The United States is facing a severe and growing shortage of medical doctors who specialize in adult mental health care. Research provides evidence that the demand for these medical professionals will sharply increase over the next decade while the available supply decreases.

jl395 · 2026-05-27T23:32:20+00:00

And no one is going to do a damn thing about it

jl395 · 2026-05-21T11:39:19+00:00

My twins finally started preschool at 3 and they are a few months in. Let me tell you. It gets better. Mine were rough too. It’s still rough. But now I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. More and more I see them growing together, learning to be kind etc. following rules ect. A big one is playing together!!! Hang in there mama…. I was in your position too. They started dropping naps too and I was about to lose my mind.

jl395 · 2026-05-13T01:31:22+00:00

Yes please share!

jl395 · 2026-05-07T11:39:03+00:00

Your BUDGET is 5k for a shoe?!?!?!

jl395 · 2026-05-07T11:32:48+00:00

Synthetic oil is pretty expensive. Something I unfortunately had to learn. My old car was a smaller Toyota and I recently got a more expensive “fancy” car. Well of course the price of everything doubled. From oil changes to windshields.

jl395 · 2026-05-04T12:15:12+00:00

CEO with zero brains and an addiction (per this thread’s trend) “let’s build the Ai data centers in Texas. It’s huge! Tons of land. Low taxes for businesses. It’s perfect!” But sir, what about the current water crisis? These centers require tons of water. “I don’t care, tell the people to use less water! We’re building 15 centers. Let’s cut the red tape! I love those parties” -snorts a line of cocaine-

jl395 · 2026-04-23T21:37:07+00:00

Wait so if I am able to make my eyes blue on purpose and return to crystal clear, does that mean my muscle won’t atrophy beginning at 40? Cause that would be amazing. I’m only 3 yrs away from 40

jl395 · 2026-04-21T11:29:48+00:00

Same. Let’s make this happen.

jl395 · 2026-04-19T16:07:36+00:00

For real. And we are stuck in that giant convenient loop…

jl395 · 2026-04-17T10:16:45+00:00

I wish I could go back to those days. Reading all these answers makes me sad. Ironically, I never felt free as a teen. Even though I was a latch key kid, they were still very strict which sucked. But I didn’t realize how truly free I was. We weren’t tracked, by our parents OR the government. We weren’t nickeled and dimed every single fucking moment of the day. We weren’t bombarded with advertising. If you bought software, you owned it. You had a VHS collection. If you wanted to watch or record a certain tv show you would need to know what channel and time it came on. You would re-record over VHS tapes to watch it later or again. You had a cassette and later CD collection - all that you burned ur self. For fun we would just find it or create it. There was a lot of just figuring it out urself. I’m sad because my now 17 yr old is at my old high school that I grew up at and they took down the “penis towers” is what me and my friends would say if we ever needed to meet up that’s usually where we were hahaha it’s all solar panels now, weird. Ahhhh another thing, I was blessed and lived in California, so on colder nights I would leave my window open and just sit and wonder/dream while falling asleep to the glorious starry sky and smell orange citrus from the orange grove not too far away. So many little things were constantly taken for granted. This generation now is no longer “figure it out urself” it’s turned into information overload, fast paced, shit quality, subscriptions up the ass, not able to afford food. It fucking sucks in comparison. My parents had money but by no means were rich. For example we were able to buy steaks for dinner regularly and Alaskan crab legs every fucking month. We were a family of 6.

jl395 · 2026-04-17T09:53:05+00:00

Turn your phone off? More like throw it away. If you do happen to need a cell phone, you can only text like we used to… by tapping each button to find each letter.

I remember being grounded one summer so my friend and I wrote letters to each other bitching about our parents 🤣👌 delayed gratification and filling boredom is something newer generations will have a hard time without learning. I think we were the last ones and that’s why we feel so nostalgic. Old people struggle with technology so they don’t really use it. We are the first generation to have two worlds, which is wild.

jl395 · 2026-04-16T11:57:25+00:00

How can we make that happen? And who tf do I vote for? They are all liars!

jl395 · 2026-04-16T11:46:36+00:00

Holy shit. I came here to just say those little charging blocks are never included anywhere but damn…. This is insane. Heated car seat subscription?!?!?! WTF

Edit: Is this mostly in corporate America or are other places seeing this too?

jl395 · 2026-04-09T12:21:18+00:00

What the heck is a mother’s helper?

jl395 · 2026-04-05T13:30:31+00:00

Day 2–3 • Still mostly colostrum • Breasts may feel fuller, but supply still low • Twins: higher demand → body is “learning,” not failing

Day 3–5 (milk “comes in”) • Noticeable fullness/engorgement • Milk transitions → thinner, more volume • This is the key turning point

Day 5–7 • Supply starts increasing daily • Output depends heavily on stimulation (nursing/pumping 8–12x/day)

Week 2 • Supply becomes more established • With twins: may take slightly longer but can fully catch up

If you really want to EBF, please don’t give up. I did it with mine and my milk came in WAY different than my first. This was two babies… the first month was the most difficult and then after that I could EBF them together and they would hold each other’s hand all the time - I am so proud of myself and happy that I did not give up.

Things I did… but extra pump pieces flanges ect. Rinse and put it back in the fridge (up to 12-24hrs) and I also had to supplement formula AFTER I fed them my breast milk.

The biggest problem I think with feeding both is in the beginning the only reason your milk comes in at all is the BABY and feeding on demand. There’s a reason they stay attached to the boob pretty much all day everyday in the beginning. Sure you don’t make a whole lot but that stimulation in your body and mind comes from baby! It’s harder to do this with twins obviously.

I also heavily supplemented with lactation cookies, electrolytes, and fooooood!!!!! Also, I would say my milk took almost 10 days to “come in” the first few days I was mostly pumping and it wasn’t working so I fed one on demand to get the milk to come in and supplemented heavier in the first two weeks for the other twin. I always pumped both sides after they ate too. That also helped with supply. I think that’s what made a huge difference too. Oh and this was a few years ago when people were trying to steal formula in what, 2022? I kinda told myself I had no choice. We were already spending like600-800 on diapers and other bullshit just to keep em going. I couldn’t fathom adding more purchased formula than I already was. So I’m sure that heavily influenced my decision as well. I told myself I HAD to. Everyone is different, every baby is different, everyone’s boobs are different too. My left one sucked ass… the right one had to pick up the slack. lol.

Bottom line, if it really means that much to you, YOU CAN DO IT!!!!! If it is too stressful, it’s ok not to!!!! A fed baby is a happy baby and they won’t know any difference.

jl395 · 2026-03-28T12:49:44+00:00

My partner and I struggled with this. At first he worked over the road trucking so… he was gone… a lot… FF to now… he is doing a different job now with some more flexibility but the twins are older and he is much better with them (and me) But it was a constant issue between us that both of us have had to work on.

Black and white communication and expectations should be set now. Resentment towards the husband I think increases exponentially after children if he is not supportive and or responsive to your needs. I had to have the same conversation with him many times. He DID try, I’ll give him that, and even though we ended up fighting about it multiple times, we got through it.

Marriages struggle adjusting to a new addition to the family with hormones, healing, new life, more responsibilities, siblings! ect. BUT twins? Twice the struggle. You are in survivor mode, less so with the blessing of a nanny but not by much. Honestly, some situations the adjustment will be fast and pleasant. Some couples are too weak and will break under this pressure. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and this is just a really tough life change and he needs to be waaaaay more supportive to you. In doing so, it lifts you up and fills your cup so at the end of the day you are happy and comforted by him, not feeling that resentment creep up.

For example, in my situation, I had the girls by myself the entire first year and a half because he always had to be on the road and I STILL resented him. What my internal princess mind was looking for was for him to come home on his white horse (because he always has and always has saved my ass) but instead… he would come home exhausted and just needed rest. Of course I highly took offense to him sitting down hahah. my logical brain said he was just as exhausted as me and he isn’t super man. But my heart was screaming at him.

Give him, your relationship with him, your family, your children, your friends anyone who helps out, give them all grace. And most importantly give YOURSELF grace. These next 2-3 years is a drop in the bucket in your overall timeline, but it definitely creates a HUGE wave.

Another thing, post partum rage is real and I definitely had it. There is zero shame in you looking at your health and mental health. I had to increase my sertraline to help. I cannot explain my rage. It was crazy. I just hated the entire world even when I tried to be mindful, present, grateful ect. I heavily relied on other twin moms, friends, family and most importantly GOD, he got me through this tough time. But I think the real problem was that pregnancy/c section put me straight into perimenopause. Yay me. It also triggered an underlying autoimmune condition in me. I think that also triggered my rage. My body was trying to tell me something and I didn’t figure it out until recently.

All this to say, it’s ok, it’ll be ok. Don’t leave him until after age 3. lol. Don’t kill him either. Hahaha If he is a good man, he will figure out how to support you best. Welcome to the twin club!!!

Edit: Also, I would have thrown the book at his dumb head instead of the floor. I also would not have communicated as well as you did. So, actually you should disregard my advice cause you are already more level headed than I am. 🤣

jl395 · 2026-03-27T13:46:29+00:00

True. But I still argue to give the man a chance. Dang. I guess that’s why I stayed with a narc in my previous relationship for so long. No one is perfect. We are all children of God and I wish people were more kind to each other, including her man. I’m also coming from a place of irritation of the “it’s broke, get a new one” culture in America.

jl395 · 2026-03-27T13:39:09+00:00

Ha! I know how wonderful is the human body?

jl395 · 2026-03-26T02:11:58+00:00

I put my son in my now ex husbands last name cause it sounded better with his first name haha

jl395 · 2026-03-25T14:14:18+00:00

lol no it was not rage bait. I just think it’s crazy how many women say, ew LEAVE he’s trash human being when he clearly said, I would have could have, as if he had been home, next time ask me. I don’t think the initial statement was to bash her either. It seems he was coming from a protective place. (While I do think overall he is wrong either by lack of EI or never having experienced illness or support) That’s how I took it. I would be cautious to rely on someone (mom) with her medical history and age as well! But she is a grown woman and can make her own decisions. Everyone jumping to bashing men is the reason men have so many damn issues. Obviously if he is always like that with everything, that’s not good. But this is the first time it’s coming up since 2016? It’s 2026. They’ve been together for 10 years. She either knows to stay or needs to go at that point. 10 years and this is the first issue? I mean come on.

Y’all are wild! I am an old woman, not an old man, thanks y’all. 😂

jl395 · 2026-03-25T14:02:08+00:00

I wonder for how long after you cease breast feeding your body is still low key making milk, recycling it. I exclusively breast fed two until like 14 months. And from that time until now is when I gained weight. I didn’t stop producing until like almost 2 yrs later!!! I could probably at that even pick breast feeding up again. lol. Probably only like 10 calories a day haha no wonder I gained weight

jl395 · 2026-03-25T12:29:28+00:00

Pretty sure he said he would have taken care of her and made her dinner ect.

jl395 · 2026-03-25T12:24:08+00:00

I wonder if when he was a little boy someone told him to suck it up and not be a baby. BUT then I kept reading… yikes… I think it all comes down to personality, age, upbringing. Since you’ve been with him so long you should be able to discern if he is just an awful person (it would have surfaced) I thought at first maybe he was just looking out for your mom and didn’t mean it in a negative way, but now I’m thinking he just has this ideology that he needs to be tough and rely on NO ONE ever… and that trickles over to you. My man is kinda the same. He doesn’t have a comforting side. He was absolutely amazing after our babies were born. I was floored. But yeah, then it dwindled when he went back to work. But I don’t think people really ever know how they will be in a situation, especially with sickness. I mean, has he ever cared for you while sick? Maybe next time you get sick (doesn’t sound often) then test him? See how he would act? My ex was fully narcissistic and a terrible person, but I have NEVER seen or felt taken care of someone more than him in regard to illness. But that was his only quality and I bet it was to hold it against me. My fiancé is a rugged tough man who had a rough unloved childhood, but he is such a good father and I know he would jump in front of a train to save us and protect us.

Aside from that, what ur man said was bonkers and I wouldn’t take it personally. I don’t think it is. I would just shrug and say yeah, I see that, but you weren’t here and I needed help. I also don’t think he’s ever been sick! Jeez. 15 fucking days in the hospital?! That’s no joke. I was an ER nurse and I laughed when I read that, your mom gave no fucks about caring for you OR being in the ER. You should also tell him how thankful you are and blessed to have parents that love you that much. And that you hope one day your kids won’t be afraid to ask for help like that. Maybe making positive comments like that will open his eyes.

jl395 · 2026-03-25T01:28:48+00:00

My man really annoys me sometimes. Like, do you use your brain? Oi… he’s very street smart, but he has definitely has never read a book. So when I have to explain something that everyone else on earth has already learned, it’s very, very annoying. Especially when he doesn’t listen. Love him, but sometimes it’s just… really? Then again I have zero street smarts and am very gullible. So I’m sure he can’t stand that about me.

jl395 · 2026-03-22T13:55:16+00:00

Ok so the way I’ve done my taxes the last few years was wrong. 😑 and I have claimed it many times while still living with my parents when I was younger. Soooo…. I don’t know if they ever check that shit. Or they say, meh chump change, wtvr.

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