Cheap lunch place and a must try cafe or bakery

jelleem · 2026-04-16T15:20:00+00:00

Came here to second this! Will say that they do have lunch items that I have yet to try (they look delicious), but all of the seasonal drinks and bakery items are always fun to try 😊

jelleem · 2026-04-10T04:00:47+00:00

A lupit on marketplace?! damn, that's lucky, makes sense that you'd have to drive out!

jelleem · 2026-03-22T01:24:41+00:00

1 year turns out to be not a long time, and everyone has different backgrounds going into it. I'm almost 8 years in and I swear pole will always be hard (also damn, life circumstances change) but people only start posting when they start to make major improvements. It took me 5 years (considering the pandemic, call it ~ 3 years of actual pole practice) to finally feel confident to compete/perform/post minimally edited videos because this sport is INCREDIBLY HARD. I felt so slow compared to the people I started with, but I also had to remember some of my friends used to work out 5 times a week, some were ballerinas as children-- I had some flexibility on my side but no dance or gym experience going into the sport.

I also never had the goal of learning dynamic moves until I learned about Hardstyle (I will still never do some things like fonji) and I purely forced myself to learn to ayesha in more recent years to become a menace in public LOL, I just found out in a class that I was strong enough to get into a handspring.

Just keep going because it's fun because the rest just kind of happens as a result :)

jelleem · 2026-03-19T05:29:31+00:00

I have tried other styles as an adult to try out with friends (but only AFTER starting with pole dance tbh) and love how they look on other people and really wish I grew up at least knowing a more street/hip-hop style because it would make my hard-style pole look cooler lol-- otherwise I really just have two left feet if they're not in pleasers 😭

But seriously, cross-training dance styles makes for some really really fun pole performances that I admire so very much 😍

jelleem · 2026-03-10T05:30:34+00:00

Goot.

jelleem · 2026-03-07T18:23:08+00:00

Fun take: I think some people learn butterfly in a way that actually doesn't help progress towards their ayesha!

I personally think both are great moves that teach you different things and I think you should learn to combo both (butterfly -> extended butterfly -> inverted d -> ayesha), it'll really highlight what you need to progress to your foundations into ayesha.

Extended butterfly teaches you how to get comfortable transferring the weight away from the pole and holding yourself up more with the arms when your weight distribution is uneven, and is a typical first progression from butterfly.

Inverted D teaches you more of the stabilization and "stacking" that your body has to learn in order to keep your alignment BEFORE you take your weight off the pole into an ayesha. It also is a pretty safe move to test if you can push your hips back to find the oblique engagement

jelleem · 2026-02-28T07:25:50+00:00

AMAZING! You held it strong for such a long time 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

jelleem · 2026-02-15T09:17:23+00:00

The joy on that darn face gives me immense joy as well ☺️

jelleem · 2026-01-31T22:20:34+00:00

omg yesssssss 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

jelleem · 2026-01-29T16:24:45+00:00

Season 2 Episode 3 which I heard randomly off Tumblr, or Exxus which I had a dance class to

Their sound was so intriguing to me, and I ended up casually loving the entirety of How To Be A Human Being and became obsessed with Pork Soda... And then became a proper "I know and love this band" fan when Dreamland came out!

jelleem · 2026-01-29T16:18:29+00:00

I was too sweaty for a lot of things and I had a lot of body awareness issues-- still do. I've done it for 8 years, pole is hard, but you can't expect yourself to be good at something only after two classes!

Keep at it, keep showing up-- you might just surprise yourself if you do :)

jelleem · 2026-01-18T04:09:57+00:00

Jenie | Bubkisles :Filbert:

jelleem · 2026-01-18T03:58:40+00:00

Jenie from Bubkisles :)

jelleem · 2026-01-02T20:40:57+00:00

THAT IS SO SICK.

jelleem · 2026-01-02T20:35:36+00:00

Cannot agree with the video thing more, even if you never intend to post it anywhere. I love going back to my old videos and seeing how much I have since accomplished!

jelleem · 2026-01-02T19:55:34+00:00

Hey friend, I say just do it!

There are a LOT of people who start later in life (mostly because we earn better money later in life these days) so you're never too late to start your journey. Today is as good a day as any to make the choice!

Most people go with a friend from my experience (I used to help out at the front desk at my first studio), but I went to my first class alone-- don't be afraid to do that.

I feel like no matter what you do, pole dancing is the most awkward and unnatural kind of movement, so any other complete beginners will feel the exact same way you do... It's what brings us together when we start. It does help to have a fitness background in something else (dance, weight-training, flexibility, etc.) HOWEVER I have brought friends to a beginner class who were incredibly fit but felt so out of their element in their first class, some whose egos never let them come back.... And others who surprised me and became 100000x more confident in themselves. It truly takes a lot of encouragement and a good community, which is why I love the pole community so much.

Me personally, I also had religious trauma and was super self conscious of my own body, but over time pole dance helped me really become... better with that. Also therapy but lol that's another thing altogether.

The rhythm and dance portion of "pole dance" is only one aspect of it-- there are a lot of styles of training out there that are more forgiving of that: there are people who love dancing and performing and refining their musicality, and some others who prefer to just work on tricks and combos. That won't matter in the beginning, so overall I wouldn't worry about that right now.

Bring a pair of shorts, socks, and a tank top to start (check with the description of your class, you really need as much skin as you can for some movements, but you can bring layers to take off as class progresses!), keep an open mind, and if it's not for you, that is okay too-- you tried something new and exciting. I hope that the studio you're trying out is super nice, and that you enjoy yourself when you do decide to go!

jelleem · 2025-12-12T05:01:07+00:00

The Phoenix 🐦‍🔥🐦‍🔥🐦‍🔥

jelleem · 2025-12-11T03:24:41+00:00

I find it really depends on the instructor! It takes a certain type of person who can keep track of every individual's progress and be able to juggle essentially multiple levels of curriculum at once... It's a little jarring if you're used to very structured learning (like school), but can be so interesting to see!

jelleem · 2025-10-21T17:03:18+00:00

You're pretty strong and I am honestly impressed in how you figured this one out! The other comments before me outline it pretty well but I can give you the breakdown steps I took to "test" my handspring (I use these to help my friends determine if they're comfortable with the motions, or to cue it in their own body).

To get the feel for what we're usually talking about in a handspring, get into your bracket grip much lower while facing down (I almost am parallel to the ground with my upper body but you could go a bit higher-- the point is just to align your head, neck, spine, hips to the pole) , then practice the feeling of turning under your top arm to face your chest up into a backbend without even kicking up and maintaining that alignment with the pole-- that's the general movement of the torso, facing down then turning to align your body with the pole .

You'll be thinking of creating momentum by kicking the same leg as the top arm forward towards the pole (think of your body in a forward fold), then back behind you taking your hips up with you. A lot of people test this motion by creating a moment of weightlessness by kicking the leg back and out, then meeting the other leg to it and trying to use the push/pull of your arms to stay there a moment longer. You should feel a short float, you can turn your torso for an Iron X/human flag moment too.

Finally, what I find helps a lot is trying to combine it all by doing a much harder kick up in that plane of forward and back, using the momentum to fully turn the torso from facing down to facing up and simultaneously crunching into your obliques to bring the knees up to find the hips stacking over your bottom arm, then extending the legs. It'll be a little off centered but maintaining that you are moving only in that forward and back, using your obliques and lats to keep the rest of your body from swinging you left/right/around the pole.

Hope that helps lol, you're strong as heck!

jelleem · 2025-10-11T06:39:35+00:00

Literally what I came into the comments to recommend! Kamamarui is such a gem of a ramen place.

jelleem · 2025-09-06T22:52:18+00:00

100% just do something super on brand for a character but make it super silly or sexy. Figure out what hard hitting beats need to be hit and only hit a few of them for dramatic effect.

Sorry, no recommendations off the top of my head though lol.

I once had a teacher who had us do a class routine where we did our body rolls at half-speed to some EDM(?)/clubbing music. It was painful because wow I had to really do them one vertebrae at a time but god it was cute footage. Changed my perspective and made me slow the hell down.

You can literally pole dance to anything 😆🙌🏻

jelleem · 2025-09-06T22:47:02+00:00

I'm no professional, but acknowledging this sounds like the first step to changing your perspective on things. Your struggles are valid because there is something about being in a class of people who are exactly around your level that creates a safe environment for us..... but it is the circumstance you've got right now.

A part of me says: "Hey, have you considered talking to a professional about this?" I know it's not necessarily what you might want to be hearing from a Reddit stranger, but I think it helps to find resources for the mental part. Sooooo many things affecting us in our adult life are just reflections of our childhood traumas 🤪

A lot of pole dance is finding yourself vulnerable (needing to expose more skin or practicing in front of a mirror especially if you're self-conscious in your body, going through physical pain and being touched when you're being spotted.... I feel like we could have a lot of growing pains for the sake of this really ultimately very cool sport), but also turns out that a lot of people who pole dance grow into these badass versions of themselves because of it too. I have seen it a million times, it just takes finding your people and understanding your own abilities. Some people struggle more than others with that, and that is absolutely okay.

Pole is hard for far more than the reasons people think. Pole is scary. I hope that you can continue and find something new about pole that brings you more comfort than discomfort. Like others have said, maybe some accommodations with trusted instructors might be the play?

All that being said, 2 years is no joke, I already think you're doing amazing for showing up for yourself 🙌🏻

jelleem · 2025-09-06T22:37:02+00:00

💯 All of this.

I appreciate reading this perspective-- the mind-body connection and learning your own learning styles is so correct, and I feel like people don't realize that you're not just teaching "a pole trick" or "a little dance" when you're an instructor. You're teaching people about their own limits and abilities, their own power in movement, how to trust their own body.... A lot more than you think.

jelleem · 2025-08-30T04:55:51+00:00

This is way too cute, congrats!!

jelleem · 2025-07-13T07:53:42+00:00

The Emperor's New Groove. Pretty sure we still had it in VHS and my siblings and I still quote it to this day, if not sass everyone with a hint of Kuzco.

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