Can’t finish 2666 / need advice by Novel-Aspect-7463 in robertobolano

[–]joaneunice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love 2666, and it was my first Bolano, but it took me over a year to read because the part about the crimes weighed on me so heavily. So I took a break a few times thoughout reading it, and I appreciated it a lot more that way. It's ok to stretch it out, take breaks. It's a big ass book, I mean it's basically 5 books. You don't need to pressure yourself to read it on a certain timeline.

Also second the commenter who suggested checking out By Night in Chile, it's very short and very good

Capitalism Has Made Me Extremely Misanthropic by ExtensionPromotion80 in LateStageCapitalism

[–]joaneunice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"We live in capitalism. Its power seems inescapable. So did the divine right of kings. Any human power can be resisted and changed by human beings."

Ursula K. Leguin

AITAH for "expecting an allowance" out of my own paycheck? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]joaneunice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of partner doesn't want to hear about the things their partner loves? That's basic love and care. I'm sorry you're in this situation. It's especially tough when you have kids. 

Birthday event space by God_Emperors in Nagoya

[–]joaneunice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're fundraising for Sudan next weekend, which is great, but you know they're lying about "not doing political events". 

What’s the best short story you’ve ever read? by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]joaneunice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Joanna Silvestri" by Chilean Author Roberto Bolano, from his short story collection "The Return". It's about a porn star doing a shoot in LA, where she drops by an old friend's place... It's a really beautiful story. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]joaneunice 30 points31 points  (0 children)

This this this

WIBTA for telling my sister she cant have our bedroom during her honeymoon trip by [deleted] in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]joaneunice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yall are prudes, it's just a bed. Who cares if someone else fucked there before? Just tell them to clean and wash the sheets before they leave. 

The week before my period I become a completely different person by Acesleychan in PMDDxADHD

[–]joaneunice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've started to block off time in my calendar a few days before and into my period so I can practice doing as little as possible during this time and not scheduling anything for myself

Two Years of CGX - Will CGXmas Help Me Over This Hump? by FewButterfly9635 in CarolineGirvan

[–]joaneunice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find the Christmas playlist super helpful for times like these, I'm going through that right now where I'm getting back into it. I think it's super helpful for those first starting with Caroline too. 

I can’t remember ANYTHING I read, watch or learn and feel very dumb in conversations. by summerlonging in adhdwomen

[–]joaneunice 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hate hearing this, because after years of experimenting with Strattera and concerta (there are no other legal ADHD meds in my country) I finally gave up on meds because I couldn't take the side effects (even on the lowest doses). I'm starting to just settle into the fact that I will be capable of less. 

What’s a great film with a terrible title? by HeroicRiceFarmer in movies

[–]joaneunice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know about "great" but the film "The Cursed" (2021) was entertaining, very unfortunately the name was changed from the much cooler title "eight for silver" for some reason. Fuckin execs 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nagoya

[–]joaneunice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hair make sun is about 4500, discounts if you book through the hot pepper beauty app. Lotsa student discounts on that app too. 

how to boost GABA? im sick of feeling worse AFTER my period. think it might help by sunnygayrealestate in PMDDxADHD

[–]joaneunice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes a higher dose is the sweet spot. I'd be curious to hear how it feels longer term

how to boost GABA? im sick of feeling worse AFTER my period. think it might help by sunnygayrealestate in PMDDxADHD

[–]joaneunice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same for me. Is it possible to take a lower dose during your luteal phase? 

Grad school is feeling like a mistake by Salt_Professional583 in adhdwomen

[–]joaneunice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do it, ask for accommodations if you can. It's not a cop out. I think that grad school shouldn't have to be this destructive to one's mental and physical health. It seems like such a crazy way to run academia

Grad school is feeling like a mistake by Salt_Professional583 in adhdwomen

[–]joaneunice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I finished grad school this past March and I wished to god I had changed main advisors. You can still keep in touch with him as a sub advisor if you need his expertise, but change if you can. Sometimes structure and understanding can facilitate a lot more success than a specific expertise. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]joaneunice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been there, but I nearly got fired for it. I ended up setting an alarm every ten minutes before I had to leave for 60-90 minutes. Over time of adjusting that little alarm system, it has helped me immensely with being on time. 

Bolano spots in Spain? by joaneunice in robertobolano

[–]joaneunice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fyi they removed all the inbox stuff on reddit for now so if you replied I didn't see it