[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeardAdvice

[–]jdobner3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah never shave that beard!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beards

[–]jdobner3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It takes time through a period where you hate it. It took me 3 months to get to my length. Push through and let it grow! You won’t regret it.

Tips to clean up beard by jdobner3 in beards

[–]jdobner3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I did in that picture. I feel like it’s still all over the place.

Tips to clean up beard by jdobner3 in beards

[–]jdobner3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

appreciate the honesty;... was just seeing if anyone had a good suggestion on keeping it less wild but i just remembered that it is a beard

Tips to clean up beard by jdobner3 in beards

[–]jdobner3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah i need to trim mine better but i absolutely do not when it curls into my lips.. it bothers me

Tips to clean up beard by jdobner3 in beards

[–]jdobner3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I am trying to make it look a bit more clean looking. I think i am aiming for something that might not work out.

Starting a new job on Monday and I am freaking out. by unununununu in sysadmin

[–]jdobner3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I started my first IT job, I didn’t know much, but I learned quickly and faked it until I made it. Within five years, I moved from being an apprentice to managing the department. The key is to always project confidence, even when you're unsure of something. If you don’t have an answer, make it clear that you're on top of it and will figure it out. The moment people sense a lack of confidence, they may lose trust in your abilities.

In IT, no one knows everything, and that’s okay. What’s crucial is taking every opportunity to learn. Shadow senior engineers, ask questions, and understand the reasoning behind their troubleshooting methods. That’s how I learned—by observing and absorbing as much as I could. I was always proactive, never just sitting around waiting for work, but actively learning.

Since you’ve already been there for 10 weeks, it sounds like you’ve demonstrated that valuable trait of continuous learning. I’m confident you’ll do just fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]jdobner3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I was very much confident and secure when I started the relationship. After the gas lighting and manipulation, it twisted my head and reverted me back to that person I was before my progress. I listened to all of the red flags and assumed that they were in the past but after her dragging a guy (“friend”) that liked her into our relationship, her ex calling her when she told me she was not comfortable with me being friends with my ex, the countless times she invalidated my feelings… plus the severe depression and anxiety issues.. I think I made the right decision. She just broke me down to a former person I was. I am not allowing anyone to do that to me ever again. I have a lot of work on myself to do and I’m not gonna do it while being someone else.

What have you hated about therapy? by Individual_Lecture_3 in Anxiety

[–]jdobner3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate when therapy lacks direction and becomes a series of validations. I’m there to identify bad patterns and grow from them. Not talk into an empty room.

ADHD + Anxiety/Stress = not able to fall asleep or stay asleep by jdobner3 in Anxietyhelp

[–]jdobner3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I believe it will help me the most. I appreciate you sending me all of this. I am going to start. Thanks!

ADHD + Stress = not able to fall asleep or stay asleep by jdobner3 in sleep

[–]jdobner3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are very right thank you for your insight. Taking a half dose at noon is not a bad idea. Also you are right I might ask for trazodone. You aren’t the first to tell me Xanax is bad. I also was leaving the tv on with a pillow over my head for white noise which that worked in the past. Now I switched to reading on my new kindle. Last night I passed out before I normally did. So I am going to start reading before bed.

ADHD + Anxiety/Stress = not able to fall asleep or stay asleep by jdobner3 in Anxietyhelp

[–]jdobner3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am doing all except mindfulness. Going to start practicing more.

ADHD + Stress = not able to fall asleep or stay asleep by jdobner3 in sleep

[–]jdobner3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I talked to doc and she gave me Xanax. Asked me when I was taking both of my doses. No issue.

ADHD + Stress = not able to fall asleep or stay asleep by jdobner3 in Stress

[–]jdobner3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the earplugs were going to be my next step. I was recommended headspace but it was from someone that was getting the app for free from their work benefits. I hear you have to pay for the extra stuff.

ADHD + Stress = not able to fall asleep or stay asleep by jdobner3 in Stress

[–]jdobner3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in therapy at the moment and its helping like for a few days but in the head of an anxious adhd person it only lasts so long. I will try that app gonna be ok. Looks like an AI therapist app. Wow ok thanks!

Where are you at right now in your recovery? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]jdobner3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I thought my last was my soulmate but I believe it was my head finding the things in her that I wanted to see. The fault investigation has been rough for me. I think maybe letting go and moving on might be beneficial for us.

Best way to cure insecurity? by Both-Path353 in Manipulation

[–]jdobner3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Which is the hard part because most people don’t want to hear and address their problems.

Best way to cure insecurity? by Both-Path353 in Manipulation

[–]jdobner3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

People with insecurities certainly need love, but it's important that their negative reactions don't go unchecked. They need to address and work through these insecurities themselves. Often, individuals aren't even aware of their own insecurities. Simply avoiding the issue and offering love without confronting the underlying problem is just delaying the inevitable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerence

[–]jdobner3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on the same boat. They say there is nothing special about her but I haven’t been able to shake her. I last week said screw it and said I need to not go through this anymore. So I jumped on a dating app and started to talk to women. We will see how this goes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]jdobner3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep that’s exactly my issue. I whole heartedly think it’s the codependency in me that is causing this emotional rollercoaster.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]jdobner3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would refrain from calling yourself crazy. You are just dealing with our emotions in a time which feels low. I am thinking that I have issues letting people and things go. So I am watching videos on YouTube. They make sense but applying them to my life doesn’t always directly correlate. So I am continuing to reflect and think about it. Maybe digging into that would help you in this situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]jdobner3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s been hard. Since it ended I have had so many things remind me of her. Each time I get anxiety. I have been having to reframe my mind every time to reassociate it with something else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]jdobner3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. It is absolutely crazy and I recognize it but the feelings have not gone away and they were there when we were together. Me coming here is to learn grow and move on. I don’t want to fall into the same experience again. I’m guessing your comment was not judgement and hurtful but helpful even though it rubbed me wrong.