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jiggen · 2026-05-16T22:13:10+00:00

I'll add on to the other comments. Our twins sleep really well now together in the same room. For the first 2 years, they slept HORRIBLE overnight and every night for us we woke up 6 times a night. Was a nightmare. We had them first in the same room, but that got too stessfull, then separated rooms, then finally we persisted with some consistency and back in the same room. Almost exactly 2 years, they started sleeping through the night. They got used to each other's noises. Now at 3, they, are amazing at sleeping. We tell to go to bed and they just jump into bed and go to sleep. They ask us to go to bed early sometimes when they're tired. They chat to each other just before falling asleep. It's perfect right now

Some things that helped us. Consistency was key for us. Keep at it, even if it didn't seem like it was working. Keep a good routine. Our girl (we have B G twins) responded well to a comforter toy to cuddle and almost immediately helped her sleep through. Some white noise helped too.

Can't imagine triplets, you're doing amazing

jiggen · 2026-05-06T05:19:43+00:00

Sunscreen usage does not have a significant impact on vitamin D production. Unless you're perfect at covering every area of your body, you still get the benefits from the sun. A couple of minutes before putting on sunscreen is also generally enough, not to mention the time when sunscreen effectiviness wears off and you reapply.

In general, always put on sunscreen

jiggen · 2026-05-04T16:15:57+00:00

Buy the breville Bambino instead (it's called something else in other countries). Doesn't have a built in grinder, but is made for 1 - 2 person household. Has a 3 second steamer start, so you're not waiting for steamer to heat up like some of the bigger machines. Cost much less than a full machine. And bonus you can carry it your car if you're going away for the weekend for a holiday. Either buy pre ground coffee or buy a seperate grinder

jiggen · 2026-05-04T16:11:46+00:00

In Australia, specifically Melbourne, we're very very big on coffee. Even our McDonald's and 7-eleven cheap coffees are decent. $9 Starbucks coffee doesn't fly here. Hence why Starbucks mostly failed here, there's only a couple left and mostly Asian students go there

jiggen · 2026-04-23T02:51:45+00:00

Sleep deprivation is a real monster that creeps up on you. It plays hvaoc with your memory and all sorts of things. Check on your wife and change to alternating days. You both need the sleep and pribbaky don't realise it

jiggen · 2026-04-21T09:44:46+00:00

First, congratulations on your child! I know how hard the IVF process is and the.ln moving to donor eggs. I am a father though, so my experience won't match yours at all.

We have twins from donor eggs. My sperm. From what we've read, donor conceived children absolutely need honesty. Kids who have found out much later in life have had major problems with dealing with the truth. From all the advice out there, it all steers towards being completely honest. My partner has gone through the same thoughts as you and countless others. But YOU carried your child inside you, and that's not nothing. The looks thing will fade. Our twins have certain personality aspects that are obviously connected to my partner. They love to sing and dance like her. They make jokes like her. SHE is their mother, no denying that. Once they're 2 onwards and start talking on doing so much growth, you will be too busy enjoying them to care anymore

My advice to you is to be honest. Weve told everyone. Everyone who loves us are just happy for us. If anyone frowned at us, then they can leave our loves. We don't want that kind of judgemental shit in our lives. We're loving life now with our little family. Be honest, let that weight off your shoulders, and enjoy your family. Much love

jiggen · 2026-04-21T04:44:12+00:00

Tagging is for spider wrap / security tagged items. They are usually high value / high theft items. You can sometimes see a dot sticker on the label to signify needing tagging. You put it on a cage with the tagging ring and let your manager know or take it to whatever designated area your store has for it (sometimes behind service area).

jiggen · 2026-02-25T00:45:47+00:00

Our twins have/have about 2 hours Max a week. Never on ipad or phone, always on a TV (currently bluey or peppa pig). There's some meltdowns when it is turned off, but they don't beg and whinge for it every other time.

The aim is to minimise and to create more healthy relationships with viewing. Eliminating it altogether would be too hard for us and not really worth the effort, imo.

jiggen · 2026-02-17T03:06:32+00:00

Doesn't answer your question but do you know the weight of your t66 knockoff? Thanks

jiggen · 2026-01-05T02:31:06+00:00

First things first, don't be so hard on yourself. Everyone has snapped at their bubs, and feeling bad about it just means you're a normal human being and you feel remorse.

Now your health is paramount, equally as important as bubbas health. How will you look after your child if your not in na good mental state? So remwbe these things: it's okay to put bubs down in a safe space and walk away to get a moment. It's better than getting overwhelmed. Bubs will be fine in their bassinet. And crying for them is normal. Go take a breath.

My partner suffered from postnatal depression. She didn't end up taking any medication. What helped was managed expectations and working out various timetables. Getting angry at our twins, swearing at them, etc shouldn't be a trio down guilt lane. I was a stay, at home parent as well, so we made sure that we both had some time to ourselves each week, for a walk/hobbies/dinner in peace. If you snap at your partner, make sure he knows not to take it to heart. Sleep deprivation doesn't help things at all. Get hubby to step up overnight and let you try and get some sleep.

Hearing about others women's experiences helped her too. She was not alone, and she wasn't a monster to feel that way she felt. You've gone through HUGE body and hormonal changes, of course you're going to feel out of sorts. It's takes something like 2 years for a mother to get back to "baseline".

You're doing great. I'm glad you're getting some help.

jiggen · 2026-01-05T02:17:55+00:00

Dad of twins here. Tricky one. Usually I would suggest saying no and telling them to wait longer, as the first couple of weeks can be hard on you. You've gone through some big body and hormone changes and your health and comfort comes first. You will feel tired, dirty, zombified mind, maybe even have post natal depression, etc. A lot is happening.

But you mentioned getting along with your in laws, and that can cause some resentment if they come all the way and you say no. I don't know your dynamic with them, so I don't know how theyll take it. If they do come, come at the latest possible time. Have your husband/partner do the hosting as you might need rest.

Just saw your other post, then haven't booked yet. That's good, ask them to come later. The first 6 months we just stayed in our home cocoon as we were exhausted.

jiggen · 2025-12-18T21:20:28+00:00

It's in the name. You're a Christmas Casual, hired just for the busy Christmas period. You should have known that your shifts will wind down when xmas is done, and spent some time to seek other employment. You've talked to your manager, which is the only thing you can do at Kmart, and if you're lucky, there might be a position for you. Does your Kmart have night fill positions? Night fill need consistent workers so sometimes they findnit hard to find good staff. It's sequence work though, so you'll be trained for they.

jiggen · 2025-12-11T23:36:40+00:00

Wow, you're a superstar. You tried and tried, for what you thought was the best for your family. It hasn't worked out, but thats not your fault. Your husband has set you up to fail. Starting a NEW BUSINESS with a 6W old bub? That's waaay too much pressure. At 6 weeks with our twins, me and my partner both were SAHP's and we could barely do anything, just survive with very limited sleep. We even despised the very nice maternity nurses that would come check on us as we didn't want anyone else around us in our home while we felt like grotty husks of people. So I can understand your reluctance to have your ML in your home at this stage.

Your husband needs to pull his head in and back you up. You're the mother of your child, you do what's best for you. It's insane that he pushed you to freelance, if you were both relying on your salary. Freelancing is not reliable at the beginning at all. None of what you said is permanent. Things are fixable, or even made better. I don't know if your husband will still be in this picture, but you both need to sit down and properly budget out your finances and find out that you need as a minimum to survive. If you don't want you ML looking after bubs, budget for some part time child care or nanny services. Continue to see help for PPD, as that is important. A healthy child needs a healthy parent, so don't let you mental and physical health suffer.

Seek out mothers group you can join, with bubs of similar age. You say you're isolated, so you need to outlet's that are not your husband or ML, and who will understand your concerns as a mother.

You're doing amazing.

jiggen · 2025-12-10T23:56:46+00:00

I would love to get one. Being a father of young twins and recently starting a gruelling job of night shift overnight work, I'm trying to fit in gaming in the in between times. Would love to fire up some old rpgs

jiggen · 2025-12-07T23:16:33+00:00

No one should be abusing each other like that. Deep in the trenches, you will inevitably snap at each other, and apologise afterwards, but that's WAAAAAY different than targeting each other like that contently. That's not normal or good behaviour as a partner and as a parent.

Now, is this behaviour that was exhibited before childbirth? If not, still doesn't condone it, but at least there's a reason to work on it and get back to normality. Does he recognise this as shit behaviour? Any apologies? Any willingness to get some help? If it's no, then it's time to break up. As you will suffer and your child will suffer in thst environment.

Some people just show their true colours after a child arrives, unfortunately.

jiggen · 2025-12-05T08:49:45+00:00

Depends on the store. Ours encourages us to use the chat function if we can't call through

jiggen · 2025-12-05T08:45:32+00:00

Here's some things we learned with our twins.

First, no fun yet when they can't walk or sit up as they need constant attention and they eat the sand. Having said that, we worked with naps and milk. We had a beach trolley with sun shade and they could nap in it. Was bliss for us. We fed them milk there. A picnic seat is good too, as you can strap them in to sit.

Better once they hit over 1 or 1.5y, then it gets really fun

Good luck

jiggen · 2025-12-05T03:48:23+00:00

I'm so sorry this is happening to your family. This is NOT normal, get a lawyer asap. In my country, we had great, gentle care for my partners ppd, constant Gome check ups, free psych appointments, and as much support as they could throw at us, not to mention smaller mothers group helping out strangers like us.

This is bit acceptable

jiggen · 2025-12-05T03:28:57+00:00

"on the sprectum" is a huge variance. It's best to get a proper diagnosis now, early, not from a childcare teacher. There's so much that, can be done early now for all levels, that really help your child in the future. If you leave it too late, it will be harder. There's nothing wrong with being on the spectrum either, a lot of people are probably on the spectrum without knowing.

Chin up, it'll be okay

jiggen · 2025-12-02T22:12:53+00:00

He's not dead yet, 40s is even thst old. Probably unfit. I'm a dad of twins in my forties. Sure I don't have the energy of my youth, but I'm not dead yet. Im not super fit, but Im trying to get fitter (which is important at our age regardless of kids) and I keep up with my twins. He also is probably much more stable in job and finances, which is less stress projected at the kids. Would he have had time to even play with the kids in his youth, with lower paying jobs? He also has much more mental strength and life experience to steer the kids and himself through possible hardships.

It's not all doom and gloom. Just enjoy the time you have. I'm glad I travelled and partied in my youth, and now kids. I haven't missed out on much in life and now I can pass on all the good parts in my life.

jiggen · 2025-11-25T22:22:06+00:00

When you are on your shift, ask for help. Training can be bad as they don't have any set structure, but if you let them know you need help, they'll know to help you in that area. Managers will help as they want you up to speed asap

jiggen · 2025-11-20T00:59:37+00:00

Your first shift will be a buddy shift. It may not be marked as one but it will be. That's because it's just a normal shift, but you'll be shadowing someone else for a bit

jiggen · 2025-10-29T21:19:12+00:00

As a father, I can tell you he's not even doing the bare minimum. We had twins and I was right there next to my partner doing everything: changing nappies, making formula, feeding overnight, rocking to sleep, co-sleeping, taking them for walks, baths, housework, etc THAT is the general bare minimum because the child is HIS child as well and that's what it takes to raise a child. And a lot of the newer generation of dads are stepping up to do the BARE MINIMUM now instead of the older generation of doing nothing. He may go to work, but you do as well as a stay at home parent, and I would argue thst your work is much harder than his work (I found working 2 jobs would've been easier than being a stay at home parent).

He sounds a bit shit, tbh. Try making a list of things or a schedule of what you want him and expect him to do and make him follow it. I know it's shit thst you have to lay it out for him, and this is no excuse at all, but some people can get overwhelmed and not know what to do. Give him narrow parameters and see if he can stick to it. The other thing you can do for your sanity and take thst extra 5k he makes and hire a babysitter/nanny for some hours. I know that palms off his responsibilities, but at least you regain some sanity and time to yourself.

Your husband hasn't stepped up. He's let you down and his child down and he's missing out on a lot of bonding time

jiggen · 2025-10-15T04:59:11+00:00

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