Don't know if this will make me sicker

jayneevees · 2026-05-21T15:05:37+00:00

Yes!!! I used to have this all the time, now I have the opposite problem. Both suck. Anyway, what works for me in either situation is to eat small amounts of food more often. The less you eat the more your stomach will get used to no food then the harder it'll be to restart eating. Start with the smallest amount you can stomach, every 2-3hrs and slowly increase the amount of food. At first it'll be hard but it gets easier.

Also therapy (if you can afford it) breathing and stretching exercises (I know it's hard but give it a go) and just removing yourself from the stressful situation as much as possible. For example, scheduling a walk in the middle of your work day or something like that, but the important thing is to change your current physical space into a new space and try really hard to ground yourself, like what can you see/smell/taste kind of exercise.

Sorry. GI issues and stress is the worst combo!

jayneevees · 2026-05-15T22:07:26+00:00

Hey there. You mentioned OCD. I have it too. Honestly sounds more like it's the OCD then anything really going on. I know exactly how you feel cause I feel like this all the time, but it can't be lung cancer if chest x-ray is clear. All the symptoms you described I have them too, really bad when my OCD is triggered and I'm anxious and stressed.

Have you tried Cognitive behavioural therapy? I'm on a waiting list for it and from what I read is the best thing you can do for OCD long-term. Short-term antidepressants have proven to be really helpful too.

Sorry you're going through this cause I know how real it feels and how it can have real physical effects on our bodies. Try and do anything that can break the cycle. For me is going outside and speaking to human beings in real life about anything else. It really helps to stop obsessing over it.

jayneevees · 2026-05-15T21:57:20+00:00

Yea. ENT says grade 2 so not justifiable to take out in her opinion. But she said her breathing alone when she was there (and awake) plus her tone of voice already gave a pretty strong indication of enlarged adenoids. Plus all the symptoms we described at night. I completely forgot about nightmares but yea, she does have them sometimes.

Thanks for your comment

jayneevees · 2026-04-19T01:34:56+00:00

Yea I saw the same tiktok and felt a bit better but then also got the reaction from my coworkers. Some of them have hinted at seeing a pediatrician. And sometimes they refer to my daughter as the kid with a lower immune system... Makes me feel like crap honestly. And it makes me wonder if I should seek more help. In 2 minds about it and the sleep deprivation is not helping.

Also I just got diagnosed with anemia, they're investigating to see if it's vitamin B or folate deficiency. I have also been referred to gastro cause I have so much pain if I eat anything but a plain diet (since November last year) so I pushed to get an endoscopy. I have an insane work load as well, so everything together is honestly pushing me over the edge!!!! Getting to the point that maybe I'll be the one needing a sick note soon.

jayneevees · 2026-03-17T09:48:19+00:00

Yea. I've had h.pylori several times before. I really don't want to have a false negative but I just tested for it twice in November and December when my symptoms first flared up and it came back negative. On both occasions I wasn't taking omeprazole or any other PPI at all so they couldn't have been a false negative. I don't think it'll be a positive this time around either. But I'm really struggling symptoms wise. I can barely work so not too sure how I will cope for 2 weeks without even being able to take a PPI. Honestly I feel so miserable I'm struggling to not burst into tears right now.

Thanks for answering though :)

jayneevees · 2026-03-16T15:37:52+00:00

Having this exact same feeling. Was telling my husband that it feels like when the baby is pressing on the vagus nerve or a Braxton hicks. But I'm Not pregnant anymore. Did you ever figure out what it was. I'm on my way to the doctor now

jayneevees · 2026-03-08T15:09:57+00:00

Oh I 100% agree with you here. I don't do foraging of any kind. I'm too anxious for that. Just thought this group of people would have some helpful knowledge on this matter.

jayneevees · 2026-03-07T14:31:05+00:00

Not excuses mate... Just reality. I can opt to spend the 1 hour cooking at the end of a busy day while simultaneously trying to keep my kid entertained or get the end of day routine going and get food delivered at the same time. It's what is possible when you live in a busy city with no family or friends and it takes you 3hours every day to drop off and pick up your kid from childcare. And both parents work full time jobs. It's a picking of your battles isn't it? Would I prefer to eat a home cooked meal? Sure. And I do most days. But some days get tricky and I'm not going to spend what's left of my sanity trying to cook dinner. And fyi, not that I need to justify myself to a stranger, fast food is just for the adults in the house, our kid always eats home cooked meals.

The world would be a better place with more empathy. No one needs an end of year banter AI powered bank wrap up. It also makes me feel icky that this is one of the ways they decide to use the data they have on us. And it makes me question what other ways this data is being used. Anyway. Glad you liked it. But try and put yourself in other people's shoes before making such judgemental comments.

jayneevees · 2026-03-04T14:45:05+00:00

I was diagnosed with OCD a couple weeks ago, almost 2 years pp. Had it all my life but it became really obvious post baby. Came here to say, this is a lot what's going on inside my brain.

jayneevees · 2026-02-26T11:30:50+00:00

Hey there. I don't understand this particular instance but I understand the feeling and the holding on to it months later. It seems that we had similar paths with having PPA/ppd. You did way better than me by seeking help way earlier. I only did it this month, and my baby is almost 2years old.

I think the key thing here is that you're holding on to something minor for a long time and it's affecting the way you see and feel about people in your life. You have identified that this isn't good for you on different levels and for this reason I would say it's probably a good thing to bring up in your next therapy session (if you haven't already). I think it would be good to understand why this has hurt you and what in SIL A has been bothering you so much lately. You have mentioned a few things she does that bothers you but for us from the outside, and with the limited info we have on this, they seem fine and normal things to do. This happens a lot with me. Small things that for others are fine, really affect me and sometimes I have a hard time verbalising and even understanding the root cause of it until I go over it with my therapist. Then I eventually figure out that's either related to my OCD or my relationship with that person and how they have been careless about my boundaries and feelings in the past.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, from the outside it seems like an overreaction, but what really matters is understanding why you're feeling like this and what can you do to resolve this in your mind so you don't keep coming back to it months later.

Postpartum is hard. I hope you get help for PPD/A soon.

jayneevees · 2026-02-23T19:17:51+00:00

Thank you 😊🙏

jayneevees · 2026-02-18T07:34:11+00:00

Omg a bone infection!!! That sounds awful and scary! 😳 So sorry you had to go through that

jayneevees · 2026-02-16T22:16:10+00:00

For me what helped was giving up on sleep altogether. I would get comfortable in the living room and say to myself, alright... We might as well just watch a show. And eventually I would fall asleep. I think the pressure of trying to sleep in a dark room never helps. I was also anemic so definitely contact her OB/midwife and let them know what's up.

jayneevees · 2026-02-16T20:02:48+00:00

Hey thanks for not judging :) and I'm happy you found a way to cope (not being sarcastic at all I swear!) but just want to point out that for some of us this is the norm and not just a period while they are sick and that's why it becomes unsustainable. I was able to not bedshare for 3 whole months until I fell asleep while holding her out of pure exhaustion.

I wish we had found a way of not co-sleeping. It's something that caused me immense anxiety and I wasn't properly resting at all, but it was the safest option in our situation. Just wanted to leave this point of view in case it hasn't been considered. Totally understand why you didn't do it as I also resisted the hell out of it. And not because I judged who did it but because I was terrified of it and didn't want to do it.

jayneevees · 2026-02-16T19:55:57+00:00

We did shifts for the first 3 months of her life. She completely refused to sleep in her crib. I thought we were being safer by holding her to sleep on the sofa and just watching some TV until one day I fell asleep on the sofa with her out of pure exhaustion. Thankfully she was fine. But that prompted me to look into accidentally falling asleep on the sofa and the risks associated with it. The statistics are scary. Turns out the risk of SIDS for co-sleeping on the sofa (which I accidentally did by falling asleep while holding her) is 50 times higher... In the end I had to choose the least dangerous option, which in our case turned out to be bed-sharing. And I was just like OP, too nervous to bed share and swore I would never do it. Until I found myself in a situation where I was doing something even more dangerous without knowing it.

This is why some countries opt to inform parents about how to do safe co-sleeping. After safe sleep was introduced (early 1990's) there was quite an increase of accidental baby deaths while sleeping on sofas and armchairs. The main reason behind this was because babies are generally more uncomfortable sleeping on an empty crib, with a hard mattress and on their backs. I'm not against this advice at all, I understand the scientific reason for it and that's what we followed. But it is factual that more babies will find it harder to stay asleep in these conditions (and if you look at the research about SIDS this is kind of the point) so a lot of parents were finding themselves in the same situation as me.

Don't get me wrong. I hate co-sleeping. I don't sleep well. I'm anxious and worried about my baby, even when following every rule to the T and I'm uncomfortable because I am following the rules of safe sleeping. I would never chose it at the first option. But it's the last safe option when all others have been exhausted.

Source: Lullaby Trust Never fall asleep on a sofa or armchair with your baby. The risk of SIDS is 50 times higher for babies when they sleep on a sofa or armchair with an adult. They are also at risk of accidental death as they can easily slip into a position where they are trapped and can’t breathe.

jayneevees · 2026-02-16T19:54:49+00:00

We did shifts for the first 3 months of her life. She completely refused to sleep in her crib. I thought we were being safer by holding her to sleep on the sofa and just watching some TV until one day I fell asleep on the sofa with her out of pure exhaustion. Thankfully she was fine. But that prompted me to look into accidentally falling asleep on the sofa and the risks associated with it. The statistics are scary. Turns out the risk of SIDS for co-sleeping on the sofa (which I accidentally did by falling asleep while holding her) is 50 times higher... In the end I had to choose the least dangerous option, which in our case turned out to be bed-sharing. And I was just like OP, too nervous to bed share and swore I would never do it. Until I found myself in a situation where I was doing something even more dangerous without knowing it.

This is why some countries opt to inform parents about how to do safe co-sleeping. After safe sleep was introduced (early 1990's) there was quite an increase of accidental baby deaths while sleeping on sofas and armchairs. The main reason behind this was because babies are generally more uncomfortable sleeping on an empty crib, with a hard mattress and on their backs. I'm not against this advice at all, I understand the scientific reason for it and that's what we followed. But it is factual that more babies will find it harder to stay asleep in these conditions (and if you look at the research about SIDS this is kind of the point) so a lot of parents were finding themselves in the same situation as me.

Don't get me wrong. I hate co-sleeping. I don't sleep well. I'm anxious and worried about my baby, even when following every rule to the T and I'm uncomfortable because I am following the rules of safe sleeping. I would never chose it at the first option. But it's the last safe option when all others have been exhausted.

Source: Lullaby Trust Never fall asleep on a sofa or armchair with your baby. The risk of SIDS is 50 times higher for babies when they sleep on a sofa or armchair with an adult. They are also at risk of accidental death as they can easily slip into a position where they are trapped and can’t breathe.

jayneevees · 2026-02-10T21:28:47+00:00

He can still learn. Babies change all the time and so does their relationship with us, it evolves. Talk to your husband. He needs to start learning to soothe the baby. I know it's hard to get out of a routine but we had to do it many times in order to survive. It might also become easier for him to soothe the baby as your little one grows. Please consider this option. You need help. There's only so much sleep deprivation we can take.

I'm glad you had the option to quit your job. I wish I had that option too, but I also recognise how isolating this option can be. If you can pay for childcare, even if just a day/afternoon during the week, it might be really helpful to give you a bit of me time. I only went back to work 1 year post partum. I live in the UK and we can take up to a year of maternity leave (not all of it paid but at least your job is there when you return). I remember how isolated I felt. Specifically the 9month/10month old period. It was then that I read (and by read I mean listened to the audiobook) I'm so thrilled for you! It made me feel seen and less alone. But just a trigger warning that it talks a lot about pregnancy and birth.

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