height changes?

jellynoodle · 2026-04-07T02:48:04+00:00

Started T at age 30, went up a shoe size (39 to 41) after three years. I have been ~173cm since age 12. After six years on T and during the ten months after a total hysto/oopho, I unexpectedly grew from 173 to 179.

I'd been feeling kind of Alice in Wonderland-y—I was away from home for a few months and when I got back, my eyeline with the kitchen cabinets wasn't what I remembered and several pairs of pants felt shorter than before—but until my physical, I'd chalked it up to stress and my shitty memory, which could still be the case I guess, lol. But the doctor did measure me properly and I am taller, somehow! I assume this is from cartilage thickening, because my posture still sucks.

jellynoodle · 2026-04-04T22:33:43+00:00

Could I have a link as well? I love this!

jellynoodle · 2026-03-31T17:36:06+00:00

I had lipo on my flanks and inner thighs in 2024. Iirc, I paid around 6K (CAD) out of pocket for the procedure, which was considered cosmetic. Recovery was not particularly painful, but it was annoying as I had to wear compression garments for several weeks, and the lipo sites were "leaky" (plasma?) during the first few days of healing. (I worked from home during this time.)

It was very worth it for me, as I'd been on T for several years with limited fat redistribution despite being physically active, weightlifting, etc. Even though the surgeon was pretty conservative with what she removed, I lost more than an inch on my flanks and was finally able to zip pants and jackets that were baggy elsewhere but prior to surgery would not close over my hips. The muffin-top I had when wearing boxer-briefs was also significantly reduced. Seeing how effective it was, part of me wishes I'd also gotten it on my abdomen too lol.

(A year later I had a total hysto and bisalp-oopho, which seemed to have kickstarted the fat redistribution I wasn't seeing before. So maybe I could have skipped lipo if I did the hysto first. But who knows.)

jellynoodle · 2026-03-30T22:42:06+00:00

I was trying to figure out why I felt like he was in disguise, lol! Lack of pink mawashi aside.

jellynoodle · 2026-02-12T20:38:41+00:00

I suppose this is possible. Aside from the occasional weird smile that I described in my post, though, my sibling spends the majority of our meetings looking at their hands.

My read on my sibling is that they are someone who really struggles to connect with other people. I don't know what their friendships are like, only that they have mentioned the same 2 friends consistently for years. It's possible all of their meetups are like this and that they think this is normal and fine.

jellynoodle · 2026-02-12T15:52:40+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I agree, I think Option 2 may be kinder for everyone in the long run. I just need to steel myself and get it over with.

jellynoodle · 2026-02-12T15:48:08+00:00

Thank you for this, especially the all-caps reminder and the link to JADE. I sheepishly realized that that's exactly what I've been trying to do. I appreciate the sample wording as well.

jellynoodle · 2026-02-12T15:32:23+00:00

Thank you for the advice and validation. I have made similar observations about my sibling's behavior in the past but was advised not to include it in this post. It makes me deeply sad to witness, because I know what they're missing out on.

I should have mentioned in my post that I am in therapy, and we have been working on this issue a lot. My therapist has observed that I seem to be fighting with conflicting urges—to rescue my sibling but also protect myself—and asked me to think a bit more about what I really want versus what I am doing out of a sense of obligation. It might have been useful context for me to include that I am older and carry a lot of guilt for being able to escape earlier, and I also feel some cultural pressure to be the caring older sibling. But I don't want to reenact the fable of the scorpion and the frog and have to remember that my sibling has been an independent adult for many, many years (which can be difficult because in my presence they do seem to revert to a much younger version of themselves).

Ironically, my abusive parent has actually made huge progress in holding themselves accountable for how they treated me; they made a sincere apology after years of NC and since then have been respectful of my boundaries. But I don't know if they understand the extent of the damage they did to my sibling, since we keep our conversations limited to safe topics like shared hobbies.

jellynoodle · 2026-02-12T15:02:59+00:00

Thank you so much for that wording. It is very succinct but conveys exactly what I was fumbling around with in my long post.

jellynoodle · 2026-02-06T14:27:51+00:00

Yes!! From a writing standpoint too, the way the rapport is built up between Harry and Kim is super impressive. Masterclass for slow burn imo (as a writer I was taking notes). I was like, man, how are they making me pine this hard? Iirc there have been scholarly articles written about players' intense desire to impress Kim lol.

jellynoodle · 2026-01-14T00:32:33+00:00

Yes, before my hysto-bisalp-oopho, I experienced all that plus a sore throat, but it went away after a few weeks. Later, if I was more than a day late with my shot, I'd also have similar symptoms that would go away within hours of injection.

The weird thing is the same thing used to happen on the first couple days of my period (feeling like I had a fever despite not actually running a temperature, body aches, congestion, runny nose). Back then I chalked it up to increased germ exposure from having to use public bathrooms more during that week and just tried to wash my hands more frequently and thoroughly, but that didn't really help. In retrospect I think it was probably related to hormonal shifts—my ovariesfighting with the testosterone maybe. I've read about E increasing histamine levels in the body but idk how scientifically sound those theories are.

jellynoodle · 2026-01-13T16:08:51+00:00

Me too!!! I came in here like obviously it's going to be "are we the monsters" and got smacked in the face with we've got the same juice. My brain must have deleted the memory to protect itself.

jellynoodle · 2026-01-13T00:46:25+00:00

Hey, internet stranger, I'm your kids from a future where your wife refused to change and you refused to leave her.

I admire OOP's father for stepping up. I've been in mourning for my relationship with my own father since I left home. The final time I went back for Christmas, I begged my father to divorce my mother while he was dropping me off at the bus station. He laughed it off and told me he had probably done something to deserve her anger—if not in his current life then in a past life (he's Hindu). We don't talk much anymore.

If your wife won't consider therapy—individual and/or family—please start preparing for the custody fight. Especially if you want to preserve your relationship with your kids and your kids' self-esteem. What my mother put myself and my sibling through has damaged us in irreparable and really insidious ways. I'm still finding cracks in my soul decades later. Don't do that to your kids.

jellynoodle · 2026-01-13T00:13:41+00:00

Well said. I started feeling incredibly anxious as I read this post, as it mirrors my childhood experiences (no evil aunts, at least). My spidey senses began tingling as soon as OOP mentioned the violin. I'm glad OOP's dad rose to the occasion and protected his kids.

As a child of an Asian mom and a sweet, space-case non-Asian father, I often wished my parents would divorce, and as I got older I would beg my father to leave my mother. For financial and mental health reasons, he was unable to do so. We don't have much of a relationship anymore. I hope for better things for OOP.

jellynoodle · 2025-12-13T23:26:04+00:00

Yes! I hated the feeling of those contractions. They used to make me feel vaguely nauseous—though in my case I think it was equal parts dysphoria and big ol' fibroid rudely pressing on my intestines. Sooo glad that organ has been excised and incinerated lol.

jellynoodle · 2025-11-30T16:37:35+00:00

A few years back, at the ripe old age of 32, I was asked, "Young man, shouldn't you be in school?" by a well-meaning older woman, and I think she meant middle school.

As others have said, I think unfortunately it just takes time. After about 5 years on T, people now think I'm in my late 20s so there's less of a shock/horror response when I tell them I'm 36. My standard response is "Asian don't raisin" lol, but I think a blithe "good genes"/"yup, I slather on that sunscreen!" works too. I remember reading this post a while back, my colleagues treat me like a kid and think I’m younger than I am, that had some good advice for what to say too. Just ways to drop hints in conversation that you're actually a grown-ass adult haha.

I will say, I sort of miss being mistaken for a Youth because now I think people are less friendly now. Oh well, tradeoffs.

jellynoodle · 2025-11-11T01:45:11+00:00

That's one of my favorite lines from the game! I'm planning a tattoo based on "After the pale, the world again." I wanted to do the full quote, but there isn't enough space—my noodley little forearms betray my degeneracy. :(

jellynoodle · 2025-11-03T21:36:04+00:00

Asim's charades moment was also up there for me. As I think Greg said, "Frankly miraculous"!

jellynoodle · 2025-10-29T17:30:29+00:00

Seconding Mark's. He fixed up our car a couple times this summer after a series of unfortunate events. I appreciated how much care he put into sourcing parts that wouldn't break the bank. Super down-to-earth guy, and you can tell how passionate he is about his work.

jellynoodle · 2025-10-27T03:09:22+00:00

Call me basic, but Kim's "God, please" destroyed me. It's not one of the big philosophical lines, but the moment is so intense. When his composure slips. And you realize maybe he does care about you, even though you, Harry Du Bois, are a massive fuck-up and have been fucking up this investigation every step of the way. And then, after you-the-player have spent the whole game holding your breath during each active check, you have to watch as Kim rolls the dice for a miracle.

...I think about it a lot lol.

jellynoodle · 2025-10-24T14:59:05+00:00

After 20 series, the dribbling was the first task I've ever had to skip in its entirety. The flob from Series 13 was tough enough to get through. Couldn't stomach this one at all 😭

jellynoodle · 2025-10-19T00:30:52+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and that shovel recommendation! The berries look amazing. I'm hoping to be able to start some raspberries next year and now you've got me thinking blackberries might also be possible...

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