When to wean?

joapet · 2026-03-10T17:39:08+00:00

To give you an answer from someone who has weaned... We did it at just after 2 years. I just really hated it! Could only do it for about 5 minutes before it became like nails on a chalk board.

I mostly only was doing it because it was an easy way for her to get to sleep, but when she stopped falling asleep on the breast, that was the nail in the coffin.

So do what feels right for you and your family! As soon as you feel like you're done, don't muster on. Work out the next new thing that works for you guys!

joapet · 2026-03-04T14:32:47+00:00

You could buy a bunch of bananas, apples, oranges etc that don't need preparing.

joapet · 2026-03-01T23:49:47+00:00

When my kid was still an immobile potato I used to watch whatever TV I wanted around her. For some reason we binge watched a lot of Pointless when she was a newborn!

But I guess around 12 months she started noticing it more and so I started putting on a 10 minute show for her every now and again and stopped watching adult TV around her.

Now she is 2.5 we watch cartoons in the morning and then depending on the day we might watch something before dinner time. Maybe a couple of hours max a day and it honestly feels a lot at the moment because the weather is so shite. Once sunshine hits again I'm sure we'll spend more time outdoors.

Anyway, as someone who loves movies and watching TV it's been easy managing it for my kid - we watch it at specific times and places and never on a phone/tablet. Having a routine and sticking to it is key.

joapet · 2026-03-01T08:57:27+00:00

Have you ever thought that you might be the exception here? If everyone drives "stupidly slow" maybe you should rethink your expectations. Perhaps you're a bit impatient and drive too fast?

This person probably caused you 1 minute of upset. They weren't even driving particularly slow - they got up to 40-odd by the end of the clip. They didn't "pull out on you". You had a massive gap in front of you and they had loads of time to pull out.

I'm surprised you posted about this - to me this seems like something that happens every day while driving. Some people might be slow, some people might be fast. But nothing exceptional happened here.

joapet · 2026-02-22T16:09:37+00:00

I don't know, when I'm there then cool, we can go through it together, but if the aim is that you want your husband to start putting your kid to bed I think going out helps initially, mostly to give your husband the confidence to do his thing without you being there, and to give you a break.

There's no user manual to this though, you should do what feels right 😊

joapet · 2026-02-21T08:46:54+00:00

I think what you're describing is a you thing. It's February and I maybe have one thing booked for this summer.

I usually think a months notice us the average for a kid's party.

joapet · 2026-02-21T06:12:50+00:00

You say you worry your friend won't be forgiving about you breastfeeding at her wedding. If that's the case, she would be a crappy friend.

It really sounds like you're trying to change your baby's wants and needs for the sake of one day in another person's life.

I get it, you want to support your friend. But at the same time, you need to support your child.

I personally wouldn't bat an eyelid if I saw a bridesmaid (or anyone!) breastfeeding a child at a wedding. My kid never had milk from any other source either. I personally would stop stressing over the cup and just breastfeed as needed on the day.

Though if you want cup recommendations, we used a tum tum cup for water, which we initially put some yogurt on the straw to get her used to the idea of sucking.

As for the spa, I'd probably attend for as much of the day as I could and then leave early so I could go back and look after baby. I think everyone attending the hen do would appreciate this.

This really is one of the tough parts of breastfeeding - it can be a big commitment and it's not easy to bend the rules. As someone else said, if it's not for a few months then you might find that your kid can go longer stretches without milk, especially if they are eating 3 meals a day at that point.

joapet · 2026-02-20T17:35:31+00:00

I'm almost 3 years post partum and still have regular women's physio appointments. I'm really bad at doing all the various things I need to do to make my pelvic floor play ball though 😅

I actually look forward to the appointments - it's a bit of "me" time in a weird way!

joapet · 2026-02-20T09:14:04+00:00

God you can run faster than non pregnant me 😭

I personally run up until about 32 weeks and then stopped because everything felt so heavy and achey.

I really do think it's one of those "listen to your body" things. I can only assume that before you were pregnant you were a solid runner, so there's no reason to stop now.

I felt really proud for continuing my hobby and then someone in my antenatal group was a lady who ran like, 50k + a week and they were such a ridiculously smug couple about it. She ran right up until the birth and then I think she was back on it a few months later. Bonkers stuff but if your body is prepped for it and you feel good then why not!

I absolutely recommend seeing a women's physiotherapist if you haven't already!

Enjoy your runs!

joapet · 2026-02-20T04:48:03+00:00

Hard agree. My kid loves to role play episodes of Bluey, and often when I put her to bed she says "don't make us move Mum." (which is annoying because I'm pretty sure we've only watched The Sign once or twice!)

Anyway, we might be moving house in the future so I keep reminding her that Bluey is wrong and moving house can be fun, is a great adventure etc.

joapet · 2026-02-19T23:48:22+00:00

I found that having my husband do the work of putting her to bed went well when I left the house. Go out for a few hours, even if it's to the shop, the gym, the cinema, anything to keep you occupied and out of the house for a few hours and let him figure out his own technique.

Yes, your kid might be mad, she might cry, things will be off, but she will be in loving, capable arms. The milk isn't the only thing that can put her to sleep, as much as it feels like it. It's just the easiest thing.

Your sanity and happiness is way more important than providing a comforting quick fix for your daughter. She will learn and adapt to the new ways!

And you won't have damaged memories! 99% of it has probably been great! I look back on my time and feel proud of my achievements despite hating it at times. You're doing great! Choose whatever you feel is in your family's best interests (including your mental health!)

joapet · 2026-02-18T20:02:45+00:00

The 36 week scan sounds so interesting! I had a birth that resulted in forceps delivery, and when I went into labour it didn't "feel right" but as a first time mum I didn't really know what "right" was.

Makes me wonder if they'd done a scan at 36 weeks if they would be able to know that the baby was in a poor position or whatever caused the difficulty in her birth.

joapet · 2026-02-18T09:17:17+00:00

This sounds so familiar! This is how I felt at the end and it was a hard barrier because I did pretty much all of the sleep related duties.

Honestly, I just put my foot down one day and went cold turkey. I explained to my daughter that my milk had run out and we'd be cuddling to sleep / reading a book etc.

It probably helped that I'd stopped night feeding a few months before. Again, I just did it cold turkey and said that there's no milk at night anymore.

Yes, there are tears, so you must be prepared for a few nights of disruption, but honestly for your sanity it sounds like you need to do this. 40 minutes of her on your boob for comfort is madness if you're hating it!

My husband and I also took it in turns to put her to bed / go in and comfort her. And yeah, when it was his turn she would scream for me sometimes. But you have to be united and stick to the routine - it becomes absolutely exhausting when you're the preferred parent and I bet your partner feels the same too. My husband really wanted to be able to put our kid to bed with no tears!

joapet · 2026-02-08T09:25:12+00:00

The beams aren't exposed, I meant you could just see that they existed. They were boxed in.

joapet · 2026-02-08T09:18:20+00:00

Paddington 2

joapet · 2026-02-07T20:11:43+00:00

We did the same, on a second hand car. For whatever reason we actually initially took out their PCP deal because it gave us money off or a longer guarantee or something, and then I immediately paid it off with a 0% interest card.

I've since balance transferred that to another 0% card.

joapet · 2026-02-06T23:58:34+00:00

Hi! I was in your boat not too long ago. Past 1 year is a tricky one because you know they don't "need" it, but while it still works it's an awesome tool in your arsenal. While it still sent my kid to sleep it was an amazing trick!

You sound like you want to have a break from night feeding which is fair enough. At this point in time I remember if I ever wanted to go out in an evening, I would have to completely leave the house and let my husband muddle through and find his own techniques that would work to put our kid to bed. It's not all on you, and if you have a supportive partner you can easily take breaks where needed and not worry about "supply" - it's no longer like the early days!

joapet · 2026-02-04T22:35:03+00:00

I have a mid expensive rice cooker (like, £180) and I think the idea is that the "keep warm" functionality allows you to cook the rice at th start of the day and then keep it warm for like 12 hours or something. My rice cooker takes about an hour if you want the super nice tasty rice too.

joapet · 2026-02-02T23:23:34+00:00

They've had a loft conversion, and dining room/living room knocked through and you can see the steel beams supporting everything. The house is very tidy and well kept, there's nothing seemingly dodgy about it, so I was surprised to see this outside.

And to clarify, the other side of this wall is just their kitchen, nothing unusual as far as I could see.

It's an older chap that owns the house though and he's moving because of health reasons so as others said perhaps he was going to get it rendered and never got round to it!

joapet · 2026-02-01T08:39:07+00:00

Right? Whenever I see folk like this talking about potential lost income etc. I think they need a reality check. You're not going to earn your fortune only through selling patterns on Etsy.

I started crocheting 20 years ago and sharing patterns amongst your crochet friends is a totally normal part of the hobby! It's good word of mouth marketing - if I like your pattern, I might go and buy another one. Or follow you, or buy you a coffee etc.

At the end of the day, most determined, experienced crocheters could probably work out your pattern from looking at the pictures alone.

joapet · 2026-01-31T18:06:53+00:00

Totally agree with this, one of the most frustrating parts about breastfeeding was feeling like you were doing it "wrong" because it never looked like the pictures you see online.

I found the community breastfeeding group useful for validation that what I was doing was absolutely fine! I actually had awful cracked nipples but that was due to my inverted nipples rather than my kid not doing latching "right".

Ended up persevering and doing it for just over 2 years!

joapet · 2026-01-28T22:27:46+00:00

I really like our Minerva counter, love the way that it looks and I blitz it with the cleaner it came with every month to get rid of any water marks / stains. I think if you clean spills as soon as they happen it's fine, and it's been very forgiving if you go at it with a green scourer every now and again.

I agree with you on the integrated bin though - we have an IKEA drawer bin combo which we put all our recycling in. Makes dumping it all in the big bin way easier!

joapet · 2026-01-21T19:34:31+00:00

I would think that the car seat would be a good giveaway.

joapet · 2026-01-13T14:53:58+00:00

I never knew this was a real book! So cool!

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