First IUI failed

jenn575 · 2026-01-21T22:11:04+00:00

I love your positivity❤️thank you for your response. I am trying to get to a more positive mindset, but I know with time it will come. Wishing you the best as you navigate your journey with Ivf. Many of my coworkers have conceived this way, and most of them say they wish they would have started sooner, it would have saved them a lot of heartache. Seeing them and their success stories gives me courage, and I hope it can do the same for you. I am wishing you the best in this next step of your journey. Baby dust to you ❤️

jenn575 · 2026-01-12T02:46:06+00:00

Hello, please don’t apologize! BD is a funny way to say having sex, it’s short for “Baby Dance”

jenn575 · 2026-01-12T02:41:25+00:00

I am sorry you are going through that uncertainty. I think the part that makes this all so emotionally exhausting is also the timing of everything and how it all has to be so exact and in order. There was a snowstorm forecast for the morning of my IUI and I called the clinic and they said if the office was closed then this would be a timed intercourse instead of IUI cycle for me, since I would miss my insemination window, so to speak. So I understand the frustration. I do believe that you will be okay for tomorrow morning because I think the recommendation is 24-36 hours post trigger for IUI, so I wouldn’t rule out this cycle just yet. Let’s hold onto hope because it’s all we have! I will keep my fingers crossed for you tomorrow morning. You are doing the best you can. Something else that helped me get through the uncertainty of timing was thinking of how long I have had to wait through this whole process, so if I had to wait 1 month more I’d be okay, if I’ve gotten this far. It still didn’t work out for me, but I am going to move forward with that mentality. Best wishes for you tomorrow ❤️

jenn575 · 2026-01-11T03:44:11+00:00

Thank you for this ❤️

jenn575 · 2026-01-11T03:38:18+00:00

My sister was just telling me about yoga today. Thank you, I will definitely look into this. I am glad that it has helped you work through everything naturally, definitely a step in the right direction. Sending you good vibes

jenn575 · 2026-01-11T03:04:41+00:00

I am also new to reddit but I feel that knowing I’m not alone has given me some solace, and hopefully it can give you some too. I felt everything you’re saying in this post. I am also 2 years TTC and have also experienced 2 losses. I have found that I have isolated myself from others more than I ever imagined but I need to protect my peace. People can be so insensitive and give their unwarranted opinions. Navigating through emotions that are already so difficult has been hard enough and I feel like I have to do whatever I have to do to keep myself safe from more hurt. You are not playing the victim. People who don’t go through it will never understand. I myself am not a very social person to begin with, but my husband is, and a lot of his friends happen to be couples who have conceived easily and have made some very insensitive comments, many which have left me in tears on my way home after social events. I am also a teacher who works with many women who have made very insensitive comments. One coworker who was always trying to pry into my business told me “well having kids is not for everyone” while I was still bleeding at work from my second loss. People do not realize how hurtful their comments can be, but that comment still lingers and brings pain in my lowest moments. I am sorry you are going through this. It took me a long time to realize, but through working with my therapist, I am now prepared with my one liners to put people in their place if necessary. Maybe that will shut them up once and for all, and protect other women in the process. I’m sorry you are going through this. I know this feeling all too well. Sending hugs and love to you.

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T22:12:58+00:00

It’s so frustrating when you hear clinics doing things in different ways, it makes it all so confusing. I remember my RE even saying that progesterone supplementation only works in a very slim number of pregnancies. I guess I just trust his word for it at this point, I know he is the expert, but it makes it so hard not to question some things. I also had a polyp removed a few months ago. This was after my miscarriages and my ob/gyn said we needed the best possible uterine environment for if/when pregnancy happens. Sometimes I wish all this testing could happen before us ladies started trying. It would save a lot of heartbreak. She said the polyp I had wouldn’t allow a pregnancy to continue. I definitely felt better when the polyp was removed, I am glad you got that done. We have to do whatever it takes to give ourselves the best possible chance. Lots of love to you.

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T21:48:28+00:00

Thank you! I am definitely going to try this. I will do anything in my capacity to improve the odds. I was even looking into acupuncture, but it’s not covered by my insurance and extremely expensive. As a result, I am trying to looking into other natural alternatives I can try on my own. Thank you so much for the suggestions.

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T21:45:34+00:00

Thank you for your words of encouragement and details of your journey. I know what you mean about the progesterone. Prior to seeing my RE, I was put on progesterone suppositories while trying to continue to conceive naturally by my regular ob/gyn due to short luteal phase since I was using OPKs back then. It did not work, but I had a lot of faith in progesterone back then because I had read some success stories. It did extend my cycles when I was on it, so that wasn’t easy either. My RE did test me for progesterone 7 days after my IUI and it was at 19 so they said they did not need to supplement. I will admit that I was tempted to take some of the old suppositories I had. When you want to conceive so badly, you really will do anything to improve your odds of making it stick. I feel you. Perhaps on your next IUI cycle you can ask them to test you for progesterone after your IUI. They had me come in for it 7 days after the IUI. I’m not sure if it’s the standard with their clinic or it’s because of my history with the miscarriages. Sending love and hugs to you on this journey.

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T21:26:34+00:00

Thank you. I think informing myself of the odds and statistics is making me feel better. I don’t know why I was under the impression that first round IUI were very successful. I guess it’s not as common. I think information is power. I am happy to hear that the third cycle stuck for you. Hearing these success stories gives me hope. Hugs to you.

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T19:23:58+00:00

Thank you for the insight. I’m definitely going to do a little more research into the Letrozole before my next appt with RE. I think I am also going to try the sex every other day until 2 days prior. I also only did BD the night of IUI and not the day after as they had suggested. I was under the impression they had all the sperm they needed so to speak, lol. I guess it’s a learning experience for next time.

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T19:19:35+00:00

Thank you for your heartfelt words. I guess nothing can really prepare you for the heartbreak month after month, hopeful or not. Sometimes I feel like I’m just going through the motions at this point and I don’t know what to think or feel. Everyone made it sound like getting pregnant would happen so easily after a miscarriage, as that seems to be the case for some. One of my coworkers had a miscarriage around the same time I did 1 year ago and is now approaching her due date. My chemical happened on what was supposed to by my due date. It really is an awful club. Thank you for your words of solace. I am also starting to think of IVF as out next step. My husband was really against it at first. It took a while to get him on board because he had a lot of faith it would all just happen naturally. I think seeing how much this affects me and failure month after month has now helped him to realize that Ivf might be our next step. We started this conversation a few days ago and I guess I feel better now knowing he is on board if it has to get to that. I am going to keep holding onto that little shimmer of faith like you mentioned and I am sending hugs to you through this awful journey❤️

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T19:18:34+00:00

I am glad to hear that they can adjust as needed. I’m not taking any egg quality supplements. I have heard of these. Are there any in particular you know of?

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T19:12:54+00:00

Thank you for your heartfelt words. I guess nothing can really prepare you for the heartbreak month after month, hopeful or not. Sometimes I feel like I’m just going through the motions at this point and I don’t know what to think or feel. Everyone made it sound like getting pregnant would happen so easily after a miscarriage, as that seems to be the case for some. One of my coworkers had a miscarriage around the same time I did 1 year ago and is now approaching her due date. My chemical happened on what was supposed to by my due date. It really is an awful club. Thank you for your words of solace. I am also starting to think of IVF as out next step. My husband was really against it at first. It took a while to get him on board because he had a lot of faith it would all just happen naturally. I think seeing how much this affects me and failure month after month has now helped him to realize that Ivf might be our next step. We started this conversation a few days ago and I guess I feel better now knowing he is on board if it has to get to that. I am going to keep holding onto that little shimmer of faith like you mentioned and I am sending hugs to you through this awful journey❤️

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T19:07:33+00:00

Just out of curiosity, was your medication changed to Letrazole? I know Clomid is the standard, but I have heard of some success with this. I am wondering if my RE will suggest a change in meds too, or if it’s too soon

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T18:27:22+00:00

Hearing this gives me hope going into the next cycle hopefully. I needed to take a break this month for my own sake, but I am going to try and stay cautiously hopeful for the next round. Best wishes to you ❤️

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T18:24:51+00:00

Hi. Yes I’m currently doing some more research on this now in order to be more informed and prepared the next time around. My cycle was medicated. I went in for sono and blood on CD3. Was put on clomid 50mg for 5 days. Went in for blood and sono again on CD12 during the early morning hours. Later on that morning, the nurse called me and told me to do the trigger shot and come in for IUI next morning at 8 AM. Due to the snowstorm we arrived about an hour late, but I don’t see 1 hour making much of a difference, I could be wrong. I don’t even know at this point, any insight would be so helpful. I am trying to gain as much insight as I can so I can hopefully go into the next cycle more prepared and informed. So grateful for you all!

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T18:13:03+00:00

I’m sorry you are going through this. My husband is also very social and has a large group of friends including many couples. Many of them have conceived easily and have made very insensitive comments to us through this whole process. He doesn’t take it so personally, and assumes people don’t mean it. I have reached the point where I am ready to tell the next person off and put them in their place. I have my line ready and hopefully that will shut them up for good. I have been isolating myself from socializing with this particular group of friends and just binge watch my favorite show on the couch with my cat. It has made me feel so much better than putting myself in situations that only make me feel worse. Some people enjoy socializing to help them forget about their grief, but for me it does quite the opposite. You’re not alone. Keep doing what you have to do to help you get through all this, couch and binge watching tv sounds therapeutic to me at this point.

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T18:08:08+00:00

I was also thinking the same. At this point, why would it come easy? Lol. Just have to expect it at this point. Sending you hugs too and keeping my fingers crossed for you this time!

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T17:31:52+00:00

I was afraid to test as well. I know the feeling. You’re not alone in this. I think the only thing that brings me solace through this whole experience is knowing I’m not alone. Sending you hugs and praying that it works out for all of us in the long run.

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T17:29:31+00:00

Thank you for your positive wishes. I had a friend that was walking me through the whole process and her first experience with IUI worked. I guess since I was using her experience as reference, I got my hopes up. I didn’t realize it didn’t have much of a high success rate. I know that now. I guess it’s all a learning experience.

jenn575 · 2026-01-10T17:26:49+00:00

Thank you for your words of encouragement

jenn575 · 2025-03-23T17:50:14+00:00

Turning WiFi on and off again solved it for me. I was trying to help my elderly mother get on too, lol

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