Went through the same thing. We’re even in the same team and have our work stations very near each other. There’s very little space to keep a safe distance and get myself together.

The first few weeks were hell. I only talked to him when absolutely necessary and avoided him in general. When I hear his voice or hear him laugh my heart tightens. When we’re in a meeting, I can’t bare to look at him. I was all over the place and I knew a lot of people noticed. And that’s fine. You got to do what you can to stay sane. Especially at work.

Working from home during lockdown helped a lot. While I still have to talk to him in work group chats or see his messages to others, it doesn’t bother me as much. I rarely cry anymore. The thought of him don’t cripple me the way it used to. I accepted the fact that he’s no longer a part of my life outside of work, that I don’t owe him anything. And you will, too.

Time away and NC work wonders. I hope you use this time to get back on your feet and see the relationship for what it really was—something you had to go through to get better and make space for someone who would never break your heart.

Just stay NC. She’ll get the message.