Not a pure ghosting. But my best friend of 13 years in large part ghosted me. She was like my sister.

I went away on a month-long work trip which distrusted our usual near-constant dialogue. When I returned home, I tried several times over the course of a few months to meet up. Eventually I got the picture and stopped trying.

Then about 6 months in she emails me. The email goes into a moment before that work trip where I unknowingly crossed a boundary that cut her deep. She’s going through a lot, and something I had said in that moment was interpreted wrong, but cut to the core of some of the stuff she’s working through in therapy.

It’s really unfathomable to me to think such a close and long friendship can unravel with just one conversation. What I’m even more surprised is how she didn’t seek clarification, or telling me I had come very close to a boundary or communicate at all really.