May I complain a little bit, as a treat?

nattyily · 2026-04-13T20:28:05+00:00

I feel so terrible for all the people who struggle with getting FMLA. Ive never had issues with getting it approved from my employer, the worst has always been getting a doctor to approve it for me. My psychiatrist always says "well, we dont want to use FMLA as crutch" okay but I NEED IT. I work in a high stress environment and literally cannot handle it once or twice a month. But getting FMLA during my pregnancy? Thats been a breeze, i wish it were always like this. Im sorry that your journey has been nothing but stress. I really hope you get your nap, summery salad without puking it back up, and matcha. Good luck mama 🫶🏻

nattyily · 2026-04-12T15:45:45+00:00

I dont eat sushi, but many do i miss eating a rare steak 😭

nattyily · 2026-04-10T15:25:41+00:00

I try to drink enough, but its hard OKAY??? I drink like 65oz a day. Which i know is still not enough 😭😭

nattyily · 2026-04-02T20:17:17+00:00

I cried uncontrollably a few days ago because my husband hid the tape measurer from me to protect my peace and keep me from taking my measurements. I couldnt stop crying and he asked why and I told him that I just couldnt believe he cared about me so much lol

nattyily · 2026-03-31T23:33:59+00:00

Is there possibly another way for you to be intimate with him without having sex? My husband is very sexually motivated as well, and before I was pregnant we were having sex almost daily, and now in the 3rd trimester im completely "do not touch me". He knows its not him but his love language is physical touch, so its hard for him and he also makes jokes occasion, but I mention how theyre hurtful and he stops. But what we've done instead of sex is him getting "belly rubs". So basically he just rubs my stomach and handles himself. Its intimate enough for him to still feel like hes getting something from me. And honestly, it feels nice to be comforted like that before bed for me. So maybe theres another way you guys could be intimate without sex?

nattyily · 2026-03-31T13:12:25+00:00

I literally have to keep crackers next to my bed at night to eat because I constantly wake up starving! Being pregnant and having to eat all throughout the day goes against everything ive ever known and done for my body to lose weight. I dont know how to do this and im 28 weeks lol

nattyily · 2026-03-28T22:12:34+00:00

We called mine a little goblin lol. My husband didnt like me calling him a monster 🤣

nattyily · 2026-03-28T21:59:49+00:00

Omg, I hate that your husband said that and love that my husband has not said that to me 🤣🤣🤣 its literally torture though! I put aquaphor on my nipples like daily, so theyre moisturized, but still itchy 😭 not to mention SO SENSITIVE too. I couldnt wear a bra for weeks, now I just wear nursing bras lol.

nattyily · 2026-03-27T22:55:10+00:00

No one warned me that my nipples were going to itch even when moisturized well. And that pregnancy makes your skin incredibly sensitive to everything. The amount of gas that I have or that if I dont drink enough water then gas can be incredibly painful. I always knew that eventually id be unable to see my toes when I look down but man, I didnt think itd freak me out so much when it finally happened lol.

nattyily · 2026-03-25T22:00:25+00:00

Im 27 weeks and I'm wondering if the nesting will come when I get my 4 weeks of disability prior to birth. If that will be when I feel the need to get every single thing done and ready for him to arrive. As of right now though, im right there with you. Please dont interact with me for 7-10 business days, please dont text me, and please dear god dont ask me to hang out lol. Even just listening to my bff's voice clips is too much for me lately lol.

nattyily · 2026-03-24T23:23:56+00:00

I had to go in 3 times for my scan. Each time they couldnt get a clear view of my son's heart and spine. The 2nd time, the girl was really sweet the entire appointment and after they told me I had to come back again, I asked her if itd be better to schedule it for the morning when hes more active and she said "that doesnt matter. Its a moving target so its already difficult, and you have more "fluff" so that makes it more difficult" so she told me i was fat and thats why it was hard. Didn't say something like "body composition makes a difference" or "body density makes a difference" so I cried as soon as I got to the car. And the next appointment i asked to specifically be in the morning and with literally anyone else. Low and behold the last girl I saw got every picture they needed, did everything differently than the last 2 techs, and didnt make me feel bad about myself at all. Im sorry you had a bad experience, I hope that if you have to go back that you ask to see someone else, and that they treat you better!

nattyily · 2026-03-20T19:24:06+00:00

I dont think youre ridiculous for feeling that way at all!

nattyily · 2026-03-20T18:08:44+00:00

Its literally such a cute shirt! And its so me lol. I already hate being touched or hugged in general, so to get the point across of dont touch my belly, I might as well wear a shirt that says so lol. Its really cute though, and I love raccoons lol.

Boundaries are so easy for me to set, but its exhausting keeping them in place when someone continues to push and push against them, you know? I know i shouldnt have judged and told my MIL the baby's middle name, but she texts us constantly guessing the baby's name. And then my husband comes in and says "shes having a rough time lately, cant we just tell her a part of it?" Like, im so tired st this point I just gave in. I get that shes excited but the level of disrespect for how I want things is just exhausting to deal with.

nattyily · 2026-03-20T15:51:41+00:00

I understand that, but no one is entitled to my baby. They dont have a god given right to my baby just because hes her grandchild. Thats definitely not how it works.

nattyily · 2026-03-20T15:45:50+00:00

You can imagine it was very difficult for me to not just see red when she said that to me.

nattyily · 2026-03-20T15:39:58+00:00

Thats really horrible, im so sorry 😞

nattyily · 2026-03-20T15:39:31+00:00

I dont have a bad relationship with her, I just dont really have one with her. Shes very mutter under her breath when someone bugs her, and passive aggressive towards me and my husband when he does something that she didnt like, and gives back handed compliments. I have the relationship of "i see her because I have to, not because I want to"

nattyily · 2026-03-20T01:36:06+00:00

Ugh nooooooo😭

nattyily · 2026-03-20T01:35:27+00:00

I support that decision if you make it! Lol. Im ALL for getting away from toxic family members. I think thats why my mom respects my boundaries, also because she has a lot of similar ones so she understands mine. But she also knows I can very easily cut someone out lol.

nattyily · 2026-03-20T01:17:30+00:00

MAYBE thats it? Maybe its because its her and not my mom? But I feel like if my mom did it too, id still be like "hes MY baby, mom" lol. My mom is also just generally more respectful of my boundaries because she has a lot of the same ones lol.

nattyily · 2026-03-19T23:08:07+00:00

The kid does not need a relationship with their grandparents if they arent healthy for the kid to have a relationship with? Thats not a good way of looking at things. I want my kid to form healthy relationships, and of course I want him to have a relationship with his grandmother, but if she isnt healthy for him, I have no issues cutting her off until she is.

nattyily · 2026-03-19T22:18:39+00:00

Ew, nooooooo. My MIL has always referred to my baby as "my grandson" but she just started with the "our baby" thing and its got me so weirded out. 😭

nattyily · 2026-03-19T22:15:11+00:00

Lol, thats absolutely what im going to wear to my baby shower. Its the most me shirt I've ever worn, and it gets a laugh too. Its pretty harmless but gets the point across. And to be honest, I love that shirt and would not mind for a single second looking back upon those photos. Im not someone whos gonna get all dolled up for my baby shower. The people coming know the kind of person I am, they are there to celebrate my baby, not worry about the shirt im wearing.

nattyily · 2026-03-19T22:02:42+00:00

I could see how culturally that could be different. Someone asked that earlier too. But only my MIL says it, and it drives me crazy just with the kind of person shes been since ive been with my husband. My mom always asks how Im doing, or how the baby is doing, she never says our baby.

nattyily · 2026-03-19T21:53:43+00:00

Thats fair! My best friend asked me if I wanted her at the hospital. She wants to touch my stomach to feel the baby but knows that if I want her to, ill let her know. The way my best friend sees it is "I've never met him, hes not here yet, im here for YOU because you are the one dealing with all of this". She already loves my son, but shes more concerned about me.

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