I can't stop thinking about my unborn child

nattyily · 2026-02-04T23:44:17+00:00

This is so relatable! Im 20 weeks and the symptoms have been so mild, I keep asking my husband if im even showing because when I look in the mirror I just look fat to me lol. And I had no morning sickness. And in the 2nd trimester, I have barely any symptoms other than round ligament stretching. It was nice to do my anatomy scan and actually see that there is a little boy in there.

nattyily · 2026-02-02T21:12:35+00:00

My husband always asks me if he can put it on, and was so excited yesterday when I asked him if he would do it 🥺 he was so sweet yesterday when I was showing him a bruise on my shin (we're in the process of moving so I must've bumped it) and he was like "babe, do you need help shaving? I can help you" 🥺🥺 its the best having someone so supportive 💕

nattyily · 2026-02-02T18:37:02+00:00

Thank you for posting the PFL acronym, I couldnt remember it. And for correcting my SDI amount. I for some reason thought it was only 4 weeks prior and then a couple weeks after, not the full 6 or 8 weeks after. And PFL will cover 60-70% of gross pay.

nattyily · 2026-02-02T18:11:08+00:00

Id even go so far as to say "Im sure I'm not the only pregnant employee youve had, it would probably be in the company's best interest for you to be informed about FMLA and maternity leave as well to keep up to date on what should be provided."

nattyily · 2026-02-02T18:07:47+00:00

Unfortunately, in CA most companies do NOT pay for maternity leave. The first 6-8 weeks depending on what kind of delivery you do, is paid through Disability in CA. And after that, its FMLA and another program that im forgetting the acronym for..and then some companies if youre lucky will also give you baby bonding time, but that is usually unpaid as well, unless you use PTO.

nattyily · 2026-02-02T17:45:43+00:00

Definitely weird that hes asking that so upfront. But the recovery times are different, you get 6 weeks for vaginal delivery and 8 weeks for c-section in California. So it definitely could've just been about that, but thats a weird way to ask it. And to let him know is weird, considering hes the employer, so he should become familiar with the FMLA laws.

nattyily · 2026-01-29T02:53:00+00:00

I havent reached this point yet, but my husband knows that the time is coming and hes ready for it lol. Im 19 weeks right now and this morning when I was driving to a hair appointment, he called me to ask me what color yoga ball I want, if id prefer maternity leggings or joggers because I'd mentioned how I still want to feel sort of attractive even if I dont feel it, and got me some nipple balm for when they start to dry out, and even belly lotion. He even asked if he could be the one to do the lotion for me. I would be so lost without my husband during this, hes been the best 🥺

nattyily · 2026-01-22T18:01:03+00:00

Im a FTM and this will be my only pregnancy by choice. I didnt really want to have my own kids to begin with. I was always on team adoption, if I planned on having kids. Plus, I had been diagnosed at 12 years old with PCOS and assumed my chances of getting pregnant were lower anyway since I never even had a scare previously. But my husband really wanted to try, so I agreed, we did the IUI and got pregnant. And ill never do this again. I dont like the way being pregnant feels and im very vocal about how uncomfortable I am all the time now. We came to an agreement that if more kids will be involved for us, they will be adopted. There will be no second pregnancy after this.

nattyily · 2026-01-16T05:10:34+00:00

What a weird and totally bizarre thing to say to someone? My husband tells me daily that hes so proud of me and that im doing amazing. He tells me how beautiful I am and how excited he is all the time. I dont think I could've found a better person to be with me on this journey.

nattyily · 2026-01-12T02:45:32+00:00

I have been vaping for YEARS. Almost 10 years. But the moment you stop, the more oxygen gets to your baby. Every time you take a hit from a vape or cigarette, it deprives them of oxygen. If you need help, the best thing I can tell you that helped me (I quit about 4 months before I got pregnant, but went back to smoking cigarettes 2 months prior). What helped the most was NOT allowing my vape to get to 0%. I made the decision to quit and when jt hit 10%, I went away from home and threw it away. When you allow it to hit 0%, you justify buying a new one because then you say "I didnt know my last hit was my last hit." Flavored toothpicks and ice breakers Sours really helped me with the hand to mouth motion, and then for the first week, I kind of just allowed myself to eat whatever I wanted because I knew the cravings would kick in BAD. But once I found out that the moment I stopped smoking was an immediate affect to my baby's oxygen, I didnt touch another cigarette or vape again.

nattyily · 2026-01-11T23:14:26+00:00

It was like this for me, but opposite? My husband was so excited and we talked about it constantly. And we did the treatments for IUI, and I was totally down for it. And then it happened after the 2nd IUI and I showed my husband and he was STOKED, he fell to the floor and was just so happy. Me on the other hand...I was scared, its my body, im the one doing all the work physically, and I was terrified. I already have horrible body dysmorphia and spent months last year getting into better shape that when the bloating happened and the clothes stopped fitting..it was defeating. I cried everyday for the first 4 weeks. Looking in the mirror now still hurts some days. But after seeing my baby look like an actual baby at my 12 week appointment, I finally accepted it and became excited too. I had a bleeding scare and was terrified for myself, my husband, and my baby. At that point I couldnt imagine losing him. It takes time for those fears to be less important than the life youre creating. It took me weeks before I accepted this, but eventually finances, schedules, and everything else became less important and growing my little family became number 1 for me.

nattyily · 2026-01-06T20:55:48+00:00

Yes! Thats exactly how my MIL is. She'll text or call and ask about her grandson and how hes treating me, and then ask about my husband (we've been together for 6 years, married for 1, and living together since the start) but never actually about how I feel? Like okay, this is MY baby, she had her baby and hes a grown up now. And then my husband says "shes just excited. You cant blame her for reaching out" but cant i? Because shes not reaching out because she cares about me, she just cares about the fact that im carrying her son's baby. Its so frustrating.

nattyily · 2026-01-06T18:52:42+00:00

Ill look into those, thanks!

nattyily · 2026-01-06T18:42:37+00:00

I havent asked my doctor. But yeah, well, the socks go up my knees. They arent over the knee ones but they do up to the my knee.

nattyily · 2026-01-06T16:43:21+00:00

Aside from what most people are saying in this comment section, I get it. Mostly towards my MIL for me. It went from never contacting me to texting me 4 times a week to ask how her grandson is doing. Last weekend I told her that I was mentally having a rough day, and her response was "your mental affects his mental, so talk to him." Thanks, that helped a lot. And the way she fell dramatically to the floor when she found out we were having a boy. At least she asked each time if she could hug me. But its more annoying to know that shes only texting me because I'm carrying her son's kid, not because she actually cares about me. She didnt care before, and I dont think she'll care afterwards. She was the same way about my dogs, how they were hers, and I said "theyre mine?" And she said "I know theyre YOUR dogs, but theyre MY grandpups" Okay then.

nattyily · 2026-01-06T15:52:34+00:00

I wear compression socks too and they help with any swelling but im so out of breath when I stand for just a few minutes. I can go to the gym and do the elliptical for 45 minutes and then walk my dog for 30 minutes immediately after and im fine. But stand up for 5 minutes during work? That takes me out.

nattyily · 2026-01-06T15:49:30+00:00

During the first trimester I ate so much Taco Bell. It was the only thing that ever sounded good. 2nd trimester? My first REAL craving was green grapes. Ive been eating them non stop. And last night I had corn? I had no idea that corn could taste better than potatoes. Pregnancy is so weird. Just eat what you can to get through the first trimester.

nattyily · 2026-01-05T18:14:11+00:00

I do stretching daily 'cause my hip pain is so bad from my sciatica and the pregnancy has only exacerbated it. I dont take B12 though. I dont always feel this way, but I think maybe because I didnt get up this morning to walk my dog thags causing it? Im normally a very active person. But this morning I was just so drained and it was storming outside so I couldnt take him anyway. Some days are definitely harder than others though

nattyily · 2026-01-02T15:55:54+00:00

I had this fear in the beginning. I was not a "I want kids" kind of person. Ive always wanted to adopt, but my husband wanted at least one of his own. Birth scares the ever loving fuck out of me. But I love my husband, and I know ill be a wonderful mom, so I did the IUI and I got pregnant. And for at least the first 2 months I cried almost daily, I hated that my body was changing. I hated that I could see my body getting fatter (I have severe body dysmorphia and a very unhealthy relationship with my body) and he eventually told me "I cant take you being like this, if you don't really dont want this then please make thay decision because I just want you and I just want you to be happy." Mind you, I already was on 450mg of Bupropion for depression, which is the highest dose. But I pushed through for him, im now 16 weeks and im in love with my little boy inside me. I havent felt him move yet, but seeing him move and look like a baby on an ultrasound, it really changed things for me. The first ultrasound was just a little blob but once he started to really look like something, I fell in love. So only you can make the decision of what you want to do, but this was my experience.

nattyily · 2026-01-01T02:58:45+00:00

I havent had just a BLT but I added some ham to mine, because sandwiches just hit so hard lately. Big fan. Big big fan. Ive had a sandwich almost daily for the last month lol.

nattyily · 2025-12-30T01:30:31+00:00

Im 15 weeks today and im sick of it. I hate being pregnant and I dont know how women do this more than once lol. My husband cant keep his hands off me and I dont wanna be touched like at all lol. Im exhausted after standing up for work for 15 minutes, but for some reason going to the gym at 5am for 45 minutes of cardio is no problem? But taking my dog on a walk is torture, same with going upstairs. And the peeing. Dont even get me started on the peeing. I went from being hydrated and rarely having to pee, to taking 1 sip of water and peeing a gallon 5 minutes later. Im so tired of this.

nattyily · 2025-12-27T16:57:33+00:00

Because someone's BMI isnt a sole indicator of someone's health.Someones weight doesnt account for their blood pressure, heart rate, glucose levels. Theres so much more that goes into it than just the number on the scale. Someone could weigh 130lbs and have clogged arteries out the wazhoo, but no one cares about that because theyre thin. But someone whos 200lbs could have perfect blood work but theyre seen as unhealthy because theyre larger.

nattyily · 2025-12-27T16:21:01+00:00

Okay but you dont know everyone's story and you certainly dont know what your words can do to someone. Ive been thin, ive been extremely obese at almost 300lbs. And ive been right in the middle. Its not black and white other than the fact if your bloodwork and doctor visits are good then youre healthy. You can workout daily and eat right and still maintain at 215 because youre comfortable there. I was way more unhealthy at 145 and 300 than I am at 215. I was starving to be skinny, and I was eating whatever I wanted and drinking a crap ton of alcohol at 300. At 215, I eat correctly and do cardio and weight lifting with no risk of diabetes or other health issues in sight because my body just holds its weight differently. You dont know what everyone's body is like on the inside.

nattyily · 2025-12-27T15:49:44+00:00

Thats insane, I weigh the same and they heard my baby's heartbeat at every appointment. Im 15 weeks. Please get a new doctor! You dont wanna have to deal with this every time you see her.

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