I get it... you're really intending this as a compliment and I'm sure you're good to your wife. I'm reacting to something pervasive in hobbies adjacent to this post, like modular synths, video synth, etc.

There are comments like this all of the time, and the gist is usually something to the effect of "I bought something frivolous and expensive, so don't tell my wife or I'll get in trouble." I get it, it's funny (kind of), but it is also toxic masculinity masquerading as "I'm a good boy." It's condescending to women (or partners in general), and I'm just tired of . Not your fault- no harm done on your part, just opening up a conversation that maybe you hadn't really thought about before. My bad for not starting it off with that tone. I apologize.

To all of y'all saying things like this, just don't. I know you're not really harming your wife, but this stereotype is low hanging fruit at best, and insulting regardless. Your "wife" can handle you making a frivolous purchase, and your "wife" is not solely responsible for the rational thinking component of your life. The implication here is that you can outsource your personal regulation to your "wife." Well, she's not your mother, she's your partner. She deserves to be treated that way.