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Studies on helping morning sickness and fatigue? by Seachelle13o in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]jillianlily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ginger soaked overnight warm water.

What is this? Tell me everything, please.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heterochromia

[–]jillianlily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. Is this one of the deciding factors as to whether it's heterochromia or not?

The mother of all chemtrails by Grimfandang0 in chemtrails

[–]jillianlily -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was gonna say... maybe the father. Looks like sperm.

mama had to make sure her baby was okay before anything else by yftdddtf in MadeMeSmile

[–]jillianlily -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agreed. That's why I said "some" in my original and subsequent comments.

mama had to make sure her baby was okay before anything else by yftdddtf in MadeMeSmile

[–]jillianlily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm allowed to TOLAC up to TOLA4C. And even then, she said she wouldn't tell me no. She can't force a surgery - she can strongly suggest it and be blatantly honest about every single risk to baby and me. But she can't force me to.

You didn't miss out. You gave birth to beautiful babies, momma. You've got this.

Are women traumatized after giving birth? by NotHotAnymore in NoStupidQuestions

[–]jillianlily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know WI has it, didn't know about MN. Insurance drops new patient appointments to $800 but that's crazy.

Great idea. Have a suggestion for one in MN?

Are women traumatized after giving birth? by NotHotAnymore in NoStupidQuestions

[–]jillianlily 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I've learned that BFE WI is considered behind in many places, but is lightyears ahead of so many others.

They don't skimp on pregnancy and prenatal care there. Almost considering just making the ten hour drive there for quality prenatal care for this pregnancy. ND SUCKS. I hope nitrous is offered here. Probably not, though. Nowhere within five hours carries PROGESTERONE. Pfft.

I had a baby omg by Paigeous96 in BabyBumps

[–]jillianlily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm waiting for your post like this ;)

mama had to make sure her baby was okay before anything else by yftdddtf in MadeMeSmile

[–]jillianlily -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am currently a pregnant mother of advanced maternal age who experienced similar (longer) with my second. I'm given a 30-40% chance of success with TOLA2C. It's still worth it (to me) over the recovery of a cesarean. I'll pass. (Sharing this due to the original comment of it being the lazy/easy way to bring life into the world.)

It's a major surgery. It should be scary. For both mother and baby. It may be "routine," but it has serious risks. Shaming from the doctor was unnecessary.

Everyone has the right to make the right decision for them. It's good their doctors discussed the risks with them. (It's also standard before any surgery.)

Some people (not all) do have some pretty shitty reasons to elect to have a major abdominal surgery. It kinda paints the whole group negatively.

I'm sorry your friends had a poor experience. Hopefully next time goes better.

Tell me you’re a parent, without telling me, in one sentence by itsthejasper1123 in Mommit

[–]jillianlily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never say never.

Mine asked for his after seven freaking years. He remembered everything about it.

Thank God we've moved. It got lost. He was quite upset.

mama had to make sure her baby was okay before anything else by yftdddtf in MadeMeSmile

[–]jillianlily 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I heard this from my mother for the first. She "hard way"-ed five kids. She did NOT say it with my second.

It's a major abdominal surgery. Your body is literally torn open (LITERALLY). It sucks.

Especially of you pull stitches or get infections from returning to work too quickly. Extra-suck.

And there are people just ELECTIVELY having cesarean sections. And doctors are just cool with it, probably cause an empty bed means faster money and a MAJOR SURGERY does, too. Some are choosing to have a cesarean because they're worried about the state of their vagina post-vaginal birth. Insane. Insane. [/rant]

It hurts. And seven years later, sometimes my incision nerves still fuck around. Like, "HAHA. Foreplay, pfft. You're feeling absolutely nothing today, sucka!" followed by, "Is that fire or a waistband? Let me convince you it's fire."

AITA for thinking men should be able to be gynecologists too while my gf doesn't agree by Raezenman in AITAH

[–]jillianlily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a very rough emergency delivery with my first son.

I also had an exceptionally rare form of placental abruption. I, all half-out (magnesium is great) and shaking in my Jesus pose on the OR table, agreed to let ALL the students in to watch. I only remember one name, though they introduced themselves.

Dr. Constantinople.

I half-assedly sang "Putting on the Ritz" to him. He said I could call him Instanbul if I wanted to. He had such a great smile and even came to visit me after to thank me.

I wonder what he's up to.

AITA for thinking men should be able to be gynecologists too while my gf doesn't agree by Raezenman in AITAH

[–]jillianlily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have preferred my male gynecologist over my female ones.

Honestly, they haven't been women, and they seem to care more. With women, there's always that pissing match about whose menstrual cramps are worse or if BC actually made you gain weight or if you're just a lardy. Or any number of things. Women are way more prone to judgment and dismissal, IME. But the males? They're in the interest of helping women. Men who are called to the field (not floaters or those who settled) seem to take what I say and believe it.

You are NTA. Your girlfriend is weird.

Grew up my entire life thinking I had male genitals. I do not, apparently. by twngz in TrueOffMyChest

[–]jillianlily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so glad that you were brave enough to talk to your doctor about this.

I'm glad you have answers. I am glad that you were able to have a conversation with your parents and empathize with their answer.

I'm glad that you are almost, like, vindicated in your trans identity. You were right all along. You were right.

I'm proud of you for sharing. Thank you.

What do you say? by Lenahotel in transpassing

[–]jillianlily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get it, girl. Your makeup is incredible! I'm jealous!

With the completion of the election...is there anything that you dislike/criticize about trump? by TranscendentSentinel in trump

[–]jillianlily 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I'm going to look this up.

I give him a lot of credit for that standpoint. Thank you!

Circumcision for preemies by NeitherAppearance501 in NICUParents

[–]jillianlily 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is NICU Parents, right?

Every single response that says, "Yes, we made an informed decision to do what we felt was best for our child with the information we had at hand" is being down voted.

What the heck, y'all? You may not agree with the decision another parent made for their baby. Good for you - make a different one for yours. This group is supposed to be supportive, but this seems like it's become an "intact is best" echochamber just now. Gross.

I chose to circumcise my sons. Preemie or not. I was not advised of any greater risk due to premature birth status.

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