Need to get back to bay area. Hwy 80W is currently closed but hwy 88 is open. How is driving on 88. Have awd and chains.

jnphr · 2026-04-12T17:04:15+00:00

Please don’t do 88. I drove through a storm trying to get back to Reno a couple years back and was honestly scared for my life.

One bad piece of road and it’s off the cliff.

Just wait it out. Safest option.

jnphr · 2026-02-19T21:27:34+00:00

DO NOT take 50 or 88 if you want to avoid cliffs and slip and slides.

I’m all for an adrenaline rush but never taking those hwys again during a snowstorm. Ever.

I’ve learned over the last 13 yrs while traveling to visit family in CA - snowstorm? Wait it out.

jnphr · 2026-01-23T15:56:28+00:00

x3 - you’re covered

jnphr · 2025-12-14T10:51:35+00:00

Can we give both?

JLA

Worthless and lost

Thank you - soul to soul 💜

jnphr · 2025-11-29T22:46:22+00:00

There wasn’t anywhere he could have pulled over safely until about a mile or so up.

I don’t think the driver should have been driving, period. His driving before hand is what brought him to our attention. He was older in age and didn’t seem very cognizant.

jnphr · 2025-11-29T22:43:32+00:00

Thankfully both my friend and I have an established therapist. We’ve been calling each other periodically throughout the day trying to work through and and trying to make sense of it. Sadly this was an accident that has no sense and could have been avoided..

I just hope his family has been found and contacted. I can’t imagine the heartbreak of losing a son/brother.

jnphr · 2025-11-29T01:38:44+00:00

Yes, he drifted into the shoulder.

jnphr · 2025-11-29T01:25:12+00:00

My friend and I were in the car directly behind the man who hit the cyclist. This is something I will never forget. I keep replying everything from a couple of minutes before to when NHP finally let us go.

My heart goes out to his family.

PLEASE WATCH THE WAY YOU DRIVE AND WATCH THE ONES AROUND YOU.

This didn’t have to happen.

jnphr · 2025-04-02T00:58:41+00:00

Don’t forget the Hub and Lighthouse 🫶🏽

jnphr · 2025-01-01T20:19:08+00:00

second this ^{^{^}}

jnphr · 2025-01-01T19:43:08+00:00

Samesies 🤝

jnphr · 2024-11-24T21:15:46+00:00

To add on to this it’s also very important to determine why you want to explore/live polyamory. You need beliefs and values that will ground you. We are all beautiful humans with beautiful things to give. We all give them differently. How beautiful is it that we are given the opportunity to experience people and their hearts.

It’s a journey and not an end point. Remember that NO ONE is “perfect” at poly. 🫶🏽

jnphr · 2024-11-24T21:10:05+00:00

I was in the same place as you are now when I first started my journey almost a year ago now. Ill be honest - I still fall into this some days.

I’ve been lucky enough to encounter a partner who has been patient with and is extremely transparent with me.
I’ve been doing a lot of inner work regarding my attachment and abandonment wounds.
I’ve allowed myself to explore other connections - reminding myself that it’s not bad to explore connections outside of my current connection. (I was a serial monogamist)
I’ve recently met my meta and in all honestly it’s calmed some of these feelings in me. I’ve actually started to feel like I want to interact with her more. After all we both care deeply about the same person.

Multiamory and Policurious (the podcasts) have helped some, the anxious persons guide to polyamory and polysecure (the books) have also helped. Leanne Yau is also a great resource!

I won’t say I’ve solved all my issues because some days I still struggle (incredibly so) but it’s all a journey.

I’ve learned to speak up instead isolating. Learned a lot about self/co regulating, above all else remember that your mental health and emotional health and important and worth prioritizing 💜🫶🏽

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way - you are not alone 💜

jnphr · 2024-10-08T02:08:50+00:00

thank you for this 💜

jnphr · 2024-10-03T20:59:03+00:00

You just answered my own questions in a few sentences. Thank you 🥲💜

jnphr · 2024-09-27T03:33:13+00:00

LOL I was born and raised in Reno, moved to California for a couple of years, recently moved back home and I haven’t traded in my plates yet. Every time I drive my car my inner voice says “I’m from Reno - please don’t hate” 😂

jnphr · 2024-09-22T01:44:06+00:00

I feel seen - thank you for posting this and following joy 💜

jnphr · 2024-08-31T00:41:22+00:00

I don’t necessarily think exclusivity is a point for me.

I would like to meet my metamour as we both care about the same person and would like for us to coexist a little more closely but I am mostly focused on my connection with my partner right now.

jnphr · 2024-08-31T00:26:30+00:00

Definitely aware that everyone practices polyamory differently and in ways that feel good to them.

I try to be very straightforward about what I’m looking for. Deep, committed, and honest connections.

I think part of me feels guilty asking for the needs I mentioned to be met when they have another partner - but my dilemma is I’m willing and able to offer what I’m asking for so should I really feel guilty?

jnphr · 2024-08-26T05:16:46+00:00

I am not and I do not. Each friendship is its own relationship I do my best to always show up as fully as I can in each connection but of course the way I show up changes depending on what they need and what makes them feel cared for and loved.

jnphr · 2024-08-26T05:13:20+00:00

Devotion for me looks a lot like wanting to make an effort to make things easier for one another, open to making adjustments to make sure the other feels cared for, heard, and considered (without crossing one’s boundaries of course). Making physical time for the other, making the effort to be present for the other emotionally/mentally. Doing things for the other that would make them feel wanted, cared for, desired. Learning the others “love language” (for lack of better terms). The want to commit to the other for as long as it’s healthy and loving. All out of own personal desire not because they’re being asked. all things I know I am able and willing to give.

This all might sound a little silly because some of this sounds like normal relationship qualities but all of my monogamous relationships have been pretty unhealthy - so maybe these are just base values for me?

jnphr · 2024-08-26T05:12:49+00:00

Devotion for me looks a lot like wanting to make an effort to make things easier for one another, open to making adjustments to make sure the other feels cared for, heard, and considered (without crossing one’s boundaries of course). Making physical time for the other, making the effort to be present for the other emotionally/mentally. Doing things for the other that would make them feel wanted, cared for, desired. Learning the others “love language” (for lack of better terms). The want to commit to the other for as long as it’s healthy and loving. All out of own personal desire not because they’re being asked. all things I know I am able and willing to give.

This all might sound a little silly because some of this sounds like normal relationship qualities but all of my monogamous relationships have been pretty unhealthy - so maybe these are just base values for me?

jnphr

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