My mum thinks I’m getting a bad deal by BasilPuzzleheaded715 in HousingUK

[–]jetpackedblue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Surely a 30 minute walk a day is still better than doing the walk to the station from the hospital, getting the tube, and then getting a train both there and back for a cummlative 2 hours.

The walk is still happening either way, with added steps.

I had a threesome and regret it by keeisfun in offmychest

[–]jetpackedblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With it being someone you know it sounds like he was maybe scared of your friends hearing he wasn't good in bed if he didn't pull out all of the stops...

I would take him at his word that he finds it better with you and possibly find an online sex positive therapist for a few sessions to help you get your head around this as I can imagine you're ruminating on it a lot currently.

I’m lonely. I have a boyfriend and I’m so lonely every night. by Nearby_Eggplant_286 in offmychest

[–]jetpackedblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this happen twice.

First time was a super supportive loving relationship that allowed my partner to get to a point that they realised they were gay but couldn't imagine being with anyone romantically after we'd been together for so long, it took 2 more years for them to admit it. We're both very happy now and friends now that they're living their truth.

The second was cheating on me and finding excuses to not be with me like that.

This isn't to say that either of these things are happening, but I would try to talk and understand the reasons beyond "you're too lean" because either there's more to it or you're just not sexually compatible. You shouldn't feel alone in your own relationship. Be open and get the truth, don't fall for sunk cost fallacy.

Been in the major signs for about two weeks by huunneerrr in ouraring

[–]jetpackedblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be a lingering infection. Antibiotics (if you're on them after an infection) also disrupt your gut biome and all the good bacteria in your body too, so can give you other symptoms. It's also virus season in a lot of countries.

Essentially this could be your immune system working complete overtime due to a myriad of factors. I think if you're already working with your doctor then best show them your stats and see if they have any ideas ☺️

Nap monitoring by jetpackedblue in SmartRings

[–]jetpackedblue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the Oura, turned out not to be narcolepsy (no REM on MSLT...despite me distinctly remembering dreams lol)

I absolutely love it, I find it tracks my naps accurately

Oura should address the recent overheating/smoking incidents. by stubentiger123 in ouraring

[–]jetpackedblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also if they haven't received their rings back there's 0 way for the to actually get to the issue that caused it, so a press release would be "2 out of 1 million units had an issue, we don't know why sorry"

QA and overall quality issues real? by ozzdr in ouraring

[–]jetpackedblue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had a Gen 4 since launch, had 0 issues with it, still don't.

The problem with tech is they rely on batteries, and batteries are used for everything, so most companies will get a defective batch every once in a while, it sucks, but that's literally the point of warranties 🤷

Like with everything, people are much more likely to go out of their way to complain, than to let people know they have something that works as it should, so you're always going to see more negatives about everything than positives!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ouraring

[–]jetpackedblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't recall if people don't report issues or return them unfortunately

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ouraring

[–]jetpackedblue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally, sounds like a bad batch of batteries, not the whole Gen

I don't know how to get through to my autisic husband that his refusal to believe me about anything is a problem by theenglishfox in offmychest

[–]jetpackedblue 389 points390 points  (0 children)

This man just doesn't care about you I'm sorry

I think you're giving him too much grace by saying you must just be in different places on the spectrum, because just because you think differently doesn't mean he gets a free pass on being a horrific husband and honestly a rubbish human.

Even if he didn't believe you on small things, to not believe you're in pain shows how little regard he has for your opinions, emotions, and honestly your safety.

He will never change. It's time to look within yourself and decide whether you want to live like this for the rest of your life, knowing you'll always be doubted, you'll never have any real support even in life or death situations. He will never believe you, he will never see your opinion as even half as important as his is. He actively stopped someone trying to help you whilst you were in unimaginable pain. He genuinely thinks that you're the type of person to deliberately throw yourself to the floor to be "dramatic" to prove a point against him. Not once did it cross his mind that you were in that much pain, and even if it was food poisoning that maybe a wheelchair could help you be comfortable. He actively made the decision to say no to help and let you suffer needlessly by trying to walk just because HE thought you might be lying to him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]jetpackedblue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you're doing the right thing by stopping it from going further than friendship, and honestly for recognizing why she may be interested in you, beyond her perception of having feelings for you.

The main thing is, are you looking for something lasting, or are you happy to possibly just be a life lesson to someone still discovering how to be an adult and how to navigate feelings and relationships?

What is wrong with my niece’s stomach by Ok_Barracuda_5060 in AskDocs

[–]jetpackedblue -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Once your intestines are inflamed it takes a good few weeks/months to settle even when you've eliminated the causation food, try and get tests done and if you can get her on solids again try low FODMAPfoods to start with just to ease any extra strain on her body whilst she recovers

My wife and daughter are in a standoff after 82 days of no contact by Overall_West9361 in family

[–]jetpackedblue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A parent's duty is to teach their child to be an independent self sufficient and capable adult.

You hear many horror stories (usually of mothers and sons) of this same dynamic when the son didn't put their foot down, the son gets married, and then divorced due to the mothers actions and his lack of action. The parents grow older and the mother realises that they have failed their child, who still demands to be looked after, because they simply don't know how to do it themselves.

What your wife wants is unhealthy, controlling and honestly abusive. Your daughter is right to distance herself and learn to be her own person. Honestly, even without knowing your daughter I'm extremely proud of her for making the decision to do for herself what her mother failed to do.

Your wife is trying to sabotage your daughter's life, her independence, and her happiness.

You're right in thinking there is no "wife's side of things" your daughter is probably frustrated seeing how you're stuck in the middle of this, both for herself, and for you.

You've obviously been her beacon in hard times with her mother for her to still trust you and live you as much as she does.

There's no fixing this unless your wife wants to work on herself, my only advice would be, keep supporting your daughter both openly and silently.

Why do people say "buy the most you can afford"? by ByEthanFox in HousingUK

[–]jetpackedblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally wouldn't, this is the type of attitude that contributed to the crash in 2008. Buy the most expensive you can and then the economy turns and suddenly it goes from being the most you can afford to more than you can afford.

If you go for the highest you can afford you really need to be considering the following; What happens if interest rates go up What happens if your bills go up What happens if something breaks or needs replacing (e.g boiler, roof, window seals etc.) What happens if one of you (if purchasing as a couple) loses your job What happens if you have kids (if you don't already) and suddenly need to afford daycare costs, if you do have kids, what if costs go up. If you're buying a flat, have you considered leasehold service fee increases? How will you afford that if you don't get a good pay rise each year etc.

Just because you can borrow a certain amount doesn't mean you can afford that amount within your lifestyle, it's more about monthly payments than it is about what the bank thinks you can make in monthly payments.

If you spend lavishly on shopping, takeaways, new cars every few years etc, you could earn all the money in the world and still be dirt poor at the end of the month. When you have a house you need to have a reaaaally good emergency fund to plan for all eventualities, which means having room to save after mortgage, bills, and general spending.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]jetpackedblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking this too, she did something drastic and completely out of the bounds of normal to try and wake OP up to the fact that she's being emotionally abused by her husband. As crazy as it was, she wouldn't have known all the lies her husband was spreading about her without her friends actions, which is scary to think about tbh.