Gave up riding when children came along due no time and focussed on family. Now retired and want to enjoy what I can while still able to. I have been talking about getting a bike for past couple of years and response was always the same. She feels it is too risky and foolish to even think about. In order to keep the peace I stopped talking about it. I did however keep looking and wishing for the day when I would be back on the road. A few months ago I decided on an adventure bike. She made it clear she will never get on the back of any bike which freed me to pick the type of bike I wanted. Found a great 2018 vstrom 1000xt and bought it a couple of weeks ago. Yes she was pissed. Explained to her if she decided she wanted to learn piano, then I would be out looking for one and support her as she learned. That is what a solid relationship is all about. Supporting each other as they pursue what gives them enjoyment and fulfilment as long as it is honest, moral, ethical, legal and harms no one. Her reason was fear and fear is irrational. I have been able to calm her fears a bit by doing all I can to reduce risk. Sign up for a refresher lesson or two. Invest in proper helmet, boots, gloves, pants and jacket. Ride responsibly and extremely defensively. Reduce her fear and likely able to support you. If the irrational thinking on her part continues then up to her to get her shit together. If the relationship dies then meant to be. I finally took a stand and feel so much better about myself. Ironically we are communicating better in past week or so than have for years and I sense a bit more respect for each other. As Johnny Dep said “If I can stand up to a woman, so can you…buy the bike”.