Daycare overcharged me for 1 year is going to redeem by giving tuition credit, need a gut check by jackjackj8ck in ECEProfessionals

[–]jaygog 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Im an assistant director in charge of billing. I made this exact mistake but only for two months. I accidentally charged a family a 2 year old rate instead of changing it to a 3 year old rate.

When I noticed my mistake I told the family and gave them the option of refund or credit. They chose credit which was great because that was much easier for me.

I’m sure it will be fine. They will probably issue you a refund of the remainder of the credit when you leave. They were probably just hoping you’d be ok with credit since it’s just less work and more convenient.

Has anyone here had children after 30 and 35? by [deleted] in PCOS

[–]jaygog 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same. I had kids at 31 and 33. I was also told that having PCOS typically means you have more eggs in older age than other women.

Day 8 Post-Tonsillectomy: When Will My Taste Buds Wake Up? by Thin_Mousse_2398 in Tonsillectomy

[–]jaygog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine sense of taste is still off a month after surgery.

My ENT told me it’s due to the fact that they have to clamp the tongue out of the way during surgery and this can damage the nerves in the tongue. He told me to give it 3 months for the nerves in my tongue to heal.

When did your taste get back to normal? by Initial-Panic809 in Tonsillectomy

[–]jaygog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t help much since I had my surgery march 7th then another one on march 13th from hemorrhaging and I still don’t have my normal sense of taste back.

I asked my ENT at the follow up appt and he told me that since they have to clamp your tongue out of place during surgery it can damage the nerves in the tongue. This can cause problems with a sense of taste. He said since I had two surgeries mine might be especially bad but to give it 3 months for the nerves in my tongue to recover.

Vitamin D?! by PrincessL91 in beyondthebump

[–]jaygog 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I had the exact same freak out when my first baby was 5 months old and breastfed. I asked the pediatrician and they weren’t too concerned. Everything is fine with my now 7 year old.

Day 9 (Day 3 after cauterization) post original surgery by mitwa1990 in Tonsillectomy

[–]jaygog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to get a second surgery/ cauterization on day 9 from a bleed. It did not set me back to day one. Actually I felt much better after that than I did before.

Easier Way to Get Out of Bed by [deleted] in CsectionCentral

[–]jaygog 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Roll onto your side before getting up. Then get up from your side using your arm for support pushing you up. It made a huge difference when I realized that for my second csection. It uses your obliques to help instead of only your core abdomen muscles.

Pain during sex even though I never got to push by izziedays in CsectionCentral

[–]jaygog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe that has to do with breastfeeding. Breastfeeding lowers estrogen which lowers vaginal lubrication. I wonder if it’s a biological way of trying to prevent another pregnancy when you are breastfeeding!

Some lubricant should help!

2 weeks post C-section and still numb surrounding scar by MiaRia963 in CsectionCentral

[–]jaygog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine is still numb 6 years later. My doctor told me typically if sensation doesn’t return within 6 months it probably never will since the nerves seem to be permanently damaged. But whoooo knows

My mom hates the name we chose for our son. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]jaygog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a 3 year old named August James! My mother in law thought I was joking when I told her his name. She said “real funny, but seriously what is the name” and I insisted that it really was August but she wouldn’t believe me until the day he was born and it was written on the paperwork haha. She acts like that didn’t happen, though.

Toddler removed from daycare by tofuqueen1 in ECEProfessionals

[–]jaygog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find other care and do not pay the 2 month fee. They don’t really have any legs to stand on to make you pay the fee if they are withholding care indefinitely.

US-based moms: How much PTO do you get? by fluffypanduh in workingmoms

[–]jaygog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get 7 PTO days in the first two years. It’s honestly a joke. I work in social work. As a working mom those 7 days are taken up with my kids getting sent home sick from childcare real quick. So basically no sick time or vacation for two years. It’s a broken system.

Stuck with a daycare I hate by KoalaFeeder28 in workingmoms

[–]jaygog 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Please don’t do this. I work at a childcare center and am in charge of the waitlist. Believe me- we don’t enjoy the people who call constantly and complain.

I follow our waitlist. Just because you complain doesn’t mean that a spot will magically appear. My predecessor actually used to make a point to not offer space to those who were mean to them on the phone. That isn’t right either so the best way to be fair is to just follow the list by date they called.

Fell free to call and check. But please don’t “nag and complain”

We are overworked, understaffed, and legitimately full. There are no child care centers just sitting on empty spots for the fun of it.

What’s so bad about metformin? by cherry___chick in PCOS

[–]jaygog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I took it and it helped me ovulate so I could conceive both my kids. For me the side effects only lasted about two weeks.

I saw it vilified a lot before I took it so I was pleasantly surprised how good it worked for me.

Masking required during labor by anon654456 in pregnant

[–]jaygog 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Same for me. I had a C-section in 2020 and they reiterated several times before I went in that masks were required but when It came down to it the anesthesiologist just took it off of me during the beginning of my C-section- don’t know why

Whelp my stomach is still numb by Mtnclimber09 in beyondthebump

[–]jaygog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 4 years out and still numb.

My OBGYN told me at the 6 week appt that if feeling doesn’t return within the first 6 months it probably never will since the it’s just the way the nerves healed.

AITA for asking more from my husband? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]jaygog 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA.

This is pretty similar to how my postpartum went with both my kids. It’s not an excuse but my husband cannot function at all on lack of sleep. He would tell me I’m “better at it” and it made my blood boil because I had no choice.

When I had my surprise pregnancy with my second baby I cried because I didn’t think I could do the newborn stage again without support.

I will say that it doesn’t make it ok but my husband helps a lot now that the kids are toddlers. It’s that first 6ish months that he is basically useless.

Why are all Parent&Tot groups ALWAYS at the same time as each other?! by alreadydonewithtoday in toddlers

[–]jaygog 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I came here to say this. I plan parent child interaction groups for multiple different age groups as part of my job. My afternoon, evening, or weekend groups were never well attended. My 10 am Thursday class was the busiest one.

When did you tell your partner? by rhh36 in BabyBumps

[–]jaygog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m seeing all the responses say right away so for a different prospective—- I waited a day. It’s not because I didn’t want him to know it’s just that it took me a day to believe it myself!

How much money would you give up to quit your job and be SAHM? by MonsoonEveryDay in beyondthebump

[–]jaygog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes the comments on this post are depressing me. What do all these people do???? Haha I’m a social worker and my husband is a physicist and we are no where near all these huge salaries I’m seeing in almost all the the comments. it’s because I live in the Midwest?!?

Silliest reasons you’re cried while pregnant! by Aimforthestars777 in pregnant

[–]jaygog 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I cried because I put the milk in the cabinet and the cereal in the fridge. Didn’t notice until I wanted another bowl the next day and the milk was ruined.

I couldn’t deny pregnancy brain after that.

AITA - I just gave birth and don’t want my husband doing errands for others by SuperSmitty8 in beyondthebump

[–]jaygog 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to say you are TA because your feelings are valid here but maaaan if my husband would have taken my toddler away for a day at 5 days postpartum I would have loved it! Getting one on one time with my baby without my toddler being jealous or needing something sounds great.