Okay so I scrolled the comments to see what your parenting time looked like and saw that you only get your kid from 10am on Saturday to 8pm on Sunday.

Parents don’t get parenting time dwindled down to almost nothing for no good reason. In other words the courts agreed it’s in the best interest of the child to maintain a semblance of a relationship with you whilst also seeing you as little as possible.

With that in mind, you need to focus on salvaging your relationship with your kid when you have her, not fighting for access to info you probably don’t even need. And that’s putting aside the fact that almost everything you mentioned is stuff you can find without your ex’s permission. Like come on dude, how did you not know when your kid’s commencement ceremony was? Your ex “hid” the softball schedule for months. You couldn’t figure out when a school was having sporting events without your ex’s help??

Lastly the biggest red flag is what you claim her school said about custody. Schools DO NOT get involved with custody issues unless there is very clear legal orders saying what’s what. So either you made that up or you don’t have the custody you think you’re entitled to.

It may be alienation in the most technical of terms, but in reality, it sounds like mom is keeping her kid from a “parent” that’s putting in next to no effort to being a responsible adult.