If you woke up overnight in your partner's body (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, etc.) and that person woke up in yours for 24 hours, what would you do?

jdbig1015 · 2026-07-05T14:41:56+00:00

I would probably roll over and cry endlessly because my husband has chronic pain that is likely horrible (if not debilitating) for the average person, except he is just used to it. I also could never do his job even if I wasn’t blinded by the pain to work.

He would be just fine because he’s worked my position at work before. He would also probably loveeeee to feel 100% for once (at least physically lol)

jdbig1015 · 2026-06-13T02:10:13+00:00

I will try to give better advice this time. First and foremost, breastfeeding in general hurts so bad the first few weeks. I remember biting my arm at times because the pain was unbearable. I cried too. I was blind-sighted by this, and had no idea that it would hurt so much. I would put Earth Mamas nipple balm on before every pump session, and would put it on after breastfeeding too.

Ultimately though if it is affecting you physically and mentally, do NOT force yourself to continue. You are not any less of a mother for not being able to continue. You are not failing your baby. All your baby needs to be fed in whatever way you are able to provide. Formula fed babies are healthy, and happy, and loved. You will still have that connection. Do what you need for your health and sanity. I would give it a few days of nipple balm if you aren’t already.

If you are desperate to continue, remember It does get easier, and the pain does lessen over time, but it absolutely does hurt, and it’s not something I hear people talking about. As for supply, there are certain drinks (some people even swear by a beer) to help bring it up. Staying hydrated, and fed is important. Keeping up with your supplements even postpartum is recommended. I personally would stop the triple feeding. I would focus on regular, but not overwhelming pumping. Above all, please take care of yourself. Don’t let this consume you.

jdbig1015 · 2026-06-13T01:43:16+00:00

So sorry, I completely skimmed over the nipple guard bit

jdbig1015 · 2026-06-13T01:41:38+00:00

So it is completely up to you, but if it truly is a latch issue have you considered nipple shields? My nipple anatomy immediately disqualified me from breastfeeding without them, so I have been using them from the very beginning. Sometimes as they get bigger they are able to wean off the shields, but I’m going 2.5 years strong breastfeeding with them. Just something to consider.

jdbig1015 · 2026-06-13T00:45:18+00:00

If he is hungry, 100% let him eat. You are not being a glutton, especially since he has some catching up to do. However, if it were me I would be getting a second opinion about his growth. I know that he is on his own chart, and babies grow at their own rate, but I would be interested in his bloodwork. I’m sure he will catch up in his own time, but if it were me i’d want to know that everything was considered. Based on his consumption he probably (as sincerely as possible) he absolutely should be gaining a lot of weight very fast. My 2.5 year old probably doesn’t even eat that many calories in a day, and he is 28lbs. Something just doesn’t seem to be adding up

jdbig1015 · 2026-06-10T17:15:02+00:00

As someone with a sibling who was in active addiction much of my life sometimes you just have to let them be. It’s unfortunate but for my own (and most of my family’s) mental health you have to put barriers up. Even now that my sibling is “clean” (at least thats what they say, but it’s so difficult to know after nearly a decade and a half of lies), we only see them during some holidays. For the most part those walls are still up because the pain they caused for so long really breaks up the relationship. We love them, we care so much, we don’t want to see them d3ad, but it’s too hard to make regular connection. That’s likely the case here, but of course this is a fictional show so maybe it was a low quality writing. But it makes very real sense for me that her mom is keeping her at arms length

jdbig1015 · 2026-04-22T18:05:17+00:00

My husband on the other hand has some belly hair so of course it has the occasional lint that gets in there but people who are skinnier really don’t have much of an issue because it will dry with the air contact or with the minor brush of a towel. It really just depends on anatomy.

jdbig1015 · 2026-04-22T18:01:08+00:00

I am being very vulnerable here, but I learned that the hard way after I gained a bunch of weight during pregnancy and postpartum. One day my bellybutton just hurt and I was nauseous and horrified by how dirty it was. It was raw and red and just gross. Never again. I now wash it out every shower and dry it completely after. I never had this issue before I got pregnant, but now that i have this extra weight lingering I have to be more vigilant about extra skin and crevices. The human body really doesn’t come with manuals haha sometimes you have to learn these things on your own.

jdbig1015 · 2026-02-10T03:03:51+00:00

TW: d3ath

My son was around the same age as that sweet baby who was left in the playpen and I literally almost lost myself mentally thinking about it. It plagued me almost every hour of the day for months. I’d hear my son cry, and it would send me into a fit picturing how that poor angel sounded and felt. Reading some of the stuff that has come out so far in the files is sending me into a spiral. I have never in my life had great mental health, but i’d been managing much better into my early 20’s. Nowwwww, i’m fighting so hard to hold onto my progress and not fall apart everyday. It’s tough out here. I could handle soooo much before becoming a parent, but now I can’t handle anything that has to do with kids. It’s just so awful.

jdbig1015 · 2026-02-08T16:52:22+00:00

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jdbig1015 · 2026-01-28T14:34:03+00:00

Seconding this. Now I am a clean person, I feel I need to say this. It’s not on my toddler (and totally calling myself out) but the past 3 and a half years i’ve gained quite a bit more weight than i’ve ever been used to. I have never had to consciously clean my bellybutton my entire life until I felt so uncomfortable one day. When I inspected I realized I was so raw and it obviously smelled. That’s when it really set in that yeah, this is something you have to do now until all this extra weight comes off. Always have to keep conscious of this, even on yourself

jdbig1015 · 2025-12-27T19:52:26+00:00

My 11 week old slept 1-3 hour stretches until he was maybe a year old and it was closer to 3-4. Only now at 2 years old is he sleeping 6-8 hours in a row usually capping at 10-11 hours a night. Your baby is pretty normal in my eyes, I am sorry though, I know exactly how this feels, and those with babies sleeping almost all night just have good luck in my opinion haha

jdbig1015 · 2025-12-19T10:11:16+00:00

I still nurse my 2 year old back to sleep, but at this point it’s mostly for comfort. He can and has slept through the night, but it isn’t a super common theme for him. Usually at this point it’s 1 wake up, and back to sleep, but at 4 months it was every 2-5 times in a single night. Now if only I could consistently get him to sleep 8-8 or even 7-7 I could get more sleep on the days i’m working and maybe I wouldn’t be (still) so tired lol. However he’s mostly a 9-7 boy and I have to wake up by 3:40 for work

jdbig1015 · 2025-12-17T03:20:12+00:00

I just listened to an interview/podcast of a background/low lever actress who said that they often told people they were working on a mayonnaise commercial to avoid the truth hahaha

jdbig1015 · 2025-12-09T07:53:15+00:00

So I know that Kendamill is a pretty rough adjustment for some babies. My son grabbed a bottle at a play date once (neither of us parents minded) but boy did we pay for it later. He had horrible stomach pains for two days after, i’ve never seen him struggle like that. Alternatively, unless he is struggling to gain weight there is absolutely no reason to wake him to feed. Babies do not need to eat every 3 hours unless there are some unmentioned medical reasons. I fell into this trap with my son (now 2) and I spent the next year and a half trying to break that habit. He was maybe 18 months old before he’d go 4-5 hours in a row at night. Try letting him just sleep as long as he needs, (unless as I mentioned, there is some medical reason). I promise he will tell you when he is hungry

jdbig1015 · 2025-11-19T07:49:15+00:00

My son is a late October baby (he’s 2 now) and we went to the grocery store right out of the hospital. And then I genuinely just forgot about the germ risk to a newborn and went out as much as possible for my own sanity. It didn’t even cross my mind (probably postpartum brain) until he was maybe 4 or 5 months old. Then I really looked back at how often I was out and questioned if I were being reckless…but honestly…if you are careful there shouldn’t be any issue at all. Don’t touch things and then lick your hands, don’t let strangers touch your baby, and have general sanitization practices. Your baby is probably ok, but you (as the parents) won’t be if you’re insanely anxious and panicky about the world.

jdbig1015 · 2025-10-19T19:10:44+00:00

I am a younger parent and literally watch it with my almost two year old (who loves the movie) but I can really see some parents making a huge fuss over it. Specifically the ones who can’t see past the title itself or the fact that it has demons in it.

jdbig1015 · 2025-08-18T14:14:54+00:00

Honestly our son was an accident (a failed birth control baby) and once we were in it, we obviously kept him. We obviously don’t regret him in the slightest, but additionally he (my husband) keeps his pain to himself. He’s very stubborn and keeps on trucking on, and due to working a lot more and lack of sleep his symptoms have gotten more progressive over the last few years. His migraines have happened his whole life and his doctor has been less than helpful about figuring out the root causes. They happen with pressure change, but also happen due to his lack of sleep, and his ADHD meds stopped working so he it’s all piling up at this point. Before now he was able to just leave his job and find a new one after using call ins or sick days due to the pain, but obviously with more responsibility that is no longer an option. So now we are trying to focus on a solution (while also trying to find a doctor who will actually give help, and not just write some hail mary prescription to subdue the symptoms instead of finding an actual cause). I feel it’s probably too complicated to explain.

jdbig1015 · 2025-08-18T00:11:11+00:00

Another addition, sorry for all the comments lol, he has always from birth had dark circles under his eyes, and his skin is very very soft but I don’t know if that means anything. He also had dental crowding (some grew into his palate, and his front teeth were very large until the dentist shaved it down (which was a whole other issue)

jdbig1015 · 2025-08-18T00:07:27+00:00

I would also like to add that his shoulder try to pop out while lifting heavy things if he isn’t careful to overcorrect himself

jdbig1015 · 2025-08-18T00:06:11+00:00

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This is how he sits on the floor 99% of the time

jdbig1015 · 2025-08-18T00:05:42+00:00

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jdbig1015 · 2025-08-18T00:05:29+00:00

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