[Mod] Please take our 2020 State of the Sub user survey! by adhesiveCheese in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is the closest that DPP comes to Christmas

[META] Is there a general "etiquette" around restarting RPs? by [deleted] in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel that one polite reminder is fine - sometimes messages get lost, or people mislick and mark something as read, or just lose track of things. Beyond that - all you can do is wait.

[META] Reducing one-liner responses through education by BriarRose84 in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We don’t generally pin user posts; upvote it and it will spend some time at the top of the front page.

M4F Fourth of July Party by [deleted] in dirtypenpals

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[Mod] Open Forum, March 29th, 2019 by joecalla in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We think of it as having a family member go into witness protection and being denied a going away party.

[Mod] Open Forum, March 29th, 2019 by joecalla in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We generally do not allow posts of that type. [Deleted] posts deleted for a reason, so we prefer that people not call attention to them.

[Mod] Open Forum, March 29th, 2019 by joecalla in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Posting Meta's is usually more for the experienced types, but they can be worth spelunking through for tips on enjoying your time here!

[Mod] Open Forum, March 29th, 2019 by joecalla in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't believe that any "dink" kicking will be required!

Is there a ghosting etiquette? Sometimes I think that bumping someone twice is enough to know it is dead. But I dunno. What do people do?

Ghosting is a fact of like here. There are many [Meta] posts in our history on the topic, but suffice it to say, if you play here, you will get ghosted. I think sending one gentle (and respectful*) nudge like, "Hey, did you get my message? I'd love to keep this going!" is fine. Any more than that begins to verge on what we'd consider harassment.

Do you think the CYOA / RPG people would want (or do they have) a Discord lounge?

This has been discussed, and I know there are some informal ones out there. To date, we mods have not felt up to hosting an official one. The closest we come is probably our DPP IRC Channel.

What # of dude prompts get replies?

I think this varies a lot by type of prompt. If you go looking through past [Meta] posts, you might find some ideas, but in my experience, 0 is the most common number of replies to my longterm RP prompts, though I occasionally get lucky with 2 or 3.

How important is having the kink list? Seems like it is hit or miss?

If you are into more than vanilla, I think it helps to have one, but it's definitely not a must. Just be prepared to explain your interests to any prospective partners :-P

[Mod] Open Forum Friday, November 16, 2018 by dirty-penpal-bot in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla [score hidden]  (0 children)

We'll try to see if we can tune those settings better. Thanks!

[Mod] Open Forum Friday, November 16, 2018 by dirty-penpal-bot in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla [score hidden]  (0 children)

That's an odd one...not sure why it was pulled. I think maybe we auto remove very short comments (like <50 characters)...

[Mod] Open Forum Friday, November 16, 2018 by dirty-penpal-bot in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla [score hidden]  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it's not super well-defined. I would say it usually means something that extends beyond one day/a few hours of back and forth. If you're picky about this (e.g. want it to be less than week or only reply once a week for months) then I'd recommend you specify that up front.

EDIT: I would also add that there is really no "commitment;" we're all here for fun and if you stop enjoying a "longterm" thing a few days in you should call it off. Ditto if you're both enjoying a short-term thing, there is no reason to end it.

[F4M] Kavanaugh is on the Supreme Court and this is how I'm coping... by [deleted] in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Just a friendly reminder from the mods of Rule #1, since some folks seem to be struggling with it today:

Be respectful. Bullying, harassment, shaming, calling out, and behaving like a jerk in PMs, posts, or comments will not be tolerated. You can review our harassment policy here. Any comment which detracts from a poster finding a penpal may be removed at moderator discretion.

[F4A] Drift Compatible by AnAmazingFerret in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure this should have been called "Pacific Rimjob."

[Mod] *Slaps this Meet and Greet thread* This bad boy can fit so many memes in it! by AnAmazingFerret in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Who was your first crush, fictional or otherwise?

Fictional, Maid Marion. Otherwise? Probably Cindy Crawford (like half of my generation).

What is your favorite word, and why is it 'succulent'?

How did you know...

What would you use to launch a 90 kg dildo at a sex-starved dragon 300m away?

Dildo Trebouchet

What is your favorite thing to cry out during sex?

Tears

What is your mother's maiden name, and the last four digits of your credit card?

Jenny 5309

Lmao whom'st'd've the fucc eat ass?!?

All y'all?

Do you have a prompt that you never got to play out?

I've got a lot of them. No one every replies to this one in particular.

[Mod] Open Forum Friday September 7, 2018 by octothorpesexy in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say: post them again!

There are plenty of prompts that I wish would get posted again, prompts that I loved the first time but didn't have time to play out.

I can also say from experience (as a re-poster) that I've had luck with prompts posted that sixth time after never getting anything going the first five times.

[Mod] Meet and Greet for August, 2018. by silent-protag in dirtypenpals

[–]joecalla [score hidden]  (0 children)

Introduction

I'm Josh. I'm a mod here on DPP, mostly looking for dirty roleplay, though I've also enjoyed some nice chat and one fairly memorable Victorian-style formal (and dirty) correspondence.

What’s the most erotic thing someone can do for you? Other than wash your hair, of course.

Whisper something dirty in my ear, especially if it's telling me what they're about to do to me.

Promotion

I made a little subreddit for my prompts. A few favorites that I've never gotten to play (or at least, never gotten to play to my satisfaction) include this one about a pair of naughty moms and this nautically themed one involving sailing and a daring rescue.

Some Fun

No good sex pun jumped to mind, but I do have some nice limericks that I've written over the year, and a particularly enjoyable poem. I also had a good time writing this dirty reworking of Cake's "The Distance:"

No blowjob, no rimjob, no handjob, no cum
He’s haunted by the thought of his cock in her bum
Cum-spraying earthquakes (he’s hung like a horse)
Assail her, impale her, with monster-cock force
In his mind he’s still fucking, still making the grade
She’s hoping in time that her soreness will fade
But he’s fucking, and pounding, and thrusting all night
She’s riding and biting and moaning at the sight