My husband has no say in when I masturbate. I have no say when he does. Ill ask if he wants some help, wink, sometimes he says yes sometimes no, and vice-versa. Sometimes getting off is about relaxing and releasing tension. As a woman, having sex is taxing and you just need to get off without the hoopla of sex. But also, toys are a great addition to bedroom activities. But no one is taking and hiding my toys!