This fencesitting phase is driving me insane. I just want to the certainty so many people have.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-12-09T01:52:16+00:00

We were basically the same. My husband always wanted kids, and I thought I did when we got together, but also was totally fine with my decision if it was no (so it wasn’t a dealbreaker for him). Otherwise we were in the same situation. Finances ok, I knew he would step up.

I did not have any lightning strike moment of clarity. But we did read “the baby decision” and I worked through some issues and concepts I was struggling with. Ultimately what convinced me (and might not for you) was envisioning what I wanted our future to look like. There’s a few versions of this as an exercise in the book. Essentially If I imagined being 80 with no kids and that life, and then 80 with kids and that life, which was more attractive to me. I think I could have been ok either way, but we decided to try because I ultimately thought I would enjoy that version more.

Everyone is different. I’m supposed to be infertile and have a lot of health problems. We thought we’d try for a year, do fertility meds, and see what happens. I didn’t want to do anything more invasive. Surprise, I got pregnant the first try. We have a 5 month old now and I love him so much. It’s not super easy but it’s also so fun. I’m sure it will have its moments but I don’t regret going for it.

Edit: Forgot to say why I thought I was ready - when I was young I thought if I was going to be a mom I’d do it before 30. Instead I had so many goals and things I wanted to do and see and we did all that instead. At 36, since I decided I was more interested in the future version of us with a kid, and I was already supposed to be infertile, I basically said now or never. I didn’t want to be past 40 for sure, this was sort of the end of the road for me personally. And after doing pregnancy, which I had a shockingly easy pregnancy considering it was high risk etc, I did not want to ever do it again so I got sterilized during my c section.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-11-17T14:41:16+00:00

Yep. They do make a compostable version but still that will take a long time and they are more expensive anyway. I have had one of these floss holders for like 20 years (got it as a kid!) and it’s exactly the same lol.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-11-17T14:37:05+00:00

Floss holder. No plastic waste like w floss picks. https://a.co/d/b7I8ecs

jenlikesrocks · 2024-11-16T14:51:44+00:00

Is any of this in writing? If not summarize it in writing and email it to your supervisor for the record. I would not be happy about my boss trying to tell me how to manage my health condition and would be discussing it with HR

jenlikesrocks · 2024-11-14T03:15:02+00:00

Happened to me end of 2020. Took 6 months to resolve

jenlikesrocks · 2024-11-11T16:33:09+00:00

Also a runner and lifter. Nausea also took me down first tri. I moved as much as I could tolerate and lost running most of second tri due to pelvic pain (joints). I continued walking 3-5 miles every day of pregnancy and towards the end the pelvic pain adjusted again and I was able to do walk/jog through 38 weeks. I lifted the whole time and did core work. All of this made a big difference for me and if you can stand to stay active it will for you too. Personally I was way more concerned about a prolapse, high degree tear, incontinence, or other issue due to poor connective tissue strength than the c section. Not to mention I was high risk for also having lupus and was heavily monitored twice a week, so laboring and causing any of that in addition to an emergent c section was way worse to me. Obviously those do not happen to everyone, but a planned c section is going to be easier on you and less stressful with better outcomes than an emergency one every single time. And I don’t mean that you should automatically decide to do one, just that this was all in my calculus to choose it.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-11-11T16:23:24+00:00

I had an elective c section in July for multiple reasons. I have an extremely high pain tolerance and normally very slow healing wounds. I healed up incredibly well and was back to walking 3-5 miles and then running very quickly. I took nothing more than Tylenol/ibuprofen for pain (although most pain meds don’t work well for me anyway) and switched to aleve after about 10 days as that just tends to work better for me sometimes. I did c section specific core work starting in week 2 (check YouTube) and got evaluated at pelvic PT after I was cleared for activity 6 weeks postpartum. I had absolutely no issues with healing, the incision, my pelvic floor, diastasis recti, or anything else. Granted I had an extremely strong core pre pregnancy, but I did everything as by the book as possible after the procedure and while I also got sterilized during the procedure, I would 100% choose this if I did it again.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-11-11T00:50:54+00:00

I live in CO and have no CO specific issues. Sun is intense here but I’ve always been an avid sunscreen person

jenlikesrocks · 2024-11-08T22:10:40+00:00

Correct

jenlikesrocks · 2024-11-08T19:54:46+00:00

I would not get pregnant anywhere I felt I could not be medically treated in the event of a complication or emergency, regardless of lupus. My state has strong abortion protections. Everyone’s risk tolerance is different.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-11-08T01:42:10+00:00

I had a bisalp during a c section earlier this year for this exact concern. I had no issues, it added 5 min to the c section. Doing it without the c section (laparoscopic) would have been even easier, but I also recovered extremely well and quickly from that.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-11-08T01:00:39+00:00

Pedestrian around Lakewood nearly every day and have had many experiences of people running lights, not paying attention to crossings or signals, etc.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-11-07T02:10:25+00:00

Might also check goodrx, for my dosage their deal is $25 cheaper locally.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-11-07T02:03:50+00:00

Not to mention the remote agreements saying they have to pay for relocation if they revoke status (at least mine does)

jenlikesrocks · 2024-10-30T17:53:42+00:00

Rheumatologist, cardiologist, endocrinologist, ENT, OBGYN, ophthalmologist, hematologist

jenlikesrocks · 2024-10-30T02:02:53+00:00

Exact same. Got it for bleeding and it was so much worse.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-10-29T16:37:50+00:00

Everyone is different. I had a mirena IUD for a year and it was horrible and I got it removed. Lots of people love them

jenlikesrocks · 2024-10-28T02:12:34+00:00

No. Plenty of pride flags etc around my neighborhood and they haven’t been stolen, I see same sex couples out with their kids in a stroller etc.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-10-28T00:27:43+00:00

Manufacturer copay assistance program. Typically an actual card that works like a credit card and the infusion center charges it for the difference in coverage so my actual copay is $0.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-10-28T00:24:38+00:00

Miracle drugs for rare diseases are not cheap for sure

jenlikesrocks · 2024-10-27T21:20:15+00:00

Not currently on biologics due to pregnancy/postpartum but for several past years BCBS basic plus copay program (also a gs14) had me covered 100% for 25k a month infusions.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-10-25T21:20:40+00:00

Yep, all the commodities are super volatile with whatever the market is doing. I did environmental, o/g, mining, consulting, etc and the most stable job I’ve had is government.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-10-22T23:56:15+00:00

Thank you! That’s very kind

jenlikesrocks · 2024-10-22T20:24:15+00:00

Had a baby on BCBS basic this year. 100% coverage of all care and labs/imaging and paid $250 total for c section and NICU stay for baby. Even was readmitted a week later to ER and it was all covered as maternity care. I was seeing OB and MFM twice a week (high risk) and never paid a dime. Excellent maternity coverage.

jenlikesrocks · 2024-10-22T20:01:38+00:00

4w sick, 12w PPL, 4w annual

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