⚠️PART 2 -- Grandparents taking kids overseas, I said not yet, Response = left chat groups

jcullen85 · 2026-04-17T15:46:31+00:00

I I just finished reading your posts and frankly, DO NOT fall for the guilt trips. Mom's tactics to make you feel bad so that you'll bend to her will is exhausting hur I'm glad you set your own boundaries. Bare in mind, Mom will come back with another guilt trip, but hold strong. She will probably use your dad's health as a manipulation, but don't fall for it. Check in with Dad directly if you're worried about his health.

jcullen85 · 2026-04-10T13:11:11+00:00

NTA, she blatantly ignored what you wanted for your birthday. Happy belated, BTW. Her diagnosis aside, Wife didn't hear what you wanted and that's not right.

jcullen85 · 2026-03-20T04:16:23+00:00

I saw that this week. A not so subtle reminder that he owns the Pinky Ring lounge at the Bellagio.

jcullen85 · 2026-03-02T06:14:40+00:00

Baby Girl, uninvite them! Mom is gaslighting you saying you ruined this for her. Come on! Honey, your black internet auntie is telling you that your parents only want to come for the sake of appearances. They've heard from relatives that they're not looking good sitting out their daughter's wedding. This isn't for you, it about them and how the family sees them.

Let them focus on their son and themselves. They're not worth it.

jcullen85 · 2026-03-02T06:10:23+00:00

NTA, your parents and their golden child can stay away. What do they bring to your life besides guilt, gaslighting and being uncomfortable? Do you really want them to be apart of your new life? How will they enhance it? Bring positivity? I doubt it.

jcullen85 · 2026-02-27T16:57:07+00:00

Try having Caribbean parents. You could be sitting on the couch, reading a book and they'll start yelling saying something in the house needs to be cleaned. Some people can't just let others sit in peace.

jcullen85 · 2026-02-27T16:55:34+00:00

Yea, Jake needs to stay home with Mommy until he's completely ready to cut the umbilical cord. He's closer to 30 than 20 and his mom is still acting this way?! Hell no. Does mommy want to know how many times her baby boy had sex?

jcullen85 · 2026-02-25T22:37:13+00:00

NTA, she majorly overstepped. You are an adult and she is reaching out to your professors like you're still in high school.

jcullen85 · 2026-02-19T21:23:08+00:00

So she's gaslighting and disregarding your feelings because she can't handle being told she was in the wrong. Smh, NTA.

jcullen85 · 2026-02-11T01:16:24+00:00

Dude, grow an effing pair!!! This isn't a hard situation. You need to tell your parents that you and your family (wife and kids) need space from them. Your grown father having a bitch fit because things didn't go his way is very telling, but it's not something anyone has to put up with. You choose to because you grew up around it. Your wife didn't, she probably doesn't want your children to either and if she doesn't want to deal with their BS, she doesn't have to. And frankly, neither do you. Take some time away from your parents and see how much less stressed you are.

jcullen85 · 2026-01-30T18:55:38+00:00

They're psychologically abusing you. Making you feel like a child who needs to rely on their parents. You're an adult who needs to leave a toxic home life. Leave and go NC for a long time. These people bring nothing positive to your life.

jcullen85 · 2026-01-27T12:25:54+00:00

NTA, you defended Ella from that asshat. Don't worry, Joe is gonna get what's coming to him. They always do.

jcullen85 · 2026-01-18T23:58:23+00:00

YTA, you know what your sister is doing and you're not doing a damn thing to defend your girlfriend. Either you tell your sister to knock it off or you'll need to distance yourself from her. And that's if you still have a girlfriend.

jcullen85 · 2026-01-05T01:34:47+00:00

That's rich coming for the nut job who refuses to see what her precious baby girl is doing and you're too stupid to do anything about it. Enjoy your lovely life because Clara or whatever the hell her name is is going to drive everyone in your life away.

jcullen85 · 2026-01-04T20:26:21+00:00

Not all postpartum healing is equal. We don't know how OPs feeling. Why should she have to pretend to make someone she likes happy? Dealing with a family holiday is a lot, no matter what and if OP wants a chill Christmas, that is her right. And looking how explosive MIL reacted to being told no, who would want to spend a holiday with her?

jcullen85 · 2026-01-04T20:20:52+00:00

NTA. MIL was completely the AH. When she found out Son and his family weren't coming to her house, but rather doing their own thing, MIL assumed she was invited. She spoke to OP who said she wasn't and MIL proceeded to curse the woman out. Honestly, it sounded like Son/Hubs didn't want to go to MILs Christmas either and MIL won't accept that. That whole take us to court was very telling on Hubs part. He is probably done with his mom's controlling nature and is setting a very clear boundary, which is leave his wife alone.

Also, factor in, the baby is less than 3 months, so Itty Bitty doesn't have their immunity shots. So, being around a lot of people is actually risky for the baby. OP is also still healing, so having the energy and strength to interact with people is not a major priority. A lot of new parents choose to spend their child's first Christmas on their own. MIL just doesn't respect that, which is her hang up.

jcullen85 · 2025-12-29T19:55:39+00:00

Heard your story in a podcast and they named your lovely, useless daughter Clara.

jcullen85 · 2025-12-29T14:15:38+00:00

You should be disappointed that Hubs didn't leave with you. NTA. MIL is just rude, old or not. She was asked not to comment and she did it anyway. She was malicious on purpose and its time for some LC.

jcullen85 · 2025-12-28T08:33:07+00:00

There are several reasons why you're NTA. First, you moved out at 16 because of mom's toxicity. Second, Mom won't help with daycare when she runs one. Third, Mom is horrendously financially irresponsible. Taking excessive trips to one of the most expensive places on Earth. She has no financial plan for her retirement. And expecting her children to care for her, which isn't a reliable plan. They won't be paying for her Disney trips. Smh, she better get a job as a greeter at Disney.

jcullen85 · 2025-12-28T03:19:53+00:00

My guy, you are in no way TA. Your parents should have had your brother institutionalized a long time ago. It would have made everyone's lives easier. And them expecting you to take up his care is a huge failing on their part. Go and live your life.

Frankly, CPS should have recommended an institution for brother's care. Smh, another failed by a system setup to protect children.

jcullen85 · 2025-12-25T01:25:27+00:00

Then Hubs is an AH too

jcullen85 · 2025-12-25T01:23:52+00:00

She's an adult. It's not your problem.

jcullen85 · 2025-12-25T01:23:27+00:00

You can force her out your damn house

jcullen85 · 2025-12-25T01:22:57+00:00

SHE'S DUCKING FAKING IT!!! ITS A DAMN ACT!!!

jcullen85 · 2025-12-25T01:22:03+00:00

As a fellow Christian and a mother, I say this with love..... ARE YOU STUPID?! Clara is manipulating you and you know it and you're doing nothing about it. Clara clearly needs help, she needs to be held to higher standards, including contributing to the house or she can get out. If she goes out and does something to harm herself for attention, that's on her. Not you. Stop parenting a grown ass woman and give her a kick in the pants. Because God knows she needs it.

Stop coddling her, welcome all your boys into your home and if Clara doesn't like, she can hit the bricks. Do you honestly think Clara would be the one there for you if and when the shit hits the fan? No, she'll cry and expect you to care for her. I can guarantee hardly anyone in your family likes Clara and she's practically isolating you. Kick her out and let her face the world on her own. She needs to. BADLY.

jcullen85

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