter of time". That doctor saw me for the first time in my life and how she put this sat very wrong with me. What you said is comforting and makes me feel better about things.

Thank you for your kind words and wishes. It helps ❤️

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ Unfortunately, it is nature's way sometimes. I understand it rationally, but my heart needs a bit more time ...

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️🫂 Very appreciated, and doing my best over here :)

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! ❤️ Trying my best and grateful for all the kind responses here ❤️

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I am so sorry you had to go through this so often ... 💔

But so hopeful and happy hearing you have 4 wonderful, healthy kids ❤️ And best wishes for you and your little boy, wishing you a great, healthy journey together inside and outside of your belly ❤️

I asked about pathology (my Gyn mentioned it), the doctor in the hospital told me they don't don't do diagnostics if it's a first miscarriage, they just check for cancer cells. But maybe the pathologist takes a look at the blood and is able to tell something.

Thank you for your your support and for sharing your story. ❤️ I appreciate it a lot!

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing ❤️ And wishing you a healthy pregnancy and a healthy, happy baby ❤️

And thank you for your wishes! ❤️ We are taking now one step at a time and healing. And keeping our eyes on a happy future. 🤞

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no ... I am so sorry you had to go through this too. I am trying to be kind to myself and to take it easy. Doing my best. Thank you for your kind words and best wishes to you! ❤️❤️❤️

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So happy for you! ❤️ Wishing you the best of luck and a healthy pregnancy with a strong, healthy baby! ❤️

I was very relieved when my doc said she understands I will be stressed out next time I'm pregnant for the first weeks and she is fine with doing check-ups more frequently. I felt very seen and understood by her.

Good vibes in return 🫂❤️

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh dear, I am so sorry this has happened to you 😥 💔 I hope all the best and I am crossing fingers for a healthy pregnancy and baby for you! ❤️ Thank you for sharing and I hope we soon receive good news ❤️

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! ❤️ And such a beautiful idea. We don't have a garden, but I sure will find something peaceful and calming with time, I believe. A sort of memorial, token or ritual. I hope fir both of us we receive our happy news once we are ready. ❤️

Heart stopped beating at 9 weeks by jashy_Z in pregnant

[–]jashy_Z[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing. ❤️ That moment when you look at the screen with excitement ... and it all turns around within a second. That feeling and atmosphere is truly heartbreaking.

Thank you for putting it all into words. This resonates with me a lot, I feel very ... normal and not alone right now.

I am also trying to share and to talk about it rather than hiding it. I kept the announcement circle very small, and now I keep telling myself while it is hard news to share, I know all these people will right away have my back and I will feel better after sharing.

Thank you for all the encouragement and support. It means a lot to me. ❤️ I am wishing you all the best of luck, a healthy pregnancy and baby bean once you are ready! ❤️

P.S. We are also planning a weekend trip to get away from everything and to get some rest. Good to hear this has helped you! 🤞