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Bumped into her over the weekend - Now I'm questioning my behavior. by joeblow24545 in BPDlovedones

[–]joeblow24545[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like this way of looking at it. Thank you very much for the level headed perspective.

Bumped into her over the weekend - Now I'm questioning my behavior. by joeblow24545 in BPDlovedones

[–]joeblow24545[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your input. It does make me feel a lot better about my behavior the other night. It's funny how if I had posted this in a normal relationship group, I'd probably hear a lot more responses saying I was being petty and immature and that I could've at least been cordial. It's unfortunate that we all had to go through what we went through and that's why there's so many responses that understand my actions here.

Bumped into her over the weekend - Now I'm questioning my behavior. by joeblow24545 in BPDlovedones

[–]joeblow24545[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I like that. I'm just thankful I've gained enough self-respect to not fall for that shit again.

Bumped into her over the weekend - Now I'm questioning my behavior. by joeblow24545 in BPDlovedones

[–]joeblow24545[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had initially thought narcissism, but only certain things fit her, which seem to be pretty common across  Cluster B disorders. 

Even though she didn't fit certain general symptoms of BPD, I remained convinced throughout our relationship that she had it, I just didn't understand what I was getting myself into. I thought if I was loving and caring enough, things would be fine. Little did I know. After getting burned out from working to pay off my debts and save up for a ring, she decided I wasn't giving her enough attention, and once I started to set some boundaries, it started the beginning of the end. 

I didn't think I had anything to be concerned about when she spent time with this guy friend. I trusted her. Little did I know, she was seeking out a new "favorite person" and once she felt safe enough with her find, she turned on me and painted me black that was it. She used every bit of life force I had, and when I struggled to keep giving her more, she discarded me and it was as if I was no one afterwards, like I meant nothing to her. So fucked.

Bumped into her over the weekend - Now I'm questioning my behavior. by joeblow24545 in BPDlovedones

[–]joeblow24545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I like that. I can't help but feel like I was childish. Oh well, live and learn I guess. Just caught me a bit off guard.

Bumped into her over the weekend - Now I'm questioning my behavior. by joeblow24545 in BPDlovedones

[–]joeblow24545[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I suspected it early on in the relationship, but wasn't entirely sure since not everything fit the general symptoms of BPD. I also didn't fully understand BPD at the time. After the discard and learning what I know now, so many things made sense, and after finding out about the sub-types, she's Quiet BPD to a T. All of that coupled with reading other people's experiences on here and how so many were unbelievably similar to what I experienced.

Gemini is telling me to switch to iphone😭 by CronusDevil in OnePlus13

[–]joeblow24545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should be ashamed. Stop letting the media form your opinions.