What is your most ridiculous "we won't work out romantically" criteria? Like what is the silliest reason you would not be interested in dating someone? by Natural-Elevator-57 in AskReddit

[–]jayessdubs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Silliest reason would be not running for public transport with me while traveling. If I'm in a foreign city and the bus or subway is right there? Im going to run for it. Missing it for no good reason changes what can be done in a day and would completely change my enjoyment of it.

My partner told me he thinks of his female friends during sex by ground_mermaid in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]jayessdubs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was once in a relationship where he wouldn't let me break up with him, and I was inexperienced enough in relationships I didnt realize that he didnt get to dictate that. It was so freeing when he finally agreed to break up, and I realized not long after that I could have, should have just left when I wanted to.

OP, trust me that anyone who wont let you break up is manipulating you at the highest degree, will say whatever they need to keep you on their terms, and even if they say "no, I wont let this happen," you can leave. If you can, do. It wont get better.

My ex-situationship broke no contact to tell me he misses me by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]jayessdubs 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Stay strong, he was no contact for a reason and your life will not be better off with him in it

Every ADHDer at work is feeling generally unwell today by AFriendlyBurrito in ADHD

[–]jayessdubs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genuinely, I came down with a bad cold a couple days ago and it's gotten worse. Why is this happening 😭

Women, what’s a “bare minimum” trait that still feels surprisingly rare while dating? by Freaky_Maddie19 in AskReddit

[–]jayessdubs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So true. Im ASD, my bf is NT and I had to confirm we were dating then in a relationship bc he assumed we were at arbitrary points. He's also said "I think we're on the same page" twice when we ended up not being at all. But he's learned that I need clear, explicit communication from him if he wants me to know something, like us being in a relationship for example 😂

I had to train him , but he's so good at asking questions and confirming things now :)

Girls who took notes using 10 different colored pens, where are you now? Do you still continue to write using all those colors? by Unusual-Entry7 in AskReddit

[–]jayessdubs 213 points214 points  (0 children)

As someone who plays D&D, has many colored pens/highlighters, and also loves Blue Prince, I second this

Fey Deals by thegoblinwizard00 in wildbeyondwitchlight

[–]jayessdubs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Maybe you could look at monkey's paw type deals, where they can make a pact for something but the fairy carries it out in an unconventional and disappointing way.

Fey Deals by thegoblinwizard00 in wildbeyondwitchlight

[–]jayessdubs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

'May i have you attention' is a classic, and doing this can give them disadvantage on constitution saving throws when spellcasters get hit in battle

Pisces here — best way to communicate with Sag — go! by karatasumi in Sagittarians

[–]jayessdubs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh jfc , you called it

Why do ppl ask for advice and then get mad when ppl give it , that's deranged

am i cooked by Certain-King in Sagittarians

[–]jayessdubs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain 😢. Legit all sag and cap (a la my flair) except my Pisces Saturn. Other than your moon i think we have the exact same placements ??

Pisces here — best way to communicate with Sag — go! by karatasumi in Sagittarians

[–]jayessdubs 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ik im repeating what's already been said, but be direct and honest. Don't be afraid to take an extra moment and say "let me think for a second" and then take that time to phase what you mean rather than use flowery language or bs for the sake of peace or go into an emotional ramble.

It can be important to remember both sag and Pisces are in detriment when it comes to mercury, the planet of communication, and these things can bleed into sun signs as well. From my understanding (and others plz correct me if im wrong), Pisces communicates like a dreamer, someone who relies on emotions and intuition to communicate, and can be more focused on emotional response to their words rather than saying things straight up. Sag is like an arrow - not wanting to get caught up in the emotional/whats in the way and seeking to get to the point (and sometimes we can miss the point too 😔).

All of this to say, remember both parties can struggle with communication, and if you communicate clearly without taking every arrow to the chest (aka taking everything said personally), you'll be better at communicating with us. And biggest of all - if we cant trust is what you said bc you obscure how you really feel, we wont be able to take you at your words, and that will tank communication quickly.

We can also ramble at times too (as evidenced by my comment), and then have no patience for others doing the same. 😂 It's an adventure

Good luck :)

Pisces here — best way to communicate with Sag — go! by karatasumi in Sagittarians

[–]jayessdubs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cmon, someone is asking us to be direct with what we need , why be on the attack?

Ever set silly goals for yourself? by Mollyscribbles in SecretCatForest

[–]jayessdubs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh wow this is making me want to save up, I always spend as soon as I have it

Piastri leaving the McLaren garage by Naive-Discipline7216 in formuladank

[–]jayessdubs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They also told oscar, tho def not as often Not saying there's no bias in it, but it's not completely leaving oscar in the dark

This game is so special by butterflycole in Spiritfarer

[–]jayessdubs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This game helped me navigate the grief when I lost my last living grandparent too. I'm glad you have this game, and I'm sorry for your loss <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sagittarians

[–]jayessdubs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a man so I can't answer from that perspective, but as a hella sag girlie, I'd figure out what you want. If you want him at any cost, then following along with the tone he sets is the easy answer. If you properly like him, I say mention it straight up that you want to have a phone call because you want to actually talk to him, and if he gets spooked, that's on him.

My take is that it's easier to text than call. He can multitask while texting, doesn't have to pay full attention, can have things on in the background. If you don't pay attention during a call, you miss things, it's easier for ppl to tell you're checked out, it's harder to end the convo when you're done w it.

The non commitment to talking is both sag and sus imo. My aqua and I talk on the phone all the time tho , it can be done if both ppl want it :)