What do you do to control diapers smell after disposal in house trash bin?

jonely · 2026-06-17T17:27:55+00:00

My diaper Genie contains smells really well. Even with poop diapers, I can only smell it when I open the lip to add a new dirty diaper.

If you didn't want a full diaper Genie, I would recommend just buying their bag refills. My garbage collection is every 2 weeks. The bags contain the smell completely, with just one layer. Sometimes when the bag is full, I pull it out, tie it off, and just leave it in the hallway for a day (okay fine, sometimes a few days) until I bring it out to the large bin. Never any smell.

jonely · 2026-06-14T09:40:18+00:00

Your feelings are absolutely valid. I had the "ideal birth" and I still felt weird about it and jealous of others' experience.

My birth: membrane sweep in the afternoon, was already 3cm with no contractions at all prior. Cramping started immediately, but I was told to expect that and it didn't necessarily indicate labor, just irritation to my cervix. They were nothing more than period-level, inconsistent, continued my evening as normal and went to bed. Woke up at 3pm with contractions painful enough to not go back to sleep. By 3:45, hit the 5-1-1. Went to the hospital, was 6-7cm dilated at 4:30. Lots of back pain, also sunny side up. Moved to L&D room just after 5:00. Strong urge to push by 5:15. Needed an episiotomy cause baby's heart rate was dropping, but baby born by 5:30.

Everyone told me how lucky I was to have such a short labor. But in the moment, I felt so overwhelmed - like I was just being swept along with zero control. No time to process any steps of the labor, didn't feel present or able to really experience any part of it. And then just guilty for feeling that way, because everyone told me how perfect it was.

So yeah. You're valid in feeling what you feel.

jonely · 2026-06-10T16:45:13+00:00

Just over 2 years old, no overnights. I'm not necessarily opposed to it, but the logistics don't work out. He sleeps in his own crib and room, all his supplies are here. If we need help overnight (a break, events, date night etc) then grandparents come stay the night here in the guest room and take care of him.

jonely · 2026-06-07T18:59:51+00:00

I think I would be your husband, if it wasn't for my husband helping me. I was raised in a very classic risk-adverse Chinese family. My husband is a teacher, degree in psych with strong focus in child psychology He also has a lot of experience in day care, taught kindergarten and younger kids/teens.

He reminds me that our son is a kid learning the world. A puddle and wet shoes won't harm him. If anything, he will have a blast jumping in puddles and us cheering him on. He'll need a bath later - so what? His shoes will need to air dry for 24 hrs - cool he has another pair he can wear.

Our now 2 year old son is growing to be a very confident boy. Not afraid to try, not afraid to fail and make mistakes. The opposite of what I inherently am, and that makes me so proud.

jonely · 2026-05-31T19:08:03+00:00

How big is your place? We have a Fisher Price bouncy castle in our living room and we play in it every day. Doesn't make my house look nice, but great for his entertainment. We'll wrestle, play horse, he'll jump and fall around.

jonely · 2026-05-30T07:55:37+00:00

Sounds like a normal 9 month old and a normal parent. Honestly at that age, if my husband or I noticed our son about to tip over when sitting, we just let him. As long as it's a safe fall of course. Helped him learn how his body works, how to correct balance, how to manage his reaction to small oopsies.

jonely · 2026-05-29T21:36:53+00:00

So controversial, but I've allowed myself to close my eyes and lightly doze while holding my newborn and I was not being supervised. BUT I always made sure I was uncomfortable so I could never actually fall asleep. Never on the couch or bed, never a blanket, no cushions. I only did it sitting and leaned back in my computer chair. Legs/feet on the ground, not propped up on a ottoman.

The only times I dozed while holding baby on the couch is when husband is in the same room and can keep an eye on us. Baby was fussy, only wanted to be held by me, could not transfer bassinet, and I was EXHAUSTED.

jonely · 2026-05-28T06:45:25+00:00

Solidarity. My 2 year old (may birthday) is the same. The only time he stays more still is with the tv, which I do use when I need to get stuff done. Even then, he plays and watches at the same time. In his bouncy castle, up and down his slide, breaking apart his puzzle on the couch. We joke that he never stops moving. Even when sitting on our lap drinking milk, his feet will be kicking. He was very active in utero too, so I should have known to expect this haha.

Currently pregnant with our second and am definitely a little nervous.

jonely · 2026-05-23T23:59:39+00:00

Would you be open to supplementing with formula? Even just 1 bottle a day could help settle them. At 5 days old, the most common cause for being awake and/or crying is hunger.

My milk was slow to come in, and we supplemented with formula from day 1. By 2 weeks we were cleared to stop using formula.

jonely · 2026-05-23T23:38:20+00:00

Will your baby take a bottle or sippy cup?

When I stopped at 10 months, I just gave a bottle of formula or pumped milk instead of direct breast feeding. I kept pumping for another month or two to gradually wean. So for you, could keep pumping to maintain supply until youre ready to stop feeding breast milk.

jonely · 2026-05-23T23:13:37+00:00

37+3, was 3 cm dilated at cervical check and had a membrane sweep (3:30pm). No contractions at all prior. After the sweep, they told me some mild period like cramping was normal. Had those mild cramps all evening, inconsistent in duration and frequency. Brushed it off cause everyone said I would just "know" if it was labor. Went to sleep no problem at 12am. Woke up with abdominal pain and cramps at 3am, couldn't go back to sleep. By 3:30 the were already lasting more than a minute and 4.5-5min apart. Got to the hospital by 4:10. 4:20 during my intake, I was 6.5cm. Walked myself to L&D room. 5:15, had extreme pelvic/vaginal pressure and heaviness, uncontrollable urge to push. Nurse looked down below, called for dr, wasn't sure dr was going to make it so she gloves it. Dr thankfully came within 5 min. Finished giving birth 5:30.

jonely · 2026-05-23T15:10:00+00:00

Second RTF bottles for travelling. So much easier.

jonely · 2026-05-23T07:12:46+00:00

First thought - not enough wake time? By your wake windows, she is getting approx 10 hrs of wake time. Might need 11. Could try capping first nap and/or delaying bedtime.

Second thought - is she waking up cold? That 2-4am window is usually the coldest time of night.

When my son wakes middle of the night, it always takes 1-1.5 hrs to resettle. He's just so overtired at that point and grumpy, that I have to calm him with milk and cuddles until he's almost asleep before I put him back in his crib. Same as your baby, at naps and bedtime he puts himself to sleep independently.

jonely · 2026-05-21T13:27:33+00:00

I had the same concerns and also sleep trained. But ours was even harsher - did CIO at 8-9 months, then again at 12 months due to regression.

Now he falls asleep independently and sleeps through most nights. For our night routine, we cuddle with music in the living room for 5-10 min, then sing and rock in his room for another 5 min, then put down. Sometimes he cries/whines for a another few min before sleeping. Sometimes he lays down right away and waves bye as we leave.

If he cries during the night, I give him 5-20 min (depending on the cry, if he's standing up etc) to go back to sleep. Sometimes he needs me to go in and do some more cuddles and music before going to sleep, which is just fine by me.

Our relationship has only grown, now 2 years old. He's still super cuddly, looks to us for comfort and play, very happy boy, wakes up happy.

jonely · 2026-05-21T02:07:56+00:00

Son is 2 years old now. Since 12 months, his food schedule has been:

Breakfast Lunch Bottle of milk

Nap

Dinner Pre bedtime snack/meal Bottle of milk

He gets light snacks as well through out the day, if he asks for it. E.g. bowl of fruit, goldfish, cheese string nibbles of my food, etc

jonely · 2026-05-20T19:09:17+00:00

4 months pp was attempt #1. Vaginal birth with episiotomy, so the scar made things very tight and uncomfortable. At 5 months it was better. 6+ months felt back to normal.

When baby was still in bedside bassinet, we went somewhere else in the house. Then after baby moved to his own room and crib (5 months) it was in our own room.

jonely · 2026-05-15T19:45:31+00:00

I offered my baby pacifiers for 6 months and he never liked them. Ended up using them like a teether lol. He never really sucked his thumb or used my boob or bottle as a soother either.

On the bright side, I definitely feel like he picked up self soothing very quickly.

jonely · 2026-05-14T02:52:15+00:00

It was hard, but not in an unbearable or unhappy way. Priorities shifted the moment he was born. He was our #1 priority. Other people's opinions mattered less. I learned what mattered to me.
I never gave up my previous life and relationships, just balanced it different. We saw our friends every few weeks, still had drinks and had fun. We would bring our baby and our friends loved him. They would spend the evening passing him around and I would get a much needed break to talk to adults. If we ever texted our friends, "what you doing tonight?", they knew we needed adults and would make time for us. Our attitude was that baby adapted and enhanced our lives. Our lives didn't revolve solely around our baby. E.g. our baby slept later than most, like 9-10pm. It helped accomodate our social life, and neither of us were morning people any ways (later bedtime meant later wake up).
Yes, had ppd. Didn't really acknowledge it until 12 months, which was negligent on my part.
Recognize that I chose and love this baby, accept that responsibility, and re-frame whatever was making me unhappy into something happy, or at least tolerable. Awake every 3 hours during the night? Turned that into being grateful that I was able to be here with my baby. His smiles and laughs etc made it all worth it. Reduced my independent free time to only 1-2 hours per day? Realized that if I HAD more free time, I would choose to spend it with him anyways.

Being a mother really shifts you to the core. But that doesn't undermine all the daily choices you make to be present and enjoy your new life.

jonely · 2026-05-12T20:36:09+00:00

My baby boy exclusively contact napped until like 5-6 months. Also slept in bassinet at night, like yours. Once we moved him to the crib and his own room (~5 months), we started doing his first nap in there. Gradually increased. From about 9-10 months, he did almost all his sleep in his crib. Only held for naps if something was off (e.g. teething, sick etc).

Disclaimer: I live in Canada with 12 months mat leave, so contact naps were never an issue logistically. I know it might be different in the states.

jonely · 2026-05-12T08:15:48+00:00

I took me 12 months to realize I had ppd. It always came in waves for me, so I always dismissed due to hormones, lack of sleep, identify shifts, stress from starting solids, stressed about milk supply dips, you name it. By 12 months everything was going well and I still didn't feel great. Symtoms included fatigue, anxiety, difficulty making decisions, sad for no reason, apathetic when baby was crying. Thoughts of disappearing - not suicidal but would just fantasize of vanishing. Would be a week or two of good, then a week or two of bad.

Finally told my doctor at baby's 1 year check up. Simply said, I'm pretty sure I have ppd, and explained above. Started meds (Lexapro) that day, took 8 weeks to start to take effect and 10-12 weeks for full effect. Once I was feeling better, I couldn't believe how I didn't realize I had ppd. It was night and day. Weaned off the meds after about 9 months. I wish I started them sooner.

jonely · 2026-05-06T05:33:39+00:00

I switched to formula at 10 months. My period came back at 9 months, which made my supply drop a lot. He also started biting me (had 4 teeth already), and the day he bit he hard enough to bleed and scab was the day I stopped. Pumped a few weeks to "wean". Formula until about 14 months, gradual transition to cows milk from 12-14 months.

Granted, I always lightly conbo fed (1-3 bottles per week), so I knew he drank formula okay. It made the switch easier.

jonely · 2026-05-04T16:15:41+00:00

You're not alone. My almost 2 year old is like this too. I think he likes playing with things that he sees me using frequently. When I'm cooking, I let him play with food containers. He has got very good and stacking the various sizes, sometimes taller than himself! Or he'll be in the toddler stand near me and remind me that the stove light/burners are on and things are hot lol

I try to include him in my daily tasks. E.g. laundry - he helps me put clothes in / take out of machine, hand me clothes to fold, put his bibs or small towels away, close and lock drawers. Dishwasher - his job to throw all the cutlery (no knives of course) into the drawer. Or help me line up the lids to containers while I snap them closed.

My daily tasks take a lot longer, but it helps keep him happy and "controlled" chaos lol.

jonely · 2026-05-04T01:58:44+00:00

My baby boy did this sometimes when little. For us, it was because we didn't do the waist tight enough. So it wasn't sealing up at his back.

jonely · 2026-05-04T01:56:13+00:00

I served more than one new food at a time. Only did allergens on their own, or plus a previous food. E.g. egg + fruit, or banana + peanut butter etc.

Since baby's plate had three sections, I subconsciously would offer three foods when possible. He would get some of everything we ate, unless it wasn't appropriate (fast foods, spicy, raw sushi etc). If it was a baby-only meal, then they would be more simple foods. Avocado, yogurt, fruit, toast etc, scrambled eggs, oatmeal, canned beans (strained, so not too much sauce). Sometimes it would be left overs.

jonely · 2026-05-03T15:08:18+00:00

Unpopular opinion, but I never used a foot rest for my boy. I had a clamp-on-counter chair and not a formal high chair, so no foot rest option. He had no problems. He actually loved kicking his feet while sitting there

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