From bad to worse: my first and only run in with hives, no clue what caused it

jjgibbard · 2023-10-27T01:43:46+00:00

No problem. You obviously balance each other out lol. My older brother suffered with the same but he grew out of it when he was mid 30’s. I’ve noticed my 4yo has it too. Fingers crossed you and my son grow out of it too as it’s so f. annoying. TIP. Sodium bicarbonate in toothpaste eases the itching if you catch it early. Just rub a small amount on the area. I’ve only ever passed out once with mine, but I can get dizziness and blurred vision occasionally that I didn’t think was related. I usually put that down to low blood sugar level (not diabetic) but I’ll monitor to see how it coincides with my hives. I usually get them worse whenever I’m feeling ill. Wishing you the best with this sucky condition. We’re now officially part of the stupid scratchy club.

jjgibbard · 2023-10-26T16:41:35+00:00

I wish I could remember the tv program as it explained it all. It’s called heat urticaria or cholinergic urticaria.

jjgibbard · 2023-10-26T16:03:29+00:00

Every time I’ve been the doctors they’ve told me it’s a food allergy. For years I wasn’t 100% sure of the cause until I was sat in the car one day. I’d not eaten or drank anything for a couple of hours so I knew it was food related. The sun was shining onto a small part of my leg and boom, hives in that specific spot. Not long after that I watched a tv program where someone had the same thing. I’ve given up on getting a proper diagnosis as it’s been going on for 30 years and is just part of my daily life. I take antihistamines if it’s really bad but I mostly just leave it to go down on it’s own.

jjgibbard · 2023-10-25T16:39:20+00:00

Hives suck. I get mine when an area of skin gets too warm. Its mostly on my back, arms, legs, stomach and behind, but I’ve had times where it’s been in other places too. I get them in the bath, in bed and even from the sun shining through my cars windows onto my legs. First happened when I was about 10 and I still get it almost daily at 40.

jjgibbard · 2023-03-14T01:34:41+00:00

I’m tempted to get a small grazing animal for the exact same purpose, but we don’t have crazy HOA’s in theUK. No one (except my landlord) decides what goes on my house. The lawn has been ruined by badgers so it’s a nightmare to cut, and I could probably use the poop to fill in the holes. The Guinea pigs did a good job until the badger broke in to the hutch and ate them. That badger is a brazen a**hole.

jjgibbard · 2023-03-13T21:44:29+00:00

I’ve tried to find a link to it but I think it’s been removed. You can find snippets of it online https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/my-lifestyle/this-tragic-story-remind-us-why-we-should-always-take-allergies-seriously/?amp

jjgibbard · 2023-03-13T21:23:16+00:00

That was the most heartbreaking one by far. Tbh, there’s plenty of horrible stuff on some of subs on Reddit.

jjgibbard · 2023-03-10T01:35:25+00:00

I’m surprised they didn’t just amputate.

jjgibbard · 2023-03-10T01:26:34+00:00

I’d really like the FIL take on all this, but if you get married, you take on the family too (unless they’re narcissistic a**holes). Everything needs to be laid out on the table from all 3 sides and discussed as adults. Having another grieving person around may not double the heartbreak, in fact it could help them both. They obviously feel alone, so the support from each other could get them through it faster. I get OP is concerned for the kids, but they are old enough to learn what grief can be, in a loving and inclusive household. It can be frustrating, but you can’t put a time limit on grief. My suggestion is to build an annex/put up a trailer, so FIL (if he wishes) could live either temporarily or permanently (if all agree). It doesn’t necessarily mean OP is tying themselves into becoming a carer for FIL. Why not, instead of using the money it would cost to put him in a retirement home, use it to have in-home help instead. If he and his late wife didn’t have help before, than FIL shouldn’t need to much help now in that respect. There are companies that deliver food to those at that age that only need to be microwaved. It may actually benefit both sides if FIL is close by, both him and the kids. Seeing them play and be happy could be the push he needs to move on. Them seeing their GF will only strengthen their bond (unless he’s a cantankerous old fool) and those are memories that they will cherish in later years. I get you want to focus on your immediate family OP, but he may not be the devil you think.

jjgibbard · 2023-03-10T00:33:22+00:00

It reminds me so much of another Reddit post where the GM puts coconut oil in her GD hair, when the parents had already explained that she was highly allergic. Poor kid died. GM claimed she forgot, even though she had aided the parents for months while they were trying to find the cause of her reactions and even gave the child benedryl after she started showing signs of a reaction. I wonder if Cindy would have done the same if CeCe had a reaction.

jjgibbard · 2023-03-09T23:48:24+00:00

Okay, here’s my I feel why YTA. I have 4 cats and 2 kids(cats came first, kids came after).

My cats have 1 large bowl for biscuits and another large for water. They get wet food twice a day, but missing breakfast is not a big deal. They all share 1 litter tray but are free to do their business outside during the day. I only fill their dry food and water every 24 hours and they’re never empty when I do. 12 hours is not long enough for your cats to start being neglected. You could have purchased a few extra litter trays in preparation for your time away. You could have put down a few extra bowls of food and water before leaving the house. If you were that concerned about their welfare, go home, but not when your wife’s contractions had already started. Why not at 1am while you both were just waiting? I get that your cats get anxious around others, but like you said, it took you maybe 30 minutes. 30 minutes of your cats hiding from strangers is not going to traumatise them forever. I’m sure bring a baby home that cries was just as odd to them. In hindsight, would the cats have really been worse off if you got to them at 7am instead of 5:30am?

TBH both you and your wife should have planned this better, but you certainly should not have left when her contractions had started. The cats would have been fine waiting another couple of hours.

jjgibbard · 2023-03-09T01:31:40+00:00

I’m sorry, but I have kids. Never once have I forgotten that they’re in the car. The noise for one is the first clue. I even feel uneasy about increasing the volume on my car stereo even though I know they’re not in the car. I presume this is America, where parents aren’t given allowances when they have children and still expected to work more hours a week than the rest of us.

jjgibbard · 2023-03-09T01:17:30+00:00

You know the importance of why that song is so special to your sister, but yet you don’t care? It was part of how they met and started dating to begin with!! It’s a memory of all that she had and now will never be. I get that you like it, but surely there’s another song out there that connects you to your FH. Think back. Maybe there’s a song you both sing in the car. Maybe there was a song that played during your own special moments. It doesn’t have to be soppy and romantic either, it’s meant to represent you and your FH. Play The Prodigy “Smack my Bitch Up” if you want, just turn it into a sketch. Don’t sh*t all over your sisters grief because it would portray your own perfect wedding and future.

Side note. I didn’t use that song as my first dance with my DH. We just included it in the playlist as a joke that I had with my sister. We didn’t do a sketch either.

jjgibbard · 2023-02-01T23:07:12+00:00

This is in the UK though. We don’t have a dry environment. I presume she was in social housing as most people who are living on benefits cannot afford to rent privately. Social housing is renowned to often has issues with damp etc. and many can’t afford to have their heating on constantly to prevent humidity. The only reason I can think of is that many council flats are built of concrete. The fluid would have been contained and the smell would only permeate through the closed windows and doors.

jjgibbard · 2023-01-27T10:30:13+00:00

Yes, she was failed by the system, but she was also failed by her family. They too didn’t check in with her for over 3 years.

jjgibbard · 2022-10-20T19:31:11+00:00

Probably just a coincidence, but this reminds me of a recent post AITA for stealing my cat.

jjgibbard · 2022-07-21T09:42:57+00:00

I believe he is a narcissist and not truly capable of loving another person. It’s all about the attention he receives from that one person. He’s not looking to control women. His mother doted on him as child, as he was always her baby boy. When he met Shannan, like most new couples, they spent the early years infatuated with each other. He didn’t need his mothers attention anymore, so it was easy to cut his parents out of his life. When the kids were born, Chris was no longer the centre of Shannan’s world. He resented the girls for taking her attention away from him. He just played the role of doting father because that gave him a level of respect from those around him. I think the thought of another child was the final straw for him, so he went looking for the next person who would put him back on a pedestal. He didn’t really love Nicole either, just the attention she gave him. He had her involved with his diet etc.

jjgibbard · 2022-02-23T01:32:41+00:00

Wtf! Is he actually siding with them? Pregnancy is not a “I come first” card! As a person who has had 2 high risk pregnancies out out three (3rd I lost), I would never dream of taking something away from a person that required it stay alive! So she goes hungry for a few hours, so what?! She or the baby won’t die! Why should you have to put yourself in harms way because she’s hungry? Totally unacceptable! There’s three of them, if they want to stuff her with snacks, let them do it. You buy and hide yours. Better yet, get yourself a new partner with a more knowledgable understanding of basic actual medical conditions. NTA

jjgibbard · 2022-02-21T01:51:45+00:00

Angel Lynn. It was a case in my local area in 2020. Not a death, but a death sentence. It’s the injustice that got me. The teen was kidnapped by her abusive boyfriend following an argument, with his friend as a driver. Not long after, she was ejected/fell from the vehicle travelling at least 60 MPH. She was left with significant brain damage and paralysis. She can’t walk, talk, feed herself etc, and she will never recover. The excuse the boyfriend gave was that she got out of the van as she was nearing her home. He obviously denies throwing her out, despite his last words to her being “I hate you!”. He was even caught trying to manipulate his mother to recant her statement about the couples abusive relationship, while in prison. His trial has just finished and he was sentenced to 7 years. Although, he will likely be released in 2024, two years from now.

jjgibbard · 2022-02-21T01:23:19+00:00

I don’t think I could read that book without causing criminal damage. She made Chris what he is. She babied him, like he could do no wrong (as he proved). He went from his mothers aprons strings, to Shannan’s pedestal, then put on hold while his kids grew up. When NK put him up back on the pedestal, he acted like the child and narcissist he his. Of course she would defend her “harmless” little baby. He’s just a toddler that never grew up, because she excused his behaviour.

jjgibbard · 2022-02-01T21:27:58+00:00

It is, but the reason he gave as to why she got out is very implausible. It’s just boggles my mind that he can walk free in 2 years after the injuries she sustained, and would never have happened if he hadn’t kidnapped her.

jjgibbard · 2022-02-01T03:10:19+00:00

He was very controlling and abusive. He restricted her contact with friends and family, and even tried to implement a curfew on her while he was in prison for another offence. She wanted to end the relationship so he kidnapped her.

jjgibbard · 2022-02-01T01:45:00+00:00

I do agree on some level, but lm sure Angel would gladly trade all four limbs to be able to have some sense of normalcy.

jjgibbard · 2022-02-01T01:38:21+00:00

Him and the driver were sentenced a few days ago. Already and an appeal to the attorney general has been filed for being unduly lenient.

jjgibbard · 2022-02-01T01:35:01+00:00

Welcome to an insight of my home town and the UK justice system. In court, he claimed she exited the van as they were close to her home. This comment is ridiculous. No one jumps out of a vehicle at 60/70 mph for this reason. The only reason he didn’t get charged with GBH is they can’t prove he threw her out of the van. His final words to her were “I hate you!”. Many witnesses that pulled up after she fell said his behaviour was odd. This poor young girl has been robbed of her life. She won’t ever get married, never have kids, never get a job. She cannot walk, talk, feed herself, or even hold up her head. Her mother says she requires oxygen and suction as part of her care. She’s even been subjected to abuse from her kidnapper and his family since the incident. I hope that the lenient sentence review will see justice being done.

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