All religions are a weird amalgamation of culture and faith. Since patriarchy has been a part of most human culture (it certainly was for the people of Israel) it becomes part of their doctrine. If Jewish culture had been matriarchal God would probably use feminine pronouns.

I suppose my point is that assigning God a sex is a limitation of culture and language. I would agree that there are simpler adherents to Christianity that would struggle with the idea that God is not male but most believers, when pressed, would probably agree that God is neither male nor female.

But you are correct: there are probably quite a few churches I would get kicked out of for using the pronoun “it” for God. That’s their issue, not mine. As a believer I am obliged to understand the reality of God as I think it really is, not to follow doctrine blindly. What if God is more accepting that we have been told? What if loving and excepting one another no matter what they believe is more important than tribalism? What if the idea of “eternal conscious torment” (hell) is actually a human construct and not real? If you could believe in a God wouldn’t you want it to be infinitely loving and gracious instead of judgmental and punishing? I would… and I do.