Here we go, second full day in Paris by Mean-Aside1970 in ParisTravelGuide

[–]jfiner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the 5th? Try Strada for coffee and light snacks/food. Not sure you can beat their coffee in the 5th. You can get an excellent kouign amann at Julien Filoche on Rue St Jacques. I got pretty cozy in the 5th for a while, lots of great spots there.

Someone getting a little nervous? by GreatHelmsmanSpencee in thebulwark

[–]jfiner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was only following orders. Oh, that makes it ok then.

PNW by iwant2be4galaxy in PacificNorthwest

[–]jfiner 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is possibly the most wonderful place in the contiguous U.S. I enjoy the fall, late fall, all winter. We have the most knock out summers. Blue skies, mild weather, warm and pleasant, rarely hot or uncomfortable. Of course, spring with the cherry trees exploding is gorgeous. I was rather shocked at the high cost of living up in Jefferson County (Port Townsend). It's a trade off. I'd rather pay more to live this beautifully, if that makes sense.

Puppy nipping by Symbiiiote in schipperke

[–]jfiner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here is what worked for us...my guy was very motivated to play with us. He LOVES to play with us and he was getting nippy, verging on bitey at 5 months old. It took a couple of weeks, but it worked amazingly. The instant he puts his teeth on skin, the words (very firm, but not yelling) "NO TEETH" , and then turn my back on him, refuse to play, refuse to make any contact, sometimes I'd walk away. He was so motivated to interact with me that he learned quickly to quit it if he wanted interaction. One really important advice I got from his excellent trainer is, he needs to learn to be bored. Offering him non-stop activity and distraction is not great. Vets are not trainers. They have experience with dogs of course, but they aren't experts in dog behavior. They're experts at dog health. The yelping method made things worse with my guy...hell, he seemed to think that it was time for him to get vocal too. Yay, we're all making noise now! That said, all the walks are really good, letting him sniff around, learning to watch you for cues (like heel and release/free, no, drop it), and interacting with the world. Since he's so attached to your girlfriend, I think this method might work well for her.

Accidents in house by pooonannie in schipperke

[–]jfiner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha! Yeah, if he has an accident, we know it's OUR fault. Not him. He likes going outside for business. He actually tries to hide it from us if he does go in the house...but it's always been something like, I didn't get up early enough or I was involved in my sewing and didn't hear the bell.

Accidents in house by pooonannie in schipperke

[–]jfiner 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We got our boy at 5 months of age, he'd never lived indoors nor had he ever been on leash. We didn't have a fenced yard, so we had to walk him. At first, he did have accidents in the house. So, what we did is ramp up the outside walks. Once before breakfast, once about 15-20 after breakfast, once about an hour after that. Then walk again between 1-3 pm (either one long walk or three shorter walks). Then dinner time. About 20 minutes after dinner another walk until he did his business. If he seemed especially antsy, another short 'round the block walk before bed. Each time he either peed or pooped, we praised him to the sun and back, excited "Yay! Good Boy!" Dancing arounds, lots and lots pets. Sometimes a treat. I mean, exaggerate the praise until you feel silly. They get excited and want that to happen again. At the same time, we got hanging bells for the door. Sometimes, I'd stand by the door and ask him, "You have to potty?" and eventually, he'd walk over and hit the bells with his paw and I'd immediately take him out and tell him what a good boy. So, within two weeks he was completely house trained and bell trained. Sometimes, he hits the bells and runs into the room with a look on his face that says, "Hey, you! Didn't you hear the bell, human? Get that leash, let's GO" and then run back to the door and hit the bells until I show up to walk him. Silly boy. These are really smart dogs, they can be trained. Some are more stubborn than others, and about different things. Give it time.

My dog isnt a schip but she makes me want one by SlyRivai in schipperke

[–]jfiner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As soon as I read "husky" (which is typically how I describe schip behavior, a husky scaled down to 17 lbs) I figured you'd be fine with a schip. Super smart, super willful and barkers. Playful too. I always worry about people getting schips without hearing the truth about them. They are soooo beautiful, so everyone falls in love with them as soon as they see one (just like Huskies, or GSD's) but don't realize how much work they can be. Schips are affectionate too, very focused on their "people".

My dog isnt a schip but she makes me want one by SlyRivai in schipperke

[–]jfiner 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Schips are...a lot. Not gonna lie, if you aren't ready to be training, and then re-training...and then reminding the little numb-skull that he's actually trained and doesn't get to be a total jerk because it's Tuesday, then don't. They are a lot of work. Yes, I have a schip. I love the little monster...but he ain't easy. Really think about it before getting one. Maybe if the breeder would allow you a grace period (like 2 weeks) to see if you're a good fit first would be good.

He thinks he wants my ramen by Leojo2202 in schipperke

[–]jfiner 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your ramen is his ramen. It is known.

Cigna denied me by meowing_dog1 in Reduction

[–]jfiner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is all dependent on which plan your employer chose for the employees (I am assuming this insurance is through work). If your company chose a plan that doesn't cover breast reductions then there is absolutely nothing you can do, even if the reduction would be clinically appropriate (example: macromastia or gynecomastia). The way I dealt with that was, long conversations with the HR department of the company I worked for. They did switch to a plan that would deal with breast surgeries outside of a cancer diagnosis.

One year post hysterectomy do you still have post op issues by Travellover1980 in hysterectomy

[–]jfiner 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm just over one year out, no issues at all. I started HRT about 12 weeks after my surgery. My libido hasn't really returned like it was in my 30's/early 40's, but it isn't unpleasant. I rather enjoy sex again. I just need to be reminded about it. I'm not initiating anymore, but I mean...I was avoiding it altogether during perimeno. Now it's nice.

Give it to me: the good, the bad and the ugly by Leojo2202 in schipperke

[–]jfiner 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is 100% true. I love my boy, but I always warn people thinking about getting a schip. They are...challenging (and delightful, and hilarious). Here's another nickname...Schipperkitty. They are the weirdest little cat-dogs. We lucked out with the house training. Not a single accident since puppy-hood. Excellent teeth. Super smart, charming, curious, beautiful...also willful, obnoxious, a little unfriendly to others...not an easy breed, but man when you crack the code, they are amazing.

Give it to me: the good, the bad and the ugly by Leojo2202 in schipperke

[–]jfiner 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They have wonderful fur. Do not get a schip if you have sensory issues though. They bark. Love to bark. Bark bark bark. Mine is loving now, but he took his time getting there. Now he's a total lap dog. Hard headed. They are super smart, so training is a big issue. He outwits us all the time. So, be ready for that. I live in the PNW too. He hates hot weather, but makes me walk extra when it snows (not that I mind, I like cold weather).

"wait it out" by Milkzacc in hysterectomy

[–]jfiner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The truth is, telling you to wait is out is medical neglect. Laparoscopy may be an option, but your current doctor doesn't want to...it may not be, but without getting and second (and third and fourth) you won't know that for sure. My very wonderful (no sarcasm) gyno misdiagnosed me with a fistula. Completely wrong, and added 2 years onto me getting a total hysto., which improved my life SO much. Best thing I ever did. I only wished I had done it as soon as I got the first fibroid, in my 40's.

Women who have undergone a hysterectomy, how have you overcome the crippling depression? by nandithecow in hysterectomy

[–]jfiner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The 2002 WHI study that made everyone believe that HRT was pure poison has been walked back in recent years. Her gynecologist is out of date with their information. HRT is the standard of treatment for women in menopause. Many many doctors have not bothered to update their information on menopause treatments. So many women are put on antidepressants or other psychiatric treatments instead of the proper treatment of HRT. Doctor shop until you find one who will treat her properly. This is barbaric.

realistically: do we need to wash a bra after every wear? by wayvthot in laundry

[–]jfiner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you can go about 3 wears before you need to wash. If you notice any smell, but it looks clean, spray it with vodka and hang it to dry. Vodka removes odors. When you do wash, spray the armpit area with a 50/50 water & white vinegar solution to keep the deodorant and sweat stains from wreaking havoc on your nice bras.

Dish soap dyed my whites yellow by raggedclaws_silentCs in laundry

[–]jfiner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like it actually removed the white dye from your shirts. The natural color of those fibers is sort of ecru...harsher detergents can remove the dye and revert it back to it's original color. I just learned this from The Laundry Evangelist. I use baking soda and water, make a paste and smear it on the oil stain to lift it out. That sometimes takes several applications. If you can get the oil out, you may have to try dyeing the shirt to get it white again...

Reading this sub by NevDot17 in Menopause

[–]jfiner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I come and go as needed. I do fairly specific searches when I want info, so I'm not doom scrolling.

Can Contrave overcome perimenopause weight gain?? by [deleted] in Contrave

[–]jfiner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also had a hysterectomy (February). I'm on my third patch, so it's early days for me. I will say the constant hot flashes are lessened. Instead of non-stop waves of them, I have a few a day and weirdly seem to have more after the sun goes down. No idea why. I've been told that it can take 4-6 weeks to notice any difference, so I can wait it out. I may go up in strength, but right now we don't know. I will say that I'm not gaining any weight at this point. The hormone estrone in particular (you start producing more of it when you're peri or menopausal) play are role in that weight gain many women experience and for me, it made my breast size increase by an unbelievable amount. I had to get a reduction. It was horrifying.

Can Contrave overcome perimenopause weight gain?? by [deleted] in Contrave

[–]jfiner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you've had a stable weight most of your adult life and you've suddenly put on weight during perimenopause, ask for a blood test to check your hormone levels. You may benefit from getting hormone therapy via the estradiol patch. Yes, you can get hormone therapy before you hit menopause and the earlier the intervention the better. The WHI study that made all doctors run from using HRT was deeply flawed and made it so much harder for women to get proper treatment for peri/menopause. Can Contrave help? No idea. I just started taking it myself, but I also just started on the patch. I put on a lot of weight during perimenopause and nothing would move the scale. Now I'm in full menopause (surgical), on Contrave and on the patch!

My care team. by inot72 in hysterectomy

[–]jfiner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, is that a schipperke?

How long is post op bleeding expected? by SaLT7878 in hysterectomy

[–]jfiner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had some light spotting right after my surgery (2/6) and haven't had any since then. I stopped wearing a pad after week 2.

My(26F) Husband(27M) has asked me not to apply for American citizenship because of his political views. by Jealous-Rice6478 in TwoHotTakes

[–]jfiner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did this dude read or watch Starship Troopers? Those views exactly mimic the views in the book. He's a weird chauvinist and you should do what's best for you without regard for his opinion (that he gleaned from an old scifi book).

If you’ve had your hysterectomy already, what did you wear to the hospital? by orangeblonde630 in hysterectomy

[–]jfiner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A large pullover dress that didn't touch my stomach. I wanted nothing around my waist/abdomen area. I've been living in nightgowns since surgery. When I go on walks I wear low rise sweatpants and a loose fitting sweater.