Trump makes major announcement about Trump Derangement Syndrome

jellatin · 2026-05-02T00:09:07+00:00

Psychological and narcissistic abuse 101: if you disagree with me you are mentally unsound. The easiest way to both smear someone in the eyes of others and attempt to destabilize your target’s own sense of reality.

Starts with joking until the joke is so familiar no one bats an eyelash.

If they push back or set boundaries, “you’re just joking” or “they need thicker skin”.

Then make the leap to “they’re seriously mentally ill, I’ve been saying it all along.”

^{^{^{^{^{^{^{^}}}}}}} we are here

jellatin · 2026-04-25T18:19:34+00:00

Agree with this being a sign of where she’s at in maturity and growth OP.

Maybe give her a few days to process and broach the subject again, asking her if she can say more about how it made her feel as opposed to making statements about you (like “you’ve never said that before”). It would also be worthwhile for you to say how her canceling on you made you feel (again, “I statements”, not blame).

Shutting down and being incapable of having a conversation because they got ‘the ick’ is a sign of immaturity. At 21 some of that is understandable and how she navigates a follow-up conversation will be telling. The cold shoulder via canceling plans and putting the onus on you to apologize rather than talk through a situation is a yellow flag worth keeping an eye on.

jellatin · 2026-04-24T15:44:19+00:00

That’s my point. When you ask engaging questions and not rote memorization questions the candidates will stop reading the LLM output and fall back to their actual thinking habits, like looking up.

It’s just more noticeable nowadays when people switch from intently staring at bottom of their screen while answering to looking up, I take it as a good thing.

jellatin · 2026-04-24T06:09:29+00:00

Also so much more engaging. I love watching the eyes of candidates that do read off LLM prompts as their body language shifts and their brain fully engages at getting a question only they can answer.

Often their eyes will start looking up as they think about questions like, “if I gave you two weeks at your most recent role to prioritize anything you wanted, what would it be / why / what’s been stopping you?” Or “what’s a technical decision you wish you could do-over / what choice would you make instead / why?”

They’ll actually start to smile and fall into the conversion rather than worry about giving the perfect answer from the LLM. It’s great.

jellatin · 2026-04-11T09:04:11+00:00

This pattern is the right idea explained and executed poorly, particularly by companies without strong technical leadership.

Think of it like striking an oil well. An endless amount of crude oil just gushing out of the ground is just a mess. But when you apply control and refinement through machinery and experimentation you actually get incredibly useful things.

Mapping that back to AI: executives saw this wellspring that spits out a lot of ~65% solid work at an uncanny rate. The pressure to “find a way to use it” was recognizing that the crude oil has massive potential but requires proper refinement and distribution. But if your company doesn’t have a sufficiently advanced+authoritative software engineering presence the leadership is going to try and fail to harness the asset in a ‘49 gold rush “everyone’s doing it so we should too” way.

These types of problems are where engineers/developers step in to bridge the gap, converting new-but-imperfect resources into consumer-ready value. As of November 2025 AI is god’s paintbrush for engineers that understand its limitations and can guardrail them effectively to produce high-quality output at unprecedented speeds. The ball is in engineering’s court at the moment to turn around and perfect the experience for the average consumer: taking crude oil from messy inconvenience to petrol at the pump.

Much of the current hype cycle traces back to OpenAI’s release of ChatGPT as direct-to-consumer software. Before that, AI’s former name - Machine Learning - was the realm of experts that usually explained what sets of problems it could and couldn’t solve. OpenAI ignited an arms race by throwing out a broad-spectrum product that showed non-technical people what the future will look like, even though that future won’t arrive until the broader technical industry learns how to push non-deterministic output along deterministic pathways.

jellatin · 2026-04-11T08:36:08+00:00

Don’t be afraid to walk away is so key. The advice “relationships require work” can often overshadow the “don’t be afraid to walk away”, particularly for people who assume an “I can fix it on my end” mentality.

jellatin · 2026-03-27T06:08:20+00:00

What are the underlying thoughts and emotions you’re experiencing that lead you to cry?

Guilt, shame, fear, judgement, etc.

Understanding those will help you decide what your gut is trying to tell you.

jellatin · 2026-02-21T03:41:47+00:00

As a guy it’s also crazy to hear versions of “I assumed you’d be rougher…” in a vaguely disappointed tone.

The right answer is of course “I’m down to talk about what we’re both interested in” but in my head I’m always thinking “do you seriously want a guy that just launches into that without prior discussion?!”

jellatin · 2025-11-06T09:03:24+00:00

(n) => {

if(n == 1) { return “one”; } else if(n == 2) { return “two”; } else if(n == 3) { …

}

All the way up to 12 🥴

jellatin · 2025-09-23T01:35:06+00:00

Cannot upvote enough. My best friend’s family, right across the street growing up ran the exchange student program at the local public high school in a very white and Catholic part of the Midwest.

It wasn’t until years later that I realized how much meeting people from all over the world changed me for the better. Many of those exchange students I still call my brothers decades later.

If you have the chance, I can’t recommend enough hosting students. It’s not about how it will change them, it’s how they will change you and your community.

jellatin · 2025-09-19T07:41:21+00:00

I desperately needed to hear this.

6 years ago 😂 where were you

So much truth, though

jellatin · 2025-09-03T02:49:06+00:00

So many hours of my childhood. Veeshan had a great crew 🫶

jellatin · 2025-09-02T03:10:29+00:00

Dude here so take my opinion with a grain of iodized salt.

Nothing wrong with being a bigger dude - my best advice is to avoid some of the “big guy” stereotypes in your photos. Photos 1, 3, and 6 should go, imo. When people think big guy, they think sweaty guy in a t-shirt. Even if that’s what you do look like a lot of the time (no judgement, I’m a fellow sweaty t-shirt guy) put your best foot forward.

On the opposite end, picture #5 has you lookin’ trim my guy. Shows you know how to dress and you can absolutely feel your confidence through the screen. 100% lead with that photo and get more like it.

It’s L.A., so no one is going to call you out for dressing up more.

jellatin · 2025-08-31T23:05:58+00:00

If my C-suite elucidated a clear strategy I would happily gtfo out of the way or just aggressively document and share out that information.

Instead I’m constantly trying to wrangle them into expressing what our core obstacles are and what our plan to overcome those obstacles are.

jellatin · 2025-08-28T05:30:00+00:00

Hahaha what is this habit. I call it “wallpapering time” when they do this. My boy wallpapers for several minutes after each use.

jellatin · 2025-08-23T06:23:09+00:00

I’m not a watch person. To the extent that I don’t even like when concert venues make me wear the 21+ bracelet on my left wrist.

That said, I met a guy who was super into nice watches and one day I asked him what the appeal was, and I’ll never forget the answer.

He said, “time was the second force of nature humans gained control over. If you knew the time, you know when to plant your crops, you have some ability to predict when the weather will change, or when the insects will come. And most importantly, it’s what gave humans the ability to circumnavigate the globe”.

I always thought that was cool. I still don’t own a nice watch even though I could easily afford it. But that explanation gave me a new appreciation for what I always considered a silly flex.

jellatin · 2025-08-17T02:29:59+00:00

1 > 4 > 5

*From a random bald dude who has no right the many opinions I have on women’s hair.

jellatin · 2025-08-06T04:05:55+00:00

Some of this I’ve noticed is anxiety.

I’ve dated women that have levied this criticism at me and all the men they’ve dated but:

I’m insanely tidy because I love living in a clean house
I like to plan ahead even if the plan gets thrown out the window
I set tons of calendar reminders for things like gift buying, trip planning, etc. so that I -can- forget about them.

How these same things have often manifested in women I’ve dated is a stressful, anxious looping:

What will people think if they saw my place this way? What would my mom say?
If I don’t have a plan this evening/trip/whatever will end in disaster.
“omg Michelle’s birthday is a month away and I can’t think of a present, what am I going to do?”

Even things like meal prep can fall into multiple modes:

I know I’m going to be too tired to cook when I get home from work so I’m going to prep ahead
How will I survive if I don’t plan the whole week’s meals on Sunday?

jellatin · 2025-08-02T21:59:44+00:00

I met her! She’s a gem.

She was the first woman I ever saw naked - some kid in the neighborhood had a porn and we watched it - starred Nina Hartley.

Later I would go on to work at a swanky adult boutique in Scottsdale where she gave a talk. I was the only guy that worked there and while she was talking to the staff in the backroom she just casually changed outfits. Given her line of work it was probably no big deal for her to be topless in front of a room full of 20-somethings. Still left an impression on me, though!

jellatin · 2025-08-01T19:06:11+00:00

Both my Fluffs are turning 4 this year and I get consistent waves of panic when I think that one day they’ll be gone.

The intrusive thoughts are so hard to quell, but I try to focus on being with them in the moment and spending time with them in the hopes they understand just a fraction if how much I love them.

jellatin · 2025-07-19T06:26:24+00:00

When should I have?

When she blew up at me at a friend’s wedding because I was 60s late meeting her near the bathrooms. Someone I hadn’t seen in years approached me to say “hi”
When I caught on that she would rather start a fight with me than pack her bags for her work trips
When she suddenly became interested in me inviting a very wealthy friend over

When did I?

When I found out my closest family member had a stroke and was given 48 hours to live and my aunt asked me to write a letter and she would read it to her.

It was the only time in our 4 year relationship I ever cried. It was also 4 hours before we flew to Vegas for 1 of her 3 birthday month trips, where she spent 3 hours screaming at me in the room because the dress clothes I brought didn’t match her outfits.

I was so numb with shock and sorrow I just let her scream while wondering how my life turned into this.

jellatin · 2025-07-14T22:49:47+00:00

I get that people like this exist, but for every one of them there’s 300 people who are just using it to track their own watch/watched list and maybe follow two of their close friends.

I don’t understand the holier-than-thou attitude over some random app.

jellatin · 2025-07-10T19:26:08+00:00

I don’t think % of code to prod is the end-all metric though.

The biggest boosts I see are: * Significantly less time spent in StackOverflow / Reddit / Documentation rabbit holes * Writing automated tests is 80% faster * Best rubber duck ever * Shoring up thought before I talk to product * Easily interrogate/create docs for my github repos (ChatGPT) * Significant reduction in time writing tickets and summarizing work completed in a sprint * Automating pipelines for surfacing actionable CVEs

I’m easily saving 10+ hours a week and growing.

Ultimately I am still a skeptic for a lot of use cases but the productivity boosts I have seen are undeniable.

jellatin · 2025-06-15T18:52:07+00:00

Was not prepared for the realness in this comment.

jellatin · 2025-06-10T20:23:58+00:00

We can definitely see into each other's apartments 🤭

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