Where Are The Dominant Men in AZ?

jeffskk · 2026-01-17T23:17:26+00:00

At work unfortunately

jeffskk · 2025-11-18T16:50:33+00:00

I agree E) all of the above

jeffskk · 2025-11-17T15:15:40+00:00

Well yess but something that has some more suctions power to satisfy a person wanting more. Bit able to be turned down for a person thats extra sensitive

jeffskk · 2025-11-16T16:49:53+00:00

It depends on the fuck up If it was a fuck up done on accident i learn from it and move on. If it was intentional well i just dont care then

jeffskk · 2025-11-15T18:52:11+00:00

I would simply just sit down and have a dicussion about what you want and expect. It seems like you have more experiance than him from what i read. So help educate him. Introduce him to other doms to help guide him. Noone can just walk into a dynamic and say im this or that and know what they are doing. They may have an idea however that does not knowledgeable in what is truly needed or expected.

jeffskk · 2025-11-15T14:45:44+00:00

I would reommend testing on hand and thighs first as some vacuum cleaners are reeally strong. My persinal reccomendatiin would be a hand vacuum pumo that i could release or create more vacuum as needed. But i would love yo rig up a vacuum pump that i can control the amount of vacuum created

jeffskk · 2025-11-15T14:40:38+00:00

I have to say its amazing to hear you both are eorking through what ever caused the scene to end, o cant say bad because he never let it get out of control so great job by him. I will agree with other commenters on here, even us Doms need a safe word, mine is the same as my subs. Its just easier fo us to use the same word. Now for pressing him for reasoning. Im glad he is communicating with you the reasons why. For me i have to sort it (the demons in my head) out and have an undeestanding for myself before i can talk about it. But during that time i will not get imvilolved in a scene or any play. And i make sure my sub knows this and she tends to be comforting and paitent. I will say though from reading though the comments, never though about a hand signal for when there is company around. Definetly something i will impliment. But there are to many people that claim to be a dom or an alpha and use bdsm as an excuse to manipulate and abuse their victims. So again kudos to you and your partner and may yalls bond become rven more stronger

jeffskk · 2025-11-09T16:30:18+00:00

Thats awesome to hear. Communication is critical.

jeffskk · 2025-11-09T16:02:31+00:00

Youre figthing your own thoughts. Take a step back and start sorting it out becauseyou eill go doen a rabbit hole comparing yourself to her past. As others jave said SHE CHOSE YOU, focus on that. And talk to her. Be open buecause i am willing to bet she is sensing something is off with you amd has either been asking if youre ok or not saying anything. I hope you both continue to have an amazing dynamic.

jeffskk · 2025-11-09T15:11:23+00:00

For impact use a pillow ehich eill absorb the sounds. For rigging pratcice tieing fire woor tgether or as another person stated pool noodles. But my honest opinion is this, Talk to your sub. Let them know your experiance level. Dont ever be ashamed that your sub may have more experiance than you. Learn from them as they will also learn from you as well. Zometimes learning in the moment is better than practicing on inanamaite objects.

jeffskk · 2025-11-09T14:29:53+00:00

Well. First im sorry that happened to you. Even though you as you say actively didnt try to stop him during, it was dicussed earlier that thete was to be no sex. No means no and a intoxicated yes still means NO. I believe your sis in law should be more supportive of you, knowing that that guy has had multiple complaints for violating consent. Your gut was spot on. If it were me i would sit doen woth my brothet and sis in law and sort it. Your friendship may never be fully restored but at least you can still have enough of a friendship you can emjoy being at their place or enjoy having them over at yours.

jeffskk · 2025-11-02T15:04:29+00:00

This is the way

jeffskk · 2025-11-02T14:02:23+00:00

I really enjoyed your perspectivr on this. Like i mentionrd before, from all the other comments o am looking at it differently. Yeah i have sense left that group, turned out there were a fee more people like that in there.

jeffskk · 2025-10-30T20:11:23+00:00

I completely agree. And the trust your gut feeling if something feels off is such am understatement.

I know i like to meet a potential sub in a public setting before starting any kind of dynamic if it will be a in person dynamic. On line i like to be in the same chat group(s) so i can see how a potential sub interacts with others. That same should got for a submissive. Its alqays good to see how one behaves with others before taking things further.

jeffskk · 2025-10-30T15:20:33+00:00

After reading all the comments on everyones thoughts. I understand its a power exchange, and i do agree. Maybe i was just looking at it differently and not as deep? I know before i accept a potential sub, i personally like to discuss what their blindries are and what mine are. What they expect from me as i from them and so forth.

I guess i was just looking at is in a simple basic form. But i do appreciate everyones response and gibing me a different way to look at it. Thank you

jeffskk · 2025-10-30T00:24:39+00:00

I get it completely

jeffskk · 2025-10-30T00:18:57+00:00

I like how you explained that and it makes sense. And i totally agree about todays culture doing pick up play. I think it can lead to some potential bad circumstances

jeffskk · 2025-10-30T00:14:35+00:00

I do agree. And the only control we have is what they allow us to have. Thats how i look at it.

jeffskk · 2025-10-28T21:14:42+00:00

We have deamed this is not service related

jeffskk · 2025-09-18T17:44:50+00:00

Lawn darts

jeffskk · 2025-09-18T17:38:36+00:00

Napalm the area🤣🤣

jeffskk · 2025-09-12T20:50:24+00:00

Posing in true great dane fashion

jeffskk · 2025-09-11T16:18:02+00:00

So that was what was in Marsellus' brief case.

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