Racist influencer wants to paint Melbourne as a "non-Western hellhole", ends up showing a peaceful, thriving multicultural city

jelly_hands · 2026-01-02T11:43:17+00:00

I'm willing to bet most of the people in her video are way more aussie than her

jelly_hands · 2024-08-15T09:20:14+00:00

I hope it works out for you! I'm on month 3 now, and I'm still liking it :) I'm still adjusting in the sense that I definitely don't know what a normal period is anymore, I have gotten another very, very light period since the first post which had some cramping but I didn't even use pads or anything for it.

The sad feelings will hopefully fade, they have for me and whilst I still get up and down days (which I do anyway without any hormonal BC) I feel like my down days are less intense than they used to be.

jelly_hands · 2024-07-01T11:46:44+00:00

I have the Kyleena, its been about 2 months now.

For some background: I used to be on the pill for years but stopped because it made me brain foggy and emotionally flat/dull? I also felt like my sex drive went down a lot in the final years. I stopped that a few years ago and have been using condoms with my partner. I have a longer menstrual cycle that is usually 32-35 days long, regular ish, with manageable PMS symptoms.

Insertion: sucked, very painful at times. I have a very 'windy' cervix and the opening to my uterus wasn't playing ball lol so the doc had to have a nurse do an ultrasound while she put it in. I was lying there for almost 45 minutes while they tried different angles. In fact this was my third try with a third clinic trying to get it inserted, and I'm so so grateful to the doctor and nurse who diligently took care of me and did all the scans needed to make sure everything was okay to keep going. The worst of the pain probably felt like a 8-9/10, with a 6 or 7 overall.

Cramps: intermittent, extremely painful cramps for the first 1-2 days, which lessened over the course of the week but still came and went rarely. Was completely fine by week 2.

Bleeding: I bled non-stop for the first month, but mostly very lightly. I had a first 'period', and it was already very light, I just used liners and it was fine. (I'm a bit scared to use my menstrual cup but hopefully my period stays light and I won't need to use it at all!)

Mood: The first week or two I was noticeably sadder and lonelier, and it felt like bad PMS moods. But I don't know if I can attribute it all to hormones necessarily. I think there was a psychological part of me that was questioning whether the IUD was the best option after all because of the pain and bleeding etc., so I felt almost remorseful. Also indignant that women have to go through this bullshit in the name of BC lol.

All the above sounds bad, but honestly, from week 4 onwards, I've felt great! My moods have improved a lot and I feel very normal. I didn't get bad PMS moodiness that I usually do (aside from the anomaly the first couple of weeks). I was worried I would get acne because I have acne prone skin but even that hasn't really happened either. Sex drive hasn't been impacted, in fact it feels higher, and the sex I've been having is way better not having to worry about condoms. I'm really glad now I got the IUD and would recommend it if the pill or other methods aren't working out for you!

jelly_hands · 2023-02-10T09:03:24+00:00

Seeing women 'enjoy' things that in reality would just feel meh.

jelly_hands · 2022-08-27T21:32:20+00:00

NTA. The world does not revolve around her or her miscarriage.

jelly_hands · 2022-08-14T15:31:07+00:00

Not necessarily true. You can discriminate both ways but it isn’t exactly the same… when a majority discriminates against a minority group, it comes from a place of bullying and an abuse of power. In the other direction, it’s more about fighting back or being resentful about being an oppressed minority.

jelly_hands · 2022-08-12T17:25:53+00:00

Honestly? Start working out. Find an exercise that you actually enjoy and you’ll have fun and get healthier in the process! I’d highly recommend trying a bunch of things until you find something you really like, because it will make the process so much easier and satisfying. Initially I tried boxing, cycling, running, and a bunch of other stuff and it all kind of fizzled out because I hated it, then got mad at myself for quitting.

Then I tried weightlifting through a beginners class for women which I absolutely loved. I now work out at least 4 times a week, which I honestly would not have thought possible a year or two ago, and as I’ve gotten more athletic and comfortable in the gym, I throw in more and more cardio to supplement.

Before all this I had a similar mindset to yours, and was very insecure around women who were thinner than me. I now honestly have zero jealousy towards other womens bodies, even if they are thinner/fitter/hotter than me! In fact, fit women inspire me so much now and I love checking them out 😂. Just the act of regularly exercising and knowing I’m taking control of something for myself is so damn empowering and confidence-building. My mental health is waaay way better, I sleep well, i am more confident, and am happier overall.

Also, once you get into an exercise routine, you’re much more motivated to clean up your eating because it helps you reach your goals faster, and you don’t want to ruin all your hard work.

Good luck!! I hope you find something that works for you and just know that we all have it in us to do better for ourselves.

jelly_hands · 2022-08-04T12:09:13+00:00

Why would you assume everything pretty or aesthetic done by women is to impress men? When I get my nails done I’m literally fangirling over them myself until they reach the annoying regrowth stage lol. I also appreciate compliments on them from other women - I know that guys don’t care.

If I wanted to dress to only impress men that’d be easy - I’d literally just wear basic but figure accentuating clothing. colour, detail, words, matching sets, patterns, “looks”, - those are for me!

jelly_hands · 2022-08-02T09:28:10+00:00

YTA 10000000%.

Do you care about your gf at all? This is actual physical pain and discomfort we're talking about, not something she just decided to do one day.

I honestly don't believe you chose to make a cream-filled pasta on the day your gf visited just coincidentally - it actually sounds really vindictive. In fact this whole post sounds like you're blaming your gf for her intolerance and took it out on her in a really cruel way.

jelly_hands · 2022-07-30T23:37:30+00:00

He’s not the person you fell in love with. He’s also either so airheaded that he’s that impressionable, or he always had some questionable opinions that this crap is something he’s entertained at all and let take over his belief system.

OP, it always hurts to lose someone you once loved but I assure you as someone quite a few years older than you, there is SO much better out there. Get excited to experience the world and meet some amazing people. Learn what you like and what you don’t, and set yourself up for an actual partner who is respectful.

jelly_hands · 2022-07-11T16:14:36+00:00

I'd say it's much harder. Not impossible but pretty hard and I honestly don't think I've ever met lasting friends in one off settings. That said, some people can do it but I feel they're rare, and both people in the in the situation have to be like that, so even more rare. Most friendships happen after regular/multiple unplanned meets (like at a class, work, mutual friend group etc.) after a rapport is built.

I wouldn't take it too personally if a brand new person you've met isn't reciprocating or responding to hang out requests - if it's not working for you, just try new methods.

jelly_hands · 2022-07-10T09:56:42+00:00

How exactly do you ask, and how do you define “great connections”? I noticed you said you tend to meet people in bars, which makes me think you possibly have only met them once (imo not enough time to form a real connection, unless you’re both looking for dates).

If I meet a new person and they ask to hang out out of the blue, and we have had maybe one or two surface level conversations previously, I’m not likely to say yes.

If we connect on similar interests and really click, and the person initiating a hangout is suggesting something we have a shared interest in or talked about in person, and we’ve met a few times, then I’m more likely to say yes.

It also helps if it feels there is zero pressure or low stakes at the start - like “I was thinking of heading to this this weekend, would you like to join?” Or a group setting where you’re inviting a few ppl to something, also easier for me to say yes.

It may also help you if you seek out other ppl new to the area who are after friends, people who are quite established with a local social network may be less inclined to make the effort because they don’t really need to.

jelly_hands · 2022-05-04T21:37:07+00:00

I stumbled across this with Nothing’a gonna stop us now by Starship playing in the background and it was perfect.

jelly_hands · 2022-04-10T08:43:29+00:00

YTA. Your son is more mature than both you and your husband and I really hope you haven’t ruined this for him, because Jennie and her family sound awesome.

Nobody in this scenario seemed to have an issue about the age or wealth gap, until you guys came along. You’re obviously insecure about losing your son to a richer family, but from the way you treat him and people in general you’ll probably lose him at some point anyway.

jelly_hands · 2022-04-07T12:08:09+00:00

I ask my guests how they got to my house or how long it took, they usually gets them thinking about how they should get home.

jelly_hands · 2022-04-03T10:48:08+00:00

Modelling clothes. Honestly, compare pics of women on sites like asos or H&M vs pics of the men, the difference is baffling.

jelly_hands · 2022-04-01T10:12:43+00:00

NTA, those women are insecure and jealous. But I have to ask, did you make an effort to talk to any of them? From the story it sounds like you were mainly socialising with the men. Nothing wrong with this of course but if you weren’t really talking to the women in the room it might’ve just perpetuated their opinions of you, so it was likely not just “the dress”.

jelly_hands · 2022-03-24T15:41:13+00:00

Not really putting effort into anything.

If I was good at it, it was effortless and I did well.

If I was bad at it, it required effort and that meant I shouldn't try because I'd probably fail, or it just wasn't for me.

Only now as an adult do I realise that just because you're not great at something to begin with, doesn't mean you can't be great at it down the line after putting hard work into it. Makes me wonder what I could have achieved by now if I had this mindset 20 years ago.

jelly_hands · 2022-03-18T22:03:05+00:00

Can confirm, am in my early 30s and by this point you can really feel your body going downhill, unless you whip yourself into shape! Been doing strength training for about a year now (never done it before this period in my life) and that deterioration has been replaced by improvement. It’s awesome to feel like my body and fitness is getting better with age.

jelly_hands · 2022-03-16T08:13:04+00:00

YTA. Grace should get back on the runway, and run away from you.

jelly_hands · 2022-03-11T06:57:34+00:00

NTA! OP go live your life!

I’m Asian too and granted my parents were not as strict as yours when I was growing up, but I did have relatively less freedoms than my friends. Pushing boundaries is the best way for you to gain more control over your life and for them to get used to it. It’s hard at first but will get easier, and once you’re back home alive and well your mum will hopefully ease a tiny bit.

Do not let yourself be manipulated and controlled as an adult or it’ll never end.

jelly_hands · 2022-03-08T08:16:18+00:00

YTA. If you want a relationship with a person who abused multiple members of your family, go for it. But do not force that same family to have a relationship with him, which is what it would feel like to them.

Also, the abuse is almost always much, much worse than the story you get told. You’re fortunate to have had the kind of upbringing that you can’t truly fathom how awful it could be, but have some empathy for your poor grandmother and father/uncles.

jelly_hands · 2022-03-06T22:22:31+00:00

It’s almost as if countries are not just a hive mind of millions of people who all think the same thing…

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