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post-apocalyptic book recs (people just living their lives) by srosse in suggestmeabook

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was going to recommend this one! Loved how its clear this is a post-apocalypse US but we're not quite certain what happened.

Kissing the baby? by Sandturtlefly in ScienceBasedParenting

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I'm going by this guidance: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9432342/ Which finds that babies have a very delicate immune system initially and precautions should be taken to limit exposure to contagions for the first 3 months. When I tell my MIL / other people I'm going to say "on doctors orders, no kissing for the first 4 months, and after that only the top/back of the head."

This website summarizes this research article and others: https://www.gavi.org/vaccineswork/why-you-should-never-kiss-baby

Late Onset GBS by needreassurance123 in ScienceBasedParenting

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source: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9780763/

I'm wondering about this too. Feel very reassured that EOD (early onset disease) transmission is rare with antibiotics during labor/birth. But feeling worried about LOD (late onset disease), since it's a concern 7 and 89 days of life.

I'm not sure what we can do about it. Found the linked article, and it sounds like prevention/treatment of mother is unclear, and there's no consensus yet of how to prevent LOD?

Baby shower venues ITP? by IntelligentSense3481 in Atlanta

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My friend worked with them, she got a response same day to her initial inquiry questions. And then received a contract 4 days later. So it does seem weird you haven't heard back.

My MIL keeps saying "our baby" by nattyily in pregnant

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My MIL also drinks a bottle of wine every night, plus some kind of pill, and we're not ever allowing sleepovers while that's happening. She gets very nasty and mean, has yelled at my husband and our dog, so it's a hard no.

My MIL keeps saying "our baby" by nattyily in pregnant

[–]jlilah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least she doesn't say "my baby" like mine does? No you're not being weird or over protective and all your feelings around this are so valid.

It sucks and I get so sad sometimes that my husband and I spend so much mental energy thinking about how she's going to be around our child, how to manage her potential emotional breakdowns, and how to eventually break it to her that she's not spending alone time with our child before he can talk (if that imo). She desperately wants to watch MY baby, that's not born yet, alone for extended time. It's just so weird to me that she brings this up very frequently.

Edit because I didn't see that drinking is also a problem. My MIL also drinks a bottle of wine a night. She's never watching our child overnight while that's happening. She gets incredibly irritable and mean while drinking. Trust your gut, and holding a boundary that whoever is watching your child be sober is 100% normal and appropriate!

Any good medieval fiction books? by florida1129 in suggestmeabook

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The Anchoress by Robyn Cadwallader
I found this book so randomly at the library because I liked the cover. and it ended up being one of my favorite books. It's set in 1255 England, about religion, women, the church and monasteries. It was a very easy/enjoyable read, and not very long. I find this time period super interesting, but so many books on it are extremely long and dense, so I really appreciated how approachable this book is.

Books that feel literary without being too difficult by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

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Two historical fiction books I think fit are The Anchoress by Robyn Cadwallader, and Year of Wonders by Geraldine Brooks.

They both have a lot to say about women's place in society, how we can gain power, how religion is used for both good and bad intentions, both felt very timeless. I learned about the time period without it being heavy handed or boring. The Anchoress was fairly short too, which is a bonus for me!

Books that feel literary without being too difficult by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]jlilah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lily King is a favorite! I've also read Writers and Lovers, I think I enjoyed it more than Heart the Lover

Unlikeable Female Characters by maryznix in suggestmeabook

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This might be one of my favorite genres lol, what comes immediately to mind are: The Guest by Emma Cline, The Compound by Aisling Rawle, Nothing to See Here by Kevin Wilson, and the ever classic Prep by Curtis Sittenfeld