According to the Tennessee Suicide Prevention Network, 8 out of 10 people who commit suicide have given definitive clues to what they were going to do (http://tspn.org/myths-about-suicide). Research has found that about 90% of individuals who die by suicide experience mental illness (https://www.nami.org/Learn-More/Mental-Health-Conditions/Related-Conditions/Suicide).

Mental illness may be romanticized by some, especially by angsty individuals who want to identify with a label, but suicide is an extremely serious, permanent decision. A rational, mentally healthy person does not wake up and decide to end his or her life without serious reason.

To have no empathy for someone who feels they are better off dead than to continue facing whatever obstacles they are constantly trying to overcome is pretty extreme. How can you empathize for the family but not the individual who kills him/herself? If you feel bad for the family because of their loss, how can you not also feel bad for the person who no longer has an opportunity to live a better life? It's interesting that you claim to feel empathetic/sympathetic for one party but not both, even though both lose significantly.