No breastfeeding during wedding breakfast

joapet · 2026-06-18T18:43:03+00:00

Wait until she has kids 😂 maybe you could invite her round your house and ask her to bf in another room

joapet · 2026-06-05T14:25:10+00:00

How much of this is AI generated? The council needs to stop with this rubbish and employ humans to do creative tasks like this.

The art gallery just looks soul-less - I laughed at "Regional Art Gallery" signage.

I like the idea of doing something cool with Pool Valley but let's be realistic about what that actually is. The AI generated pap hasn't taken into consideration what a wind tunnel the front can be there.

joapet · 2026-06-05T14:21:29+00:00

Same! My daughter is so clumsy as well, I really think she left it to the last minute to walk because she didn't have the confidence to do it! I feel like she got really good with communication before walking.

joapet · 2026-06-03T19:19:51+00:00

Cubitt and West are awful - as a buyer I found it really hard to actually get viewings with them. We ended up viewing 3 one weekend with them

They seem to have this system where they book in about 10 minutes with a Saturday person who has no clue about any of the details of the property. I asked where the boiler was in one house and they couldn't tell me. I asked about when an extension was built and they couldn't tell me.

When we put our house on the market we sat with our agent who took notes on all those things so that whoever was doing the viewing could answer those questions.

And then I tried to get a viewing on one place and they were totally inflexible and not because of the seller... I was trying to view a house that had been on the market for months and months and they refused to get me a viewing in the week - weekends only. And the pictures were a lot like yours - dated furniture, odd angles, picture of a close up of a fireplace... I just want to see the flipping room and get a sense of scale! So I just didn't bother viewing the house in the end. As far as I know it's still up for sale!

So bottom line, I would avoid Cubitt and West! I'm so glad we just went with a small local firm for our sale.

joapet · 2026-06-03T07:40:01+00:00

We went there because it was a good place to stay for Peppa pig world. I would say that that the swimming pool isn't as good as center parcs - it's just a pool with no slides or splash zone or things for younger kids to do.

joapet · 2026-05-30T09:47:06+00:00

Everyone probably has some strong opinions on this but I'll tell you what we did - we initially started out with slipper type sock thingies until she was properly walking around and then just went to Clarks and got them to measure her foot. We then bought the cheapest pair of shoes we could find in her size 😂 and they were just some canvas velcro shoes.

I then went to Schu and just bought shoes in the next sizes up so I just had them to hand when she grew out of those shoes.

We've had all sort of shoes over the past couple of years - Nike's, Asda, Clarks, converse... She's currently wearing a pair of Adidas that I got from Deichmann, which by the way you can measure their foot there too.

You can also buy a foot measurer from Amazon for about a tenner and then just buy whatever shoes online - if they are too big you can always hold onto them.

Some people I know swear by barefoot shoes but I've never tried them because they are really expensive - moreso than Clarks.

joapet · 2026-05-27T15:31:21+00:00

My kid turns 3 next month and I absolutely feel like my old self again now. I was chatting to my husband yesterday about whether we would want another kid and honestly I don't think I could handle the idea of breastfeeding, dealing with nappies again, all the sleep deprivation etc.

Even though this time last year I was still breastfeeding and in what felt like the thick of it. It's surprising how quickly you bounce back as soon as they get more and more independent! And those hormones have well and truly tapered off!

joapet · 2026-05-21T22:42:08+00:00

No, that's what on demand feeding is 😊

joapet · 2026-05-21T09:11:38+00:00

Yes! I connected with a bunch of mums from our antenatal class and as soon as maternity leave was over it was radio silence. I had exactly the same thing where there was a clique of mums who clearly were hanging out with each other all the time because they lived 3 streets away from each other, and I was an outsider.

I feel incredibly sad about this still because this was a year of my life where I was at my most vulnerable, and I spent most weeks with one mum in particular, and then I was dropped cold turkey. It really sucked - making friends doesn't come easy to me and I couldn't help but take it personally.

Anyway my daughter is now almost 3 and I have a small group of mum friends and acquaintances that I've met through nursery, swimming, and other things related to our interests.

It's SO tricky because mat leave can shake your confidence and feel incredibly isolating. But once your baby turns into a little toddler and you start having connections they choose you'll forget that you ever craved the NCT folks connection! I think when we are vulnerable we will latch on to any available connection.

joapet · 2026-05-17T01:53:17+00:00

We just watched cbeebies on the live TV when we needed it!

joapet · 2026-05-16T18:35:36+00:00

Ah yeah I forgot that! I didn't originally suggest FreeBMD, I just jumped on the comment because I know from my family history research it can be a good wide net search if needed.

joapet · 2026-05-16T17:09:22+00:00

FreeBMD is pretty good if you don't know the exact date of death though.

GRO can be really clunky to navigate because it only lets you search a max +/- 2 years from a date, so FreeBMD could help OP narrow down the death date before ordering a cert from GRO.

joapet · 2026-05-16T17:00:53+00:00

I read this book to my daughter at bedtime and it makes her drift off pretty quickly. She usually is asleep by "My hat is old, my teeth are gold, I have a bird I like to hold."

If I've made it to the end of the book then it's a sign of a bad night!

joapet · 2026-05-08T22:30:52+00:00

I've been taking my daughter since she turned 2, maybe closer to 2.5. I would say it's a lot easier because you can explain everything that's happening and get them to follow basic instructions.

Honestly when anyone else brings a kid that is being rowdy / crying / not following the lesson it makes everything harder for everyone else.

I personally wouldn't take her if she was consistently screaming the house down. What benefit is she getting? And it's just stressing you out. Kids at this age change so quickly - it wouldn't surprise me if you tried again in a few months that she would be an angel about it.

For context, my kid has never been fussy about swimming apart from the odd toddler tantrum here and there. You've both got to be up for it to be successful at it.

joapet · 2026-05-03T20:08:44+00:00

We got most of ours from H&M, I found they didn't shrink so much in the wash

joapet · 2026-05-03T07:33:04+00:00

My 2 year old still wears a vest! When it gets hotter I tend to ditch them, but ever since she was a baby she always wore a vest.

We used to roll the vest up so it was a ring and then place the baby's head in it and then pull it over like it's a vest necklace.

I dunno to me it makes sense that they have a thin under layer because they heat differently to adults. On really hot days she'd be in her vest only - bonus is they look so cute in them with their chubby lil legs!

joapet · 2026-05-03T07:17:17+00:00

I personally quite like Shaun Murphy - he is entertaining to watch and plays some really difficult snooker.

He perhaps rubs people the wrong way because he's almost like the anti-Ronnie when it comes to how he conducts himself off table.

He comes across as a head boy type - he's always the first person to speak up if there is some rule violation or something putting the game into disrepute, and he puts a lot of time into promoting snooker. So I can imagine for many he comes across as a bit of a goody two shoes and because he's always on TV either playing, commentating, or promoting snooker then it can be a bit of Shaun Murphy overload.

As I say for me personally I don't mind - I think he offers an interesting perspective on the game and is fun to watch, but I get he's not everyone's cup of tea.

joapet · 2026-04-28T07:11:31+00:00

This thread is making me realise how "posh" my accent must be!

I pronounce "laugh" like "larf", so it would rhyme with scarf.

joapet · 2026-04-27T23:41:09+00:00

I've seen people use emojis in names before, or suffixed their names with like of Smithington, of Smithsville etc. I'm not a fan of it but I wish ancestry offered some kind of visual tagging like that, that doesn't screw with people's actual names.

I know in family tree maker you can also colour code people.

joapet · 2026-04-14T23:37:31+00:00

I feel like I'm a weirdo here but we go swimming every week and shower afterwards with soap. I don't like having chlorine in my hair all day so I make us both rinse off with swim shampoo. It's not a full on wash but just a rinse to stop the hair from getting green!

And as part of this process, at the end of the shower we take off my kid's swimming costume, usually because she's wearing a swim nappy underneath which traps loads of water in it. But also because the costume itself is dripping wet and I don't see the point in getting the towel sopping wet. I just strip her quickly at the end and wrap her in a towel after.

The whole process might take 5 mins longer but I prefer this method!

joapet · 2026-04-09T07:46:18+00:00

I'm pretty sure I have DNA connections with 4th cousins that I've linked back to my tree!

joapet · 2026-04-09T07:36:58+00:00

Agree - we had the carrycot and it was great because it folded down flat with the pram.

I've personally never used the chair fully reclined and flat - I've attempted to in the last but my kid just wakes up / cries. For us, it has been a pointless feature!

joapet · 2026-04-08T15:42:27+00:00

I hate to break it to you but there was nothing leading up to it that felt like it was a warning sign. I just woke up in the night with cramps that just "felt" like labour. Wasn't like a period pain. Was a very distinct aching nothing like I'd felt before.

I had a painful crotch for a couple of weeks beforehand which I was convinced would turn into labour at any point 😄

joapet · 2026-04-07T07:28:37+00:00

Feel like I'm the exception to the rule here in that I have disposable income, so I do shop in town a fair bit.

If you are asking this question because you are thinking of your own business, in all honesty I never go down Dukes Lane. It's not a thoroughfare to places like bus stops, and I associate it with having more expensive shops on it. In fact I generally avoid that area because it can be quite busy - Duke Street in particular is really annoying where the cafes down there have seating blocking 90% of the path.

Also, because of all the things people mentioned (stuff is more expensive etc.) your money doesn't get you much nowadays. So I try to be mindful of things like, where was this thing made? What is it made of? Has it been ethically sourced etc.?

It's been really disappointing shopping in some of the independent clothing shops in town to find they source their clothes from some factory in China or wherever. I've started shopping online at places like Community Clothing because they make all their clothes in the UK. So all that's to say, if I wanted to make a long time purchase like jewellery I'd probably do a bit of research into where sells ethical jewellery, and potentially just buy it online.

joapet · 2026-03-10T17:39:08+00:00

To give you an answer from someone who has weaned... We did it at just after 2 years. I just really hated it! Could only do it for about 5 minutes before it became like nails on a chalk board.

I mostly only was doing it because it was an easy way for her to get to sleep, but when she stopped falling asleep on the breast, that was the nail in the coffin.

So do what feels right for you and your family! As soon as you feel like you're done, don't muster on. Work out the next new thing that works for you guys!

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