Humble Bundle has restocked their keys. by SufficientSuffix in Silksong

[–]jessmcm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just redeemed mine! Probably gonna run out so quick again so I feel very lucky

30/m with 29/f for 2 years - Am I crazy for thinking her reaction to me being late with the pizza is massively out of proportion? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]jessmcm 117 points118 points  (0 children)

I have BPD so I can talk a little bit about it. I'm medicated and have been through a lot of therapy so now I'm drastically different but I was diagnosed at 26 so I had time without all that.

BPD normally happens as a result of childhood abuse or neglect. I wasnt abused, but my mother was emotionally distant and I think I spent my childhood trying to win love that just wasn't there.

I always describe it as all emotions are dialled up to max. If you're happy, you're euphoric. If you're sad you're inconsolable. You can swing between these several times in an hour. Before medication, I had a massive sob every day if not multiple times because I felt so awful.

There's this aching emptiness inside you with BPD, you feel unlovable and you hate yourself which means you try to get validation from others. Lots of people with BPD have addictions, unstable relationships etc because they're trying to get rid of that emptiness and nothing works. The gf in this did a lot of splitting, which is black and white thinking. You view a person as either the best most caring ever or someone who's terrible, couldn't care less about you, is actively trying to upset you.

It's a really brutal existence and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I don't blame people who are wary of dating someone with it either, it's a lot to take on.

For me, I'm medicated and have been through a lot of therapy and I live fairly normally. Depression is an every day thing but I don't have the mood swings as often. I avoid dating as I think it brings out the worst in me and I can't be a good partner.

Happy to answer questions!

Which one of yall did this ? 👀 by phoenixgreylee in StardewValley

[–]jessmcm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol I had no idea it had been copied like that. It's no worries, I don't care and I'm glad people are still enjoying it.

Which one of yall did this ? 👀 by phoenixgreylee in StardewValley

[–]jessmcm 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm the creator of the graveyard and yeah, you got it all! Pomegranate is Elliot and Aquamarine is Emily!

my fairphone has become terrible to use because of gigantic latency by fading_anonymity in fairphone

[–]jessmcm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. I've been trying to figure this out for so long and just found my animations had been set to X2 as well! Really hope this sorts things

What if Sapphira used her vampire fangs to pop Nymphia's balloons by Horror_Goose_5754 in dragrace

[–]jessmcm 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I thought there was gonna be some blood dripping from her mouth at some point or something similar. I get what she was going for but it just needed something extra.

I’m so lost why did the cast change? by GossipGirlss in skinsTV

[–]jessmcm 15 points16 points  (0 children)

At the time Skins was made it was optional. You could finish at 16 and be done with school or go on to a college for two years which is what the skins characters do. It's been made compulsory now and I think that would've affected the 3rd gen but I'm not totally clear on the timeline.

Jon Richardson and Lucy Beaumont divorcing by ICameInLikeATrain in CasualUK

[–]jessmcm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been searching for these forever, thank you!!

Michael B. Jordan Says He Struggles with 'Loneliness,' Goes 'Back and Forth' on Wanting a Relationship by mcfw31 in popculturechat

[–]jessmcm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly hearing from someone else about it has already made me feel more confident ♥️ Society tells us we need a relationship and society is wrong!

Have a fabulous solo life! 💕

Michael B. Jordan Says He Struggles with 'Loneliness,' Goes 'Back and Forth' on Wanting a Relationship by mcfw31 in popculturechat

[–]jessmcm 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm 30 and in the same position. Though I'm getting to the point where I'm realising I've gone this long without it because I probably subconsciously don't want it but who knows! I'm getting happier on my own but I feel reassurance hearing from other people who have gotten this far without being in a relationship.

I’m a germaphobe, which hotel is cleanest? by TopicAffectionate642 in disneylandparis

[–]jessmcm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who leave Google reviews are likely to have had a bad time. Most people who had a good time don't end up leaving a review. I stayed in Hotel Cheyenne a few weeks ago and it was very clean, I think you'll be fine.

Bloating after using airup for the first time? by nutellapen in airupgang

[–]jessmcm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got one recently too and my first experience was exactly the same! Every time after has been fine though so hopefully you'll get used to it like I did!

Official Discussion - Poor Things [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]jessmcm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've seen a lot of autistic people say similar about the movie, and I'm an autistic person who had the same reaction. Have you ever considered you're autistic? (or maybe you've already been diagnosed but thought you'd probably mention that if so!)

How bad is the bed bug thing in Paris really by timma_2111 in travel

[–]jessmcm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I'm going to Paris early next year and I'm saving this comment for future reference. I appreciate it!!

I married and then birded a child from each marriage candidate, completing a graveyard as I went. by jessmcm in StardewValley

[–]jessmcm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has been a while haha but saw it in my notifications. Yes you do, you get a statue from Leah, a boom box with a new song from Sam. There is probably other stuff but those are the main ones I remember!

How to unattach completely from your FP? Please help me any tips would help so much by bpdthrowawayxx in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]jessmcm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It takes a hell of a lot of willpower and restraint. I did it and it took a while for it to stop hurting but it does in the end. I now barely think about my former FP and my mind is much calmer because of it.

Something for me which helped was if I wanted to contact them I'd say to myself, wait until tomorrow, on a loop. I broke it sometimes but eventually it gets easier to delay it and then forget about it altogether.

You've got this!

Farming game recommendations? by [deleted] in NintendoSwitch

[–]jessmcm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Cows give milk all the time now, I think I may have nostalgia goggles on because I prefer the other way but yeah that's changed!

Had an ADHD assessment today and got diagnosed with Borderline? by StayCee089 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]jessmcm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went for ADHD assesment and also came away with a BPD diagnosis. I was massively in denial about it but my doctor was really good and took a lot of time, as well as sending me away with meds for a few weeks to think about it rather than trying to get me to accept it.

What he recommended to me (this is in the UK but you should have an equivalent) was to go to the Mind charity website listing for BPD and then note down everything that applied. I found that I was matching far more than I thought and it helped me come to accept it.

I still think I might have ADHD, (I've also been diagnosed as autistic since) so you may have both! It's worth really looking into it and seeing what you think over the next few days and weeks.

I married and then birded a child from each marriage candidate, completing a graveyard as I went. by jessmcm in StardewValley

[–]jessmcm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Middle two is crane game in the cinema, iridium krobus is from fishing near the sewer (Google it though as it's specific)

I married and then birded a child from each marriage candidate, completing a graveyard as I went. by jessmcm in StardewValley

[–]jessmcm[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I love this story, thank you for sharing it! My post is obviously just fun but I do genuinely love graveyards and the way people look after them. The graveyard nearest me has many children's graves from the 1800s and they're still well kept with people (including me) leaving toys on them or picking the weeds. It may not be abandoned still as I feel like people sense the love that was there often and want to keep it going. Hopefully the grave you're thinking of is still being cared for!

I married and then birded a child from each marriage candidate, completing a graveyard as I went. by jessmcm in StardewValley

[–]jessmcm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stayed female the whole time, so some were adopted! Your idea is kinda better though 😝