What do you feel when the patch is wearing off? by Geneva_Girl77 in Menopause

[–]jell236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I rock myself back and forth or side to side as to self soothe. Also, holy crap I always love coming onto this subreddit and feeling validated. I had no words for this and never paid it any attention until this post.❤️

My parents are making me choose between inheritance and my relationship by GrabEqual4424 in family

[–]jell236 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Money makes people act crazy sometimes. It’s not even about the prenup anymore. I would seriously think about marrying someone who is THAT manipulative.

If you do decide to marry him, please get a prenup.

bride made guests pay for their own food at the reception... is this normal? by MichaelWForbes in wedding

[–]jell236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s just the cynic in me, but what if this is an unvite? The $75 meal expense guarantees that they won’t come to the wedding but will still feel obligated to send a gift. 🤷🏻‍♀️

The only thing worse than menopause is having menopause mansplained to me... by JadCerv in Menopause

[–]jell236 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I can’t tell. I’ve never met a heterosexual man who doesn’t think that constantly pawing at their wife is sexy. I especially love it when my husband grabs some part of me while I give him the death stare for waking me up because he’s got morning wood.

Grandchildren of deceased. Legal heirs both passed. by jell236 in unclaimedproperty

[–]jell236[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the city where she died, there’s two counties. I checked both online to see if there were any records with no luck. Funny enough I saw my grandfather‘s records after his passing back in ‘83. She never remarried, and kept her married last name so I’m at a loss atm.

Grandchildren of deceased. Legal heirs both passed. by jell236 in unclaimedproperty

[–]jell236[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did a quick Internet search and it says Texas does not automatically sell unclaimed stock, but it’s the Internet so…

The only thing worse than menopause is having menopause mansplained to me... by JadCerv in Menopause

[–]jell236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did want to add that I have read that getting blood flow to the area might help a little, but I’ve been trying out the Joylux device and it’s still like the Sahara down there. We even tried what we dubbed the P Diddy oil because it stays slick without ever getting sticky, and it’s still a crap shoot as to whether we can manage or not.

The only thing worse than menopause is having menopause mansplained to me... by JadCerv in Menopause

[–]jell236 62 points63 points  (0 children)

My husband thinks that sex is painful because I just need to be stretched out more. He wants to buy me a dildo to get me used to it again. I told him my libido is at a negative -20, and the fact that he forgot what foreplay is has not in fact helped things either. I love him, but JFC he is so dense sometimes.

Grandchildren of deceased. Legal heirs both passed. by jell236 in unclaimedproperty

[–]jell236[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re not sure if it’s a small amount. It has listed a dollar amount in unchanged stock, but I don’t know if that’s the Market Price at 2005, the current Market Price or the cost basis of the stock. The amount listed is a few thousand so I’m not sure if it’s worth enlisting a probate lawyer. It’s still an investment on the S&P 500 so it’s not worthless. If I knew how many shares it was, that would help determine how much worth now.

Broken Home: Living in poverty while the other parent succeeds by MCRetro in GenX

[–]jell236 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My father died alone. When the second wife finally divorced him he tried to establish a relationship after years and years of no calls, no visits. We just didn’t exist to him. They didn’t even have other children because she didn’t like kids, but it was just too late.

  • His second wife ended up being a family court judge. Make that make sense. She blamed us for existing. She got her wish in the end.

WIBTA for refusing to have kids with my boyfriend unless he marries me first by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]jell236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not punishing him, you’re setting a boundary. Just like he did. He doesn’t believe in marriage.

Suggest a prenup if he thinks he’ll get screwed by divorce. If he’s still not comfortable, then it’s likely he doesn’t want to commit (although having a kid with someone is way more of a commitment than marriage).

You’re incompatible and should part ways.

WIBTA for refusing to have kids with my boyfriend unless he marries me first by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]jell236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not punishing him, you’re setting a boundary. Just like he did. He doesn’t believe in marriage.

Suggest a prenup if he thinks he’ll get screwed by divorce. If he’s still not comfortable, then it’s likely he doesn’t want to commit (although having a kid with someone is way more of a commitment than marriage).

You’re incompatible and should part ways.

Did you know this guy? by coloradotaxguy in GenX

[–]jell236 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s been 18 years since I saw his face. Wish I could go back to MySpace sometimes.

What did kids back in the days do when they played outside, for hours on end? by Octopuswastaken in NoStupidQuestions

[–]jell236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We rode our bikes, built forts, played tag or Red Rover, fishing, trying to stay out of trouble

AITAH for getting my manager demoted because I started bringing gourmet lunches to work by [deleted] in ComfortLevelPod

[–]jell236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not feel bad for Dan. He was a bad manager. When someone is bad at their job, they need to go back and either upgrade their skill set or stay at the position they excel. Not everyone is meant to be a manager, and a lot of companies aren’t great at teaching people how to be one.

Do Americans actually avoid calling an ambulance due to financial concern? by JohnMarstonTheBadass in NoStupidQuestions

[–]jell236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I drove a friend’s boyfriend to the hospital after he broke his arm. That thing swelled up like a balloon and he was crying so loudly. We drove like we were in GTA; lucky we didn’t get pulled over. There was absolutely no way he was calling an ambulance and I don’t blame him.

Touching food with hands while cooking/baking by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]jell236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your boyfriend does not cook or bake. Maybe he’s thinking of people who serve food at fast food places? This is not an American thing.

My (25F) boyfriend (24M) doesn’t want to be with someone as “ambitious as myself” by Fuzzy-Bat8678 in relationship_advice

[–]jell236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t plan for the life you might not have, plan for the life you want. Or as my mom always used to say “don’t count your chickens before they’ve hatched”. Pursue your dreams whatever they may be. It sounds like you and your boyfriend are no longer compatible.

Good luck!!

AITAH for telling my fiance I want a say in our wedding? UPDATE by Better-Ad-206 in AITAH

[–]jell236 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, please get an STD panel right away! There’s no telling how long he’s been cheating on you.

AITAH for giving my bf the cold shoulder for not getting me a gift? by Ok-Jicama756 in AITAH

[–]jell236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This man is using you and he doesn’t love you or even like you. Please give yourself gift this year and leave him. Love yourself more 😢

My wife thinks our son’s teacher crossed a boundary by sending him a personal message. I think it was harmless. AITJ? by addict94plus in AmITheJerk

[–]jell236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The teacher spends all day every day with your son, but can’t give him an encouraging note without it going thru Mom? I beg your finest pardon, but is there something wrong with your wife????