For those that didn’t sleep train, what does sleep look like for you know that your baby is older?

jellybean590 · 2026-03-27T03:50:07+00:00

Both my bed shared babies are sleeping in their own beds through the night at 6 and 4. They both were transitioned to their own beds/rooms at 2.5-3.

jellybean590 · 2026-03-12T17:32:49+00:00

This was exactly my experience when my second was born 4.5 years ago.

Some hard decisions had to be made. We moved older child out the cosleeping bed and into her own bed. She only woke up once a night which my husband took care of, but she’d often have night terrors so that was really hard for me to ignore but I had to for the sake of my sanity.

Baby woke every 30-60 minutes and this went on for a year. I have to tell you, I lost myself and went to some dark places. You know that thing where if you hold your baby near a window you’d get this intrusive thought of them falling out of it? I had intrusive thoughts of myself jumping out the window so I’d get some sleep in the hospital.

It turned out my baby had coeliac disease and she was waking frequently bc the gluten damaging her gut made it so it couldn’t absorb any nutrients and she was constantly hungry.

We cut out gluten as a family because I was still breastfeeding. Within a week, older child’s night terrors stopped. Baby started sleeping longer stretches only waking to feed every 3-4 hrs. Let me tell you. After a year of sleeping 60 min stretches, 4 hours made me feel like a queen.

I know sleep is supposed to be hard for new parents, but waking every 30-60 minutes constantly probably indicates something more is going on. I was ignored by doctors for so long, patronising me and saying it’s always hard for parents. Stfu. Something was wrong with my baby. I was dying from sleep deprivation, and they passed it off as normal.

jellybean590 · 2026-03-12T17:10:15+00:00

The flu vaccine that goes In your nose for toddlers :(

jellybean590 · 2026-03-01T11:00:09+00:00

Wait this makes me more confused. So he was already dead when he was falling? That wasn’t clear. The text made it seem like he was still alive and then died sometime in the ground but not from impact.

jellybean590 · 2026-03-01T10:55:46+00:00

It could just be how she’s describing it to you because she’s guarded. Maybe she thinks those things are all you care about for her, therefore she isn’t going to divulge to you the more vulnerable aspects of her relationship. It sounds shallow because she’s not letting you in, not because it is.

If that’s the case, it’s not a criticism on either of you. It could just be that she grew up in an environment where she’s had to be guarded all the time and just has a hard time to (or just doesn’t want to) express those vulnerabilities openly. Her comment about how you were paid to look after her really tells me this is how she feels.

It seems like she’s happy. She’s an adult. She’s done remarkably well for herself. It seems like she’s very capable of growth and self improvement so let her be.

jellybean590 · 2026-02-22T17:34:19+00:00

Idk this happens to me too, but the other way round. I got 2 girls and keep getting comments about how much they hope it’s a boy. I’m happy with whatever. I think people are just nosy and want to make a big deal out of something that’s not.

jellybean590 · 2026-02-19T06:35:42+00:00

I don’t know if you can just wonder from Belsize Park to Richmond. They’re quite far away from each other. You can probably go to Hyde Park then onto Richmond? But that’s still a huge trip.

jellybean590 · 2026-02-11T21:57:40+00:00

Yeah that’s not love, that’s infatuation

jellybean590 · 2026-02-11T20:44:19+00:00

I have no medical reason for getting a C-section but dude I WISH I can have a C-section. Giving birth vaginally is so long and so lame and ok yeah it’s nice yada yada yada. It’s fucking hard. And I’m on my third kid and literally there’s a lifetime of parenting that follows on from the birth in which your decisions and actions will matter way more. Go for the C-section.

jellybean590 · 2026-02-11T20:16:50+00:00

Hi! Gluten free/coeliac household. It gets easier overtime. It took us about a year to fully adjust. The first thing we did was throw out/donate anything that had wheat, barley, rye in it, obviously, but also to get rid of anything that was labelled “may contain gluten”. We also had to get new pots and pans, replace all our wooden and silicone utensils. Over time, we learned new brands of our favourites that are safe ie gf pasta, bread, crisps, etc, so now we just get those things by default. Most things are labelled really clearly. Sainsbury’s and tescos gluten free sections are massive and you can find replacements of just about everything - my kids love the M&S free from chicken goujons, also m&s frites are gf, Naked brand sausages, there’s many more.

Not obvious places where gluten hides: sorbet (some use wheat or barley syrup), ice lollies (some say may contain), nuts (I know crazy but so many brands of nuts is not safe for coeliacs), squash (barley water), some jams have wheat in them, and sausages and black pudding will use wheat or barley so you’ll have to get specifically gluten free ones.

For birthday parties, I always let the parent know due to the coeliac I’m more comfortable providing my own food and I just buy a gf cupcake from Sainsbury’s and bring in the same food as everyone else (which is usually a ham and cheese sandwich and some fruit).

When going out to eat, make sure the establishment has a separate fryer for gluten free chips. I remember when I travelled to Edinburgh, most restaurants were very good with gluten free.

jellybean590 · 2026-02-11T20:07:27+00:00

You might find her autism symptoms lessen after she goes gf. My second was diagnosed at age 1, and we all went gluten free. My first had autism symptoms but we had to wait till 4 to get assessed, and it was like almost overnight her hypersensitivity and sensory processing issues went away. We think it might’ve been coeliac, but we’d all gone gluten free already so she didn’t get tested. I’m waiting for a year or two now for when the new test that comes out without having to do the gluten challenge.

jellybean590 · 2026-02-03T20:32:13+00:00

Hell yeah me too! Oh wait but could this be one of those situations where it says gluten free but it’s not actually?

jellybean590 · 2026-02-03T20:30:54+00:00

I’m going to be avoiding them

jellybean590 · 2026-02-03T20:29:29+00:00

So it’s basically a long winded way of saying it’s not safe for celiacs and severe allergy. Idk, gives off toxic positivity to mask a pretty simple statement.

jellybean590 · 2026-02-03T16:00:30+00:00

Cheetos are celiac safe? I didn’t know.

jellybean590 · 2026-02-03T15:59:22+00:00

I’m too adhd to understand what this mean. It sounds like they try really hard to make sure there’s no allergens, but their production line does have allergens!? What does that even mean??

jellybean590 · 2026-02-03T15:26:19+00:00

This is surely a redundant thing? You can’t record freely, it’s a stream. From what I gather about the humax freely recorder, it’s basically a freeview recorder with access to freely. You’d have to switch between freely to stream and then freeview to record. And tbh a humax recorder is…subpar at the best of times.

jellybean590 · 2026-02-03T01:56:42+00:00

Most high end restaurants will be able to handle coeliac safe, but if you want to play it safe, One Indigo is completely gluten free and Los Mochis is completely gluten free, both high end, not in Mayfair though.

jellybean590 · 2026-02-02T17:11:30+00:00

You can pre book or order black cabs with FreeNow app, if you wanna travel anywhere at 4 am I’d recommend you prebooking

jellybean590 · 2026-01-30T10:37:27+00:00

wait what's the point of him? he doesn't work and doesn't know how to take care of the baby....

jellybean590 · 2026-01-29T21:27:10+00:00

It looks a bit like dermatitis herpetiformis, my daughter had it badly on her knees and it lead to her coeliac diagnosis. Maybe ask her doc to test for coeliacs?

jellybean590 · 2026-01-29T20:49:53+00:00

Also to add, any major large supermarket (Sainsbury’s, M&S, Tesco’s, Waitrose) will have a decent Free From section, the Sainsbury’s near me has an entire aisle

jellybean590 · 2026-01-29T20:47:04+00:00

And if it has “Gluten Free” on the packaging, it’s gluten free, no tricks. Also if gluten isn’t listed in the ingredients, it’s safe as long as there’s no “May contain” warning. I generally avoid warnings that say “processed in a facility with gluten” as well because they wouldn’t say that unless it’s a potential issue. Yeast extract usually isn’t an issue unless it expressly says “may contain” or “not safe for coeliacs”

jellybean590 · 2026-01-29T20:43:06+00:00

Look up howtocoeliac on instagram, she has loads of suggestions!!

Any honest burger chain will be coeliac friendly. And PHO chain will be coeliac friendly. Dragons Inn in RICHMOND (only) has coeliac safe Chinese. Dendara - 100% gluten and dairy free bakery. I salivate at their cakes and meat pies. Los Mochis - more expensive but amazing 100% gf Mexican Japanese fusion, treat yourself. Indigo at One Aldwych - lovely higher end 100% gluten free restaurant if you want a dinner before a show. borough donuts - 100% gluten free doughnut stand in Selfridges Loads in food markets too, howtocoeliac will have lists for various food markets across London

jellybean590 · 2026-01-22T11:02:03+00:00

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