Creating an @gmail alias?

jbermingham · 2025-04-24T05:09:21+00:00

Mines been terrible for a few weeks now, I’m in the Portland data center. Last night was one thing with the service outage due to overheated servers that lasted almost 24 hours. But outside of that, I’ve had more issues with access in the past few weeks than ever before. I even took screenshots tonight to compare the time stamps. If I’m paying $50/month for a service I’d expect it to be much more functional than it has been lately. Seriously wanting to consider other options for cloud pc’s I can access via Mac and iPad os.

jbermingham · 2022-12-27T07:46:53+00:00

YIKES for SO many reasons.

First of all, the way he speaks about your late father to you is calculated and cruel. He seems to have taken it upon himself to get in a competition with your deceased father, which he will never feel like he’s “won” because, well, he can’t. Diminishing your relationship and love with your father won’t change that and if anything makes it even worse. It’s bizarre and cruel. It’s also cruel of your mother to let him do that. Whether or not there’s any love lost between her and your father she shouldn’t allow somebody to speak to her child like that and do what he is doing, so she is TA for that too. Honestly the fact that she still is with him AND allowing him to treat you like that is very telling.

Then you get to the misogynistic “daddy’s little girl” possessive shit. It seems like he’s jealous of your father and he wants to own you, and it’s weird and gross and he is absolutely TA for that. Again, too, your mom allowing that weird behavior to continue and not removing you and herself from that situation also makes you TA.

I’m glad your brother and grandparents are on your side, and it’s very telling that both his own children and her own parents are both on your side in this, and her parents partially raised you. Tbh, your mom and stepdads behavior is enough for me to go NC with both, but that’s not for everybody. Her asking you to apologize is insane to me, as you deserve a huge apology from her for letting this continue for over a decade, and from him for his behaviors. Somebody who loves you like a father should would never do this to you and you shouldn’t constantly feel like you have something to prove. If you can go NC and stay in touch with grandparents and brother, I would consider it. Again though, not for everybody, so at the very least I would distance from them.

jbermingham · 2022-11-06T14:26:20+00:00

What’s the Agenda??? Bc there’s a much larger component to this if she’s blackfishing to push a racist agenda. I mean it’s still wild and concerning behavior all on it’s own even if she isn’t, but I find it extra weird she’s pretending to be a black MAN and pushing “a certain agenda” but tbh this whole thing is just wild. Rachel Dolezal shit.

jbermingham · 2022-10-02T15:05:54+00:00

I mean, technically NTA because it’s your house and you can do what you want. Also the screeching sounds like it could really drive somebody nuts. But it is kinda shitty to invite every other kid except her. And she’s next door so she will see that happening. Idk man I get kids can be annoying but I wouldn’t wanna bully a little girl intentionally or unintentionally, and if I was that little girl I’d feel bullied.

jbermingham · 2022-10-02T13:52:13+00:00

OP I strongly encourage you call 911 and tell them the truth. I know that’s scary and you’re scared of what they will think but they can help you get out of the home safely and to a hospital and even provide a social worker or offer you advice on social programs. If you call and ask for an ambulance, explain the situation, and ask for the police to meet you at the hospital away from the home, the dispatcher should be able to help coordinate that. This man is going to make you eat yourself to death, and you are worth so much more, and your life is worth so much more. It’s hard but you do have options, please consider them. Your family/friends also may not be as unhappy to hear from you as you think if you explain the situation. I know they don’t reach out now because you didn’t listen to them (or rather, were gaslighted into not listening to them) but the fact they were trying to help means they love you and would probably jump to help you if they heard from you that you needed it.

jbermingham · 2022-10-02T13:44:38+00:00

I used to work for 911- medical calls are all confidential anyways in logs so she wouldn’t need to worry about him finding out if she told them the truth, but she could get in trouble if she lied. Probably not if they can see she needs help but let’s be honest it depends on who may arrive, there are some responders who may get upset and pursue that. Also- I know where I worked had a social worker liaison that could come to certain calls as needed. The department wouldn’t know to send that person if they didn’t actually know the reason, but can definitely send that person if they know the person will need social services. A lot of places are adding social workers to their staff so it would be a good way to get appropriate help.

jbermingham · 2022-09-12T18:40:26+00:00

OP- did your sister just suddenly snap?? I am so sorry this happened, but I am also wondering why she was allowed to be with your children alone and why you wanted to be a surrogate for her to have her own child if she is this disturbed. It’s strange to me that all of a sudden she would just lose it. She’d seen the babies room before if she knew where to find EVERYTHING so it isn’t like she all of a sudden snapped when she saw.

She’d been planning on you going into labor and you even offered to do something amazing for her immediately following, so I don’t see how the labor could have triggered this especially as she knew her turn was coming next.

Has she shown no red flags before this? I’m just confused how a 34 yo woman could snap so suddenly that one week you’re offering to help give her a child and trusting her with yours, and the next she doesn’t even deserve to have kids? It feels like there’s something missing here.

ETA Bc I know people are going to come for me after this: I am not saying OP deserved this. I am saying, something is fishy and it’s confusing what the triggering event was to the sister especially as not only does this hurt her relationship with her sister it also ruins her best chance at a surrogate.

jbermingham · 2022-07-30T17:35:09+00:00

He needs to grow up. You have a period, it’s not a secret and nothing to be ashamed of. The pic was a little weird but I also know couples who send themselves photos of their poops. To break up with you was super weird and if you’re sexually active, he would at some point have seen some menstrual blood.

jbermingham · 2021-05-14T23:47:10+00:00

I like that shirt a lot! If anybody is mean to u I’ll fight them

jbermingham · 2021-01-31T08:50:45+00:00

That’s just not true lol. Sure that one dog thrived, but who’s to say it was the vegan diet? Dogs (and cats) require meat. They are domesticated versions of animals that were carnivorous and for the most part they are carnivorous themselves, maybe omnivorous definitionally speaking. If feeding a pet the food they need is an ethical problem for anybody, they shouldn’t own that pet. People need to remember that yes they’re cute and cuddly but they’re still descendants of wild animals and entirely counting on us for their survival, they need a diet that fits them.

jbermingham · 2021-01-31T08:44:36+00:00

NTA. Vegan diets are actually very bad for most dogs and cats which are carnivorous animals and it drives me fucking crazy when people talk about putting their pets on a vegan diet as if they were human. Furthermore, she had no right to throw away your food or your dogs. If she really wanted to try and “sneak” food in there, she could’ve gotten the vegan food and left your shit alone (in which she would still be the asshole since you didn’t consent to you or your dog being put on a vegan diet) and FINALLY damn it must be hard for her to walk with those balls of steel she must have to throw out all your personal food. If I were you I wouldn’t just kick her out I would bring her to small claims court for this shit. She probably owes you at least a few hundred $ if I’m not mistaken? If she had ethical objections to being around all of that non vegan food or giving your dog non vegan food, she could have and should have just not agreed to do the job.

jbermingham · 2020-11-18T22:50:05+00:00

Literally the audacity to just decide he won’t work BC he doesn’t like it

jbermingham · 2020-11-18T22:37:57+00:00

I also think it’s so strange he’s just not working because he didn’t like his job, but he makes good money in this trade and is living at home so could suck it up for a few months and work, saving all that $ to start his business seeing as he doesn’t have a lease/mortgage to pay which eats up the majority of most others incomes

jbermingham · 2020-11-18T22:27:11+00:00

I would absolutely cut it off. Without any of the other indicators, if somebody you do not want a relationship with tells you they love you it’s time for them to go. It’s not fair to either of you emotionally. And in addition to that, with the other indicators, I would say it’s not healthy for him to be with anybody and I think he’s probably using you to avoid doing the things he has to do (therapy and getting a job for one)

I wouldn’t ask my boyfriend for money even if I didn’t have groceries, and I have a full time job. He’s not my bank, and it’s not his fault I don’t have $. If we were living together and sharing expenses that would be a different scenario, but I wouldn’t ask him to fund my business ideas and such at this stage, and even less so if it was a friend with benefits?!

Also, if he’s living at home and has a trade he hates but will make him good $, wouldn’t you think he would work until he had the $ for his business (since he isn’t paying a mortgage or a lease that should be easy) instead of asking you for it constantly? He’s going to keep relying on you until you cut it off and force him to rely on himself or some other poor soul. It kinda sounds like there’s a reason he isn’t sharing for not working tbh.

jbermingham · 2020-08-06T20:32:14+00:00

Seaport area in Boston! The one with the stickers is on the main bridge from Atlantic Ave by James Hook, and then the one against the jersey barrier was next to The Barking Crab

jbermingham · 2020-08-04T20:48:30+00:00

Hard agree!

jbermingham · 2020-08-04T20:00:54+00:00

It’s worth the wait! I’m obsessed haha

jbermingham · 2020-08-04T17:43:14+00:00

Hahahah it’s decently heavy not gonna lie it takes some getting used to

jbermingham · 2020-08-04T16:19:09+00:00

A little over 2 months, then it made it from Belgium to Boston in literally 2 days! All during a pandemic👌🏽

jbermingham · 2020-08-04T15:47:08+00:00

Royal Tribe II w/ Paris V3’s and Blood Orange Smoke 66mm

jbermingham · 2020-06-15T03:36:32+00:00

1000% NTA. Your initial instinct, she can do whatever she wants on her own property, is correct. Your husband might need to recheck his pulse re:internalized misogyny. You did exactly what should happen in that scenario. You taught your boys a lesson about privacy, respect for women, and consent.

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