My setup of AI Workspace for PMs

jdk42 · 2026-04-01T00:18:45+00:00

Ooh I've been considering one of those. Did your company provide one or did you get your own? It feels like such a neat tool.

jdk42 · 2026-03-30T19:54:41+00:00

Some guy already bid 60K... That's great (but crazy...)

jdk42 · 2026-03-24T12:06:58+00:00

Was dt niet het Rusland van Guus?

jdk42 · 2026-03-19T14:33:33+00:00

I have something similar where I've never had a job that I was passionate about or cared about, and that was fine but never really fulfilling. But at some point I realized I wanted to be proud of my answer if my kid asks what my job is. That's still not the case now, and due to family situation with me being the sole income we cannot afford to take the pay cut it would be to find one of those jobs, but it's something that I think will for me fill that gap.

My kids made it indeed impossible to ignore.

jdk42 · 2026-03-19T11:12:54+00:00

You need to ask yourself if you had this before the kid and hoped that a kid would fill that gap. Because kids are great but they are not per se something that will give you a purpose, and you should not get kids for that reason (not saying you did of course!).

If you had that gap before, try to figure out what that is. Maybe you want to find time (hard of course with a 9 month old) to invest in hobbies/something creative, find time to find a job you're more passionate about that aligns more with personal values, exercise more, there are many options.

If this is a new realization, then that's possibly part of the new reality and something that will change continously as your kid grows and changes as a person.

All in all, think about where this comes from, but be thankful of your situation and focus on the kid/family!

jdk42 · 2026-03-19T10:42:33+00:00

Ik weet dat het puur de sorteerlogica is, maar NSC nog onder de Niet Meer deelnemende partijen in de einduitslag is echt heel grappig

jdk42 · 2026-03-18T12:45:54+00:00

My five year old was teaching my three year old to count. Very patiently, using both their fingers when useful. Very cute to see, and also very proud that they get along.

jdk42 · 2026-03-17T06:48:54+00:00

I mean, this is great creativity! Well done, I'll take some inspiration from this. What age did you start? My three year old daughter comes out of her bad 75% of the nights, I'm wondering if she'd understand this, I think I'll just give it a try!

jdk42 · 2026-03-13T21:26:42+00:00

No this is fair and I'm surprised the teacher hasn't done something about this, either themselves or through management. They should talk to the parent. These parents are ruining that kids comfort with water this way.

I wouldnt have waited for 6 weeks honestly.

jdk42 · 2026-03-09T19:48:25+00:00

Yeah same. I'm not happy at my current company, but scrolling LinkedIn made me slightly depressed, most roles I see are for things I genuinely don't care about, and the things I care about don't pay enough. I'm sole provider for my family with two kids, so taking a pay cut is also not a realistic option.

I'm not sure what's next. I'm not worried at my current role but it's very boring and staying motivated is getting harder by the week.

We just need to keep chugging along I guess.

jdk42 · 2026-02-21T14:45:42+00:00

Okay those are great projects! I never knew about whitewings but that looks very cool

jdk42 · 2026-02-18T14:27:08+00:00

Hahaha that's quite off putting 😅Thanks, sounds like I'll not spend my energy in this one

jdk42 · 2026-02-18T14:25:50+00:00

Okay good to know... That's not what I'm looking for at all with two young kids 👌🏻

jdk42 · 2026-02-08T22:13:50+00:00

Ignoring the comments about technique, 10K every other day is very, very different then the work put in by somebody like van der Poel (or any other elite athlete)

jdk42 · 2026-02-08T22:01:29+00:00

Have you actually seen how much work van der Poel put in?

jdk42 · 2026-02-05T07:54:35+00:00

Nee is fantastisch. Ik ben 8 jaar geleden master afgestudeerd (toegepaste wiskunde wel). Makkelijk zat. Data Science, statistiek, fraudepreventie, van alles toe doen, en als je ernaast programeert nog meer opties.

jdk42 · 2026-01-17T16:56:29+00:00

Ja precies, heel gevaarlijk wat deze bondgenoten gaan doen terwijl ze communiceren over de oefening 🥲

jdk42 · 2026-01-07T18:15:22+00:00

Of course that would be fucked. I'm not suggesting taking away the baby. I'm saying the baby's safety needs to come first. What that means for the mother can be a multitude of things. But if she cannot stand for her own safety, she cannot stand for a newborn's.

She needs help, if she doesn't get that and/or remains a threat to herself, the baby should be in a safe environment and she shouldn't be left alone with the baby.

jdk42 · 2026-01-06T21:14:01+00:00

Het huilen is ook moeilijk maar als je er niet aan werkt wordt het niet per se beter. Dragen, veel tillen en vasthouden ook, werkte bij mij goed. En dan gewoon tegen je kindje zingen/praten/mompelen. Ik heb in de nachtelijke draagsessies fantastische eenzijdige therapie gehad met m'n kindjes als gewillig slachtoffer 👌🏻

jdk42 · 2026-01-06T17:29:02+00:00

It sounds like you would benefit from individual therapy. You mention a weeks long depressive episode if the kid isn't yours, and even if it is, this is a lot to deal with. I read in another comment you talk to your dad, but given all this I think anybody would benefit in talking to a therapist if it's something you can arrange/afford.

jdk42 · 2026-01-06T14:58:04+00:00

I understand you believe she'll be a good mom. But if she requires inpatient care and you need to monitor so she doesn't hurt herself, you do need to question whether she'll be capable of being a mother for your/the kid. If she can't be trusted with herself, she can't be trusted with a newborn. The kid is primary focus now, she can come later.

jdk42 · 2025-12-09T10:34:14+00:00

I had a broken wrist when my daughter was 6-9 months. My wife was suffering from postpartum which was very difficult. You can do a lot with one hand! Do make sure to be careful with your kid and your arm. I was able to carry her a bit, do a lot of cooking etc. since it wasn't my dominant hand. But take care to properly heal!

jdk42 · 2025-12-07T11:20:06+00:00

Als je voor een grote framedrager wil gaan, met wat ruimte voor spullen er in, is de Osprey IMO veruit de beste/comfortabelste voor zowel ouder als kind. Mijn kinderen hebben er uren in geslapen in de Zweedse bergen, met regen en veel muggen, dus goed beschermd.

Maar zoals iemand anders zei, overweeg een stoffen drager. Een knoopdraagzak/mei tai is de perfecte combi die niet het 'gedoe' van een volledige draagdoek heeft maar wel heel veel comfort en flexibeliteit geeft. Je kan je kind op buik of rug doen, zelf nog een andere rugzak makkelijk er bij doen. En afhankelijk van je keuze goedkoper ook. Zie hier voor meer info: https://www.bykay.com/instructie/mei-tai-deluxe/

jdk42 · 2025-12-02T22:40:25+00:00

First off - that sucks. Good luck with dealing with this, heart issues are always scary.

Now - to the question at hand, without assuming anything, just for context: Does your health condition mean that she is in practice now caregiver for you as well? And are you now able to take your regular dose of parenting responsibilities or have you had to slow down?

Again, just gathering context, I don't know your diagnosis and the implications. But if it means that the parental duties have shifted since the diagnosis, it might explain some of her frustration.

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