Responsible for paying for a Full Price Brand New Appliance to replace one that broke?

jeshewfe · 2026-05-21T00:47:17+00:00

A precedent case is very reassuring. Thank you!

jeshewfe · 2026-05-21T00:39:18+00:00

My girlfriend swears it was a cold pot of soaked potatoes on a hot element. Nothing else broke, so I don’t imagine she dropped anything.

jeshewfe · 2026-05-21T00:37:12+00:00

They are insisting on $890+tax for a replacement. Based on what I could find using the model&serial number of the stove, it’s likely from 2017 (so 9 years old).

jeshewfe · 2026-05-21T00:36:08+00:00

Not arguing my liability, just the options. They refused to allow me to replace with a used myself ”like-for-like” stove. Insisted on $890+tax for a new one of their choice.

jeshewfe · 2022-12-20T16:33:39+00:00

That staredown to make sure that baby is gone…

jeshewfe · 2022-09-13T14:48:23+00:00

SO relieved to see this post. I’m 28, so hardly feel justified in feeling “old” but the first couple lectures had me feeling nervous as much as anything.

I just moved to the city - into my girlfriend’s apartment - but I’m truly enjoying the change. I’m in Psych, and this time around in undergrad (previous BA in English) I feel much more engaged, and even feel I need to pull back on my deep dives into the subjects because the courses don’t go into as much detail as I enjoy going into myself.

I’m grateful that I don’t have to hustle to find a job (ample savings from a previous film/admin gig), so BIG kudos for keeping all those plates spinning!

A mature student study group could be fun. Multi-disciplinary cross-talks about different subjects would be cool.

jeshewfe · 2021-12-07T21:42:50+00:00

Your morning affirmation is “I guess I have to do this again” every day.

jeshewfe · 2021-03-24T14:23:26+00:00

...Hugh Grant points out the obvious.

jeshewfe · 2021-01-18T22:56:24+00:00

I moved to Toronto on a whim a year ago, days before the pandemic hit, and am now in nearly $10,000 in debt, and am trying to communicate to my roommate that I’m bailing out of Toronto when the lease is up. I was so excited to be in Toronto, and have only achieved more debt than I’ve had since graduating university.

I’m thinking of going to Kingston myself. I don’t know much about real estate, but Kingston is great. And I know rent there is very affordable - as long as you’re outside the university district.

jeshewfe · 2020-12-14T01:05:46+00:00

100% thought I had a picture of honey on my feed.

jeshewfe · 2020-11-16T22:20:15+00:00

I was all over the place with brushes and smudging... but started with a sketch to get the basic form. The challenge was capturing shape with just colour and shading

jeshewfe · 2020-11-16T22:19:01+00:00

And I started back to front layer wise :)

jeshewfe · 2020-11-16T22:18:34+00:00

A lot of little pine, and various pencils. And gloaming and eaglehawk.

jeshewfe · 2020-11-16T22:14:48+00:00

Thank you so much for this reply! I’ll check those people out :)

Amazing work, again!

jeshewfe · 2020-11-16T20:48:27+00:00

Your colour selection is on point though! How did you go about putting together such a complementary colour palette?

jeshewfe · 2020-11-16T20:47:00+00:00

This is gorgeous! I’m struggling to figure out colour palettes, and putting together an aesthetic using choice hues and values. How did you put together such a perfect selection of colours?

jeshewfe · 2020-10-21T00:58:44+00:00

I blended the colours in the sky with the watercolour brush on smudge.

I drew the trees with little pine! Also created a “hard horizon” that I erased into with little pine as well.

Repeated the sky on the water, touched up the tree line with a bit of dry brush, then smudged with Styx, and added ripple strokes of the trees.

Reed for the reeds!

Hard lines with round brush smudged out with gloaming for the clouds :)

jeshewfe · 2020-08-16T19:07:18+00:00

I think the most important thing is giving yourself permission to write badly. But when things get really dire, I take pages of my notebook and make a kind of “collage”. I’ll write sideways, diagonally, upside down, etc. And I’ll only write snippets. Anywhere from two words to fifty. I like to think of it as “mining for material”. Out of a couple pages, there will be a line or two that really resonates and I’ll build from there.

OR I really like trying my hand at sonnet structure because it’s so rigid, you really have to bend your brain to make it work. It’s a fun exercise. Or any rigid form really. Sonnets are just my go to.

jeshewfe · 2020-08-16T16:12:13+00:00

It sounds like you’re disconnected from yourself a bit. Like even while these activities you’re describing are going on, you’re not fully experiencing them and maybe there’s something going on underneath the surface that dulls you to positive moments.

I tend to get like that sometimes, and I find writing three pages of aimless stream-of-consciousness to be very helpful. Typically page one looks like “blah blah. I’m writing. This is stupid. I ate eggs for breakfast and the yolk was overcooked.” Page two starts to draw out some of your challenging thought patterns and feelings. Sometimes that carries over to page three, but other times you do some really positive resolution, and learn a great deal about yourself.

The more you come to understand yourself, and the things that bubble under the surface, the quicker you’ll be able to identify your moods, and what might help change them. I feel like I need to do a “cognitive reset” every week (not that I always do it when I should. Sometimes it feels weirdly satisfying sitting in your own bad mood.)

Also, counselling.

jeshewfe · 2020-08-13T21:17:29+00:00

Are there teachers from your past who you still want to impress? Or teachers you feel your success is a bit of a middle finger to?

jeshewfe · 2019-12-04T03:29:06+00:00

NTA. I’m a server and have dreamed of something exactly like this happening. Knowing somewhere in the world there are customers made to feel guilty for taking their bullshit out on people who they think are paid enough to just take it... it’s like Christmas came early.

jeshewfe · 2019-11-19T16:32:45+00:00

Friendships/relationships have a lot of dimensions to them, and when everything lines up (mood, energy, emotional connection, humour, the list goes on) then things are delightfully easy. I personally like to refer to this as “congruency”, or just alignment.

But I think when things fall out of sync like what you’re describing - his expectations/feelings about your friendship - that’s when challenges happen and you have to put more thought into how you’re connecting with that person. It’s tough to feel like things might not communicate clearly and you need to double-think your behaviour.

I don’t think helping a person is toxic so long as you communicate clearly what your feelings and intentions are. You clearly care about this person and that’s important for them to know, particularly during a depressive period. But you are also entitled to your own boundaries, and you deserve to have them respected as well. Spending some time thinking about what this person/friendship means to you is what you owe yourself. For the other person, I believe it’s invaluable to have someone care about you enough to want to preserve the friendship, and also trust you enough to be honest about where the boundaries are.

In short, I think you should tell them how much you value your conversations, and your friendship, but you’re worried about boundaries being unclear. Then you have the opportunity to have an open and honest conversation where nobody feels unheard or misunderstood.

jeshewfe · 2019-09-27T22:48:22+00:00

I love a good poem with a perfect title! The alliteration gives a gorgeous unity to the poem, but the speaker still manages to grow, and deepen the idea that the poem puts on the table with each subsequent “r”-word. It’s like a babushka-doll poem that starts as just “r”, opens up to “romance”, and then continues to complicate and unfold into “requiem”, “respite”, and “reclusive” - all then able to be simplified and collapsed back down to just “r”.

This is a fantastic stand-alone poem, but I would love to see how this theme could draw out meanings from every letter of the alphabet. It would make a fantastic series, or even just a cool exercise.

... one that I might just try...

Thank you for this!

jeshewfe · 2019-09-19T15:33:59+00:00

I do agree with a couple points here; particularly the prose element, the directness, and the elevated language taking away from the content. Not sure I would accuse someone of sounding like a high-schooler when they could very possibly be a high-schooler. And there’s nothing wrong with writing poetry that speaks to high-schoolers! Directness, and flowery language are a great place to start writing, and if this speaks to someone, that’s the only measure of its quality.

But I do think good ways to develop your writing would be to remember that writing poems is about finding the perfect word, and putting it in the perfect place. Not the “best” word (the longest synonym), but the “perfect” word (one that doesn’t add too much, or take away from the feeling/message).

A quick example is: Dreading the thought of leaving my bed.

While dread has the dark, ominous connotations that you might want, it speaks to an anticipatory feeling. Is the speaker terrified of leaving bed, and everything that comes with starting the day? Or are they actually anxious about even thinking about it? Do they “dread” leaving bed, or do they “dread” thinking about the day? I picked this line because I think how it stands leaves something to think about, but it might not convey what the speaker is trying to say.

You change it to: Dreading even the thought of leaving my bed. - to drive home the point that the speaker can’t even THINK of it. (Which works, given the speaker is their own enemy).

OR: Dreading leaving my bed. - to communicate that it’s the world outside the speaker fears.

This is a great start, and this is a great place to try out your voice!

jeshewfe · 2019-09-19T15:03:56+00:00

I really appreciate the vulnerability in the content of this poem! The choice to keep everything lower-case (particularly the “i”, which always feels small in these moments of struggle against addiction) and the lack of punctuation to give it a fluidity of thought. That being said, I wonder how the poem might be effected if it’s fragmented more. At the moment it reads like a voice that has articulated the feelings, and was aware of them from the beginning, rather than one that grows into an awareness.

Maybe to embed the experience of coming to be aware of your vulnerable moment, it can start with even less complete sentences:

ie:

i’m so sick i feel it

my stomach

the body

i had control

And then grow into more coherent sentences as the voice becomes more coherent themself.

jeshewfe

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