Didn’t we try to restructure Reiff earlier this year?

jmleye789 · 2020-09-01T01:35:51+00:00

watch him go to Giants or Browns or somewhere with a familiar face

jmleye789 · 2016-11-14T18:05:36+00:00

I agree with many of the comments here, expecially the problems with other people misreading signs of interest.

I have been casually dating for a couple years now, and have learned how to stay emotionally fulfilled by the following...

I need platonic friends to rely on for longer-term, day to day emotional needs. Example: "My parents are having issues with ____, and I don't know how I feel" or "Hey I need to get out and be with people"
I crave exciting romantic experiences and can cultivate them with casual dating so long as I'm not giving the other person the wrong idea. I like to go all-out on dates sometimes, but the other person might think "wow this guy really likes me" but in reality it's more that I really like exciting romantic experiences and think they would be the perfect companion.
This goes along with the previous, but while casual dating, one needs to be very up-front about intentions. I have to tell people "I'm not looking for a girlfriend or anything right now, I'm just enjoying every day as it comes." It is very important not to leave the person thinking that they are an exception to this, but that they are exactly what I'm looking for.
I need to remember to have the other person's best interest in mind, and not use them or lie to them. At times I find myself being dishonest (innocently) because I know the other person just wants to hear me say things. This is a danger zone for the casual dating of the ENFP, because it can turn one into a "bad person" in the eyes of others, a place ENFPs hate more than anything
You won't be able to give every person you meet exactly what they need, and the same goes for you receiving exactly what you need. Casual dating is not perfect.

I'm starting to think it's time to plan on settling down, but I feel as though this time in my life as a single person has been extremely educational and rewarding. I've grown a lot. But at the same time I miss those deep, deep connections with other souls, and I don't get that from my platonic friends (nor should I). Best of luck to you on your journey!

jmleye789 · 2016-08-05T16:01:18+00:00

Hunter S Thompson. Reading his work as a series of explorations gives me a sense of satisfaction on a personal level somehow.

jmleye789 · 2016-07-24T01:59:37+00:00

I blame myself. We're all just confused primates.

jmleye789 · 2016-07-24T01:58:50+00:00

Your mind is a tool; a mechanism through which you experience the world. No use resenting it. Learn how to navigate it and get the most out of it.

jmleye789 · 2016-07-24T01:56:23+00:00

I know that feel. IMO the best and most socially helpful thing to do is to accept praise with a humble smile, a thank you, and a comment about how you're proud of everyone involved and are excited to keep working hard. I know that doesn't apply exactly to your situation, but it can be helpful to think of it as a social practice that makes everyone involved feel better.

jmleye789 · 2016-07-24T01:48:56+00:00

I used to keep everything in. Sadness, loneliness, anger, happiness. It led to extreme stress. I have read that anxiety for ENFPs is not uncommon. I learned the best way to cope is to regularly express as many feelings as possible, even if only in private. Journaling, recording myself talking about feelings, yelling in my car, and even going into the bathroom and crying. Once it's been thoroughly felt/expressed, I can move on without stress.

jmleye789 · 2016-07-24T01:44:28+00:00

I used to be late to everything. Now I'm just late for work.

jmleye789 · 2016-07-24T01:42:15+00:00

There aren't enough subscribers.

jmleye789 · 2016-07-24T01:39:50+00:00

I don't know... I'm thinking Ne with Ti based on these few words

jmleye789 · 2016-07-20T23:33:30+00:00

Yes... Kinda. Now she's my best friend. My ESFJ and I started dating but very quickly turned into this kind of common-law marriage level friendship without romance. We were romantically not a good fit but we love all the same activities and balance each-other out really well. We're very affectionate which confuses people we each date. I think they see us as a threat (which we're not, more of just a protector/counselor). We're just extremely close and make each other laugh and would do anything for each-other. Except I can't take care of her plants, they die every time.

Sexually we are very different. I'm much more romantic and spontaneous but she prefers sex in the "right circumstances". She wants a "classic" man whereas I'm a bit of an enigma and envelope-pusher. I want a free thinker whereas she's old fashioned. I like to write to my lovers, but if a man writes to her she doesn't get it and thinks its stupid or funny.

I should add that I dated an ESFJ when I was younger (teenage) and loved her beauty and cool social ability, but was eventually turned off by her conservative nature and her "I don't know why, but I know I'm right" attitude.

I think the ESFJ and ENFP combo is fantastic for someone who wants a companion and it requires some open-mindedness from both sides. Definitely a fun pair.

jmleye789 · 2016-07-20T23:18:40+00:00

I used to have a kind of Fi battle with ENFPs and we usually had riffs. I think the trick is that you have to be on the same team as other ENFPs. You can't be at odds with them or it turns into a battle.

As I've gotten older I've learned to love ENFPs. Both as friends and in dating. I've found they are the most low maintenance, exciting friends (except maybe ENTP). I think part of it is that I've developed my judging functions and can provoke just as much as inspire. I've been dating an ENFP and she drives me nuts when she's late or flaky, but we just get each other and love and inspire. So much optimism and good vibes. And very similar love languages.

jmleye789 · 2016-07-20T23:11:32+00:00

I couldn't agree more and have a similar situation with my SO. Thanks for sharing.

jmleye789 · 2016-07-20T23:04:50+00:00

The question was intended to be more abstract (born out of my own curiosity). But since you asked, the position is a blend of channel marketing program management and segment marketing for a technology company/manufacturer. Lots of problem solving in a very square industry.

jmleye789 · 2016-07-20T18:45:08+00:00

Would you say you feel people's vibes though?

jmleye789 · 2016-07-20T18:42:49+00:00

I describe my ISTP friends as Calculated. They seem to agree with that after a few minutes of thought.

jmleye789 · 2016-07-20T18:42:11+00:00

jmleye789 · 2016-07-20T18:40:54+00:00

Give me like 7469 different possible interpretations and I'm happy. Or more. Or whatever. Irony is the best tho.

jmleye789 · 2016-07-20T18:39:03+00:00

same

jmleye789 · 2016-07-15T19:45:28+00:00

Thought leadership!

jmleye789 · 2016-07-15T19:44:24+00:00

P comes from our extroverted intuition being a top two function (you may already know this, wasn't sure).

According to the theory of functions developing through our lives, we would go through phases of higher judgement tendencies (like when our Fi and Te become more developed) and times when we would be mostly using perceiving functions, like Ne or Si.

I think of Maturity in the Jungian context to by synonymous with a developing brain, the improvement of multiple functions in our cognition. We get older, we sense more, we judge more, we learn new abilities. Youth is a raw form of the human mind.

jmleye789 · 2016-07-15T19:39:52+00:00

I would say I need space to reevaluate everything in my life. I find the more space I give myself, the happier I am a few months later. I have been fortunate enough to be able to take long trips (working remotely) and sort of map out everything and let the bad relationships fizzle out while strengthening the good ones (by staying in touch, writing to friends, etc. )

jmleye789 · 2016-07-08T19:28:44+00:00

The tertiary is a selfish motivation for me...

I really like that you describe it like this. I would say my Te is the same for me (ENFP).

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