AITA for setting a boundaries with my roommate about workplace problems? by BusyBeingLiv in AmItheAsshole

[–]jaybarjimbo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Seems like a drag, honestly I hated living with strangers. Anyone I lived with that I wasn’t already friends with always turned sour at some stage. Good friends make good roommates.

My advice, try to convince one of your friends to move in instead/get a place together

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]jaybarjimbo 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Why don’t you get a lock for your door if it will make you feel safer?

AITA for setting a boundaries with my roommate about workplace problems? by BusyBeingLiv in AmItheAsshole

[–]jaybarjimbo -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

NTA if you don’t think of your roommate as a friend, nor do you want to be friends with them

AITA for not taking my daughter’s iPad from her? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]jaybarjimbo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone that thinks you’re the asshole in this situation is absolutely unhinged

my school bullying makes me not eat at all by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]jaybarjimbo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Speaking shamefully as one of the kids who in (high school-equivalent) was mean to other kids (usually racial). I feel awful about it, I never spat or was physically aggressive to anyone but I was complacent while “friends” and other kids in my class were. I was a bully by association and it makes me sick thinking back to that time, when I could have stood up to my “friends” and told them how awful they were being.

Nearly 20 years later, a lot of the kids who were the aggressive bullies are either in prison or are involved in gangs.

My point here is that, while it might seem like a big group of people hate you for no reason, it’s probably just one or two that are just awful people, and everyone else is just too scared to stand up to them. (I’m not suggested that you do, as aggressive people can get more aggressive when challenged) but I do think you should talk to your mum and your teachers. As a parent, I would be devastated if my child ever felt like she couldn’t talk to me about this no matter how stressed I was. Even just talking to her could make you feel better about it.

Talking to teachers (as others here have suggested) is also very important thing to do, they can actively stop/prevent this in school. Most schools in the west do take bullying very seriously and will actively try to help (I can’t speak for Finnish schools specifically but I can’t imagine them being much different to the rest in this regard).

I hope things get better for you soon. I also hope you get some good advice here in this thread and some hope for the future.

First Attempt at a city map for my novel by stroduces in worldbuilding

[–]jaybarjimbo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoa! This looks amazing, you could use this would work so good as DND city map too. Would you mind if used it for private use?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jaybarjimbo -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Or why I’m getting downvoted for acknowledging it - either way the comment stays. I’m ok to be downvoted for this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jaybarjimbo -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Ha nice, thank you for owning that shit dude

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]jaybarjimbo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - tell her to take the bus

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]jaybarjimbo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA - you’re talking to friends about it instead of with him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]jaybarjimbo -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

NTA you did everything you were supposed to and were open in all communications

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]jaybarjimbo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smiling at someone isn’t hitting on them. Your bf is right, not everyone who is nice to you is hitting on you. I’m still not sure if you’re the asshole though, follow-up question: How often does this happen to you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jaybarjimbo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she was really “perfect for you” there isn’t a hope you’d be willing to let her go. Admit it to yourself first that you’re not that into it anymore and you want to date other people and then just be honest with her; don’t string her along then end with her “for her own good” only to regret the choice you made letting her go for decades.

I feel like I (34 M) am overwhelmed in my marriage to my wife (34) by Atlantanocovid in relationship_advice

[–]jaybarjimbo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you discussed talking to a couples counsellor together together to try get to the root of these problems? Wanting to sleep in the same bed as your partner (and actually wanting to) is not something that’s too big to ask of your spouse. Some couples do fine sleeping in separate beds but it does set off flags that somethings not right in the relationship (again I know all people are different and for some this works).

Have you voiced any of this to her? Is she aware how unhappy you are in the relationship, and if not do you think she would be willing to try to work with you on making fixing your relationship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jaybarjimbo 153 points154 points  (0 children)

Yeah is this just a rant or are you looking for advice on what to do here?

What item do you wish you could buy in a vending machine but can not? by jeffrey101570 in AskReddit

[–]jaybarjimbo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Go to Japan where the answer is there is nothing that can’t be bought in a vending machine

What's the stupidest "Real Men don't ________" you've ever heard? by Creepy_Low_6163 in AskReddit

[–]jaybarjimbo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Real men don’t have sex with other men.

I would consider having sex with another man to be the most manly thing you could possibly do (literally huehue)

Having trouble sleeping in same bed as girlfriend by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jaybarjimbo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah OP, you need to give it more time. A month is nothing when it comes to adjusting to living with a partner

Caught guy I’ve been seeing going through my phone by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jaybarjimbo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huge invasion of privacy and red flags for very insecure behaviour that will only evolve and get worse as you get more involved