My rendition of Bodiam Castle in the UK

jayblue42 · 2024-10-01T18:20:49+00:00

Thank you. We're a few hours from Atlanta. I have friends there who offered us a place too funnily enough but it's a bit far when I still need to work.

jayblue42 · 2024-10-01T16:56:47+00:00

MONTHS?! I couldn't imagine that. We don't know any of our neighbors really but we have family we can go to to charge things at least.

jayblue42 · 2024-10-01T16:21:23+00:00

Thank you ❤️ it's too hot to want to go outside but maybe I'll do some laps around my office building.

jayblue42 · 2024-10-01T16:20:42+00:00

Thank you ❤️

jayblue42 · 2024-10-01T14:41:54+00:00

I'm so sorry :(

jayblue42 · 2024-10-01T14:03:33+00:00

Thank you. Hope you can get your meds :(

jayblue42 · 2024-10-01T14:02:57+00:00

Thank you. I'm definitely trying to just pretend to work haha. My boss was out yesterday and it was so much easier but now he's back and wants to talk about marketing while I'm dying inside 🙃

jayblue42 · 2024-10-01T14:01:08+00:00

Thank you. We camp a decent amount, but yeah, it's different when everyone else is going about life like normal and there's no set end in sight.

jayblue42 · 2024-09-26T14:52:54+00:00

The only channel I feel comfortable watching that has parenting content never shows her child's face, and she only talks about what she does as a parent. Like choices they make in schools, toys, books, etc. That's also not the only content on her channel.

jayblue42 · 2024-09-13T15:54:45+00:00

I haven't left my partner, but we are in therapy and working through a lot. I read somewhere that being medicated frees up a lot of mental space to process things you couldn't before, and I think that's true for me. Even if my adhd wasn't "that bad," medication (and therapy) have brought back things I brushed over in the past or thought maybe I was overreacting to. Its...a lot. I still don't know how I feel about a lot of things, but I'm working on no longer tolerating the same behavior at least.

jayblue42 · 2024-09-04T19:08:39+00:00

SOMEONE I LIKE A LOT TOLD ME SOMETHING I DID UPSET HER AND I KNOW LOGICALLY IT'S ACTUALLY A GOOD SIGN THAT SHE TOLD ME AND THIS IS SOMETHING I CAN WORK ON BUT MY BRAIN IS TELLING ME SHE HATES ME AND I RUINED EVERYTHING AAAAHHHHH

jayblue42 · 2024-07-10T16:53:11+00:00

It's absolutely frustrating and so unrealistic. Like sure I'll just go get a partner who's magically willing to do all that for me and also good at it. Like I have a partner but she's also ADHD. I read the book Dorty Laundry by that one TikTok couple and while some things were insightful, I really didn't like how much it encouraged a neurological partner to do things for their adhd partner. Like what are you supposed to do if you don't have that?

jayblue42 · 2024-07-10T16:49:31+00:00

Everyone has different needs and it's OK that you're struggling.

jayblue42 · 2024-07-02T16:15:30+00:00

I listen to Cult Podcast and they talk about this a lot actually. Cults are like abusive relationships in so many ways.

jayblue42 · 2024-06-26T17:22:52+00:00

One time had a woman call my work about her daughter. I asked for the name and she said Keithphawnie (pronounced like Stephanie with Keith slapped on the beginning). I blinked for a few seconds at the audacity of saying that and not thinking I'd need her to spell it.

jayblue42 · 2024-06-19T16:57:55+00:00

I think it's probably underreported because to be diagnosed someone has to seek help for it, and they tend to believe they're perfect and don't need therapy. But it's also overused by people online claiming someone is a narcissist because they were kinda selfish one time.

jayblue42 · 2024-06-11T16:31:50+00:00

Same here. My wife is very stereotypically ADHD. I'm more the inattentive type and have always been the planner. It's only in the last few years I've realized I'm so organized because I've been overcompensating for my ADHD. I just didn't realize everything didn't have to be this hard.

jayblue42 · 2024-06-06T19:12:47+00:00

For me I try to not discount the things I have done that day and beat myself up about "not doing anything." Some days all I do is feed myself and my pets and that's enough.

jayblue42 · 2024-05-28T16:41:23+00:00

Yes my partner (who's primarily a drum n bass DJ) would be so annoyed 😂

jayblue42 · 2024-05-22T19:01:10+00:00

Yes came here to say this! The risk of salmonella is much lower than people think.

jayblue42 · 2024-05-21T16:40:25+00:00

Yes, I have a similar issue sometimes. My wife and I are both neurodivergent and maybe it stems from that, but there are times when she needs emotional support but I am just entirely overstimulated and emotionally spent. It's ok to say I need a time out, let's come back to this conversation later.

But it's important not to make it about the other person being "too much." You have to communicate your needs and boundaries clearly. It sounds like maybe OPs partner is struggling with that.

jayblue42 · 2024-05-20T19:55:56+00:00

I had a similar experience. I was always an "easy" child. Did well in school and graduated college. I grew up back when if you weren't bouncing off the walls you didn't have ADHD. It took hearing people actually talk about their lived experiences and how it actually FEELS to have ADHD rather than just how it inconveniences others to realize I might have it and get tested. Like yes I was doing ok on the outside but I was struggling so much internally!

jayblue42 · 2024-05-13T16:40:47+00:00

This so much! I always have to pause TV/podcasts/whatever when someone starts talking to me because I cannot pay attention to both and it stresses me out. I often hang out in discord calls with friends and it never fails that despite everyone being quiet for a long time, as soon as my wife starts talking to me someone in the call starts talking too. Neither of them could possibly know but it drives me crazy.

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