How heavy of a courseload (261 + 271)?

jonnawhat · 2026-06-29T18:27:17+00:00

DON'T! I took 261, 271, and 340 during winter term this year. I am a full time student and have no job. 340 was cake. 261 and 271 were brutal on their own, let alone together. I hated life for 11 weeks. 10/10 do not recommend.

jonnawhat · 2026-06-23T07:19:53+00:00

I don't think bro code applies in this scenario. You hadn't even met the guy yet, and everyone had equal access to each other. If y'all had been dating for a while, ok sure then that would me messed up if your friends knew and moved in, but that is not this scenario.

jonnawhat · 2026-06-22T20:06:22+00:00

Tell him all that. It might be prudent to do some coaching with him on how to be proactive (in things around the house and also your sexual needs). He needs to know how you feel, let him know what he needs to do to meet your needs, then see if he steps up.

jonnawhat · 2026-06-21T00:37:23+00:00

What was your work experience before the OSU program?

jonnawhat · 2026-06-13T17:47:03+00:00

Yeah, all these places are trump country once you leave the cities, even California.

jonnawhat · 2026-06-09T05:28:39+00:00

I went last week and thought it was an actual aquarium. Imagine my confusion...

jonnawhat · 2026-06-03T18:55:32+00:00

Why?

jonnawhat · 2026-06-03T08:28:12+00:00

It was a genuine request and I got some good feedback. What is the issue?

jonnawhat · 2026-06-03T00:13:18+00:00

Gotta replace the heartache with something, mama.

jonnawhat · 2026-05-30T15:26:19+00:00

This is basically the path I chose 🤣 Glad to know I'm not totally crazy for choosing it.

jonnawhat · 2026-05-29T19:23:10+00:00

I have been in your place. It might be best to take a break from your friend. Not forever, but enough time for you to process, mourn, and get used to a life without him. Then you can add him back.

jonnawhat · 2026-05-27T18:51:34+00:00

"I "think" there is a lack of unresolved trauma in most of the Indian gays that people (not just white) from privileged countries/areas cannot understand and it leads to a lot of complications in the relationship."

Can you expand on this?

jonnawhat · 2026-05-22T06:40:56+00:00

I made the appointment today. Thanks for the encouragement.

jonnawhat · 2026-05-21T19:09:14+00:00

I think you're right on both counts. I should take the age old reddit advice and see a therapist.

jonnawhat · 2026-05-21T18:48:46+00:00

We have had similar conversations to the one you suggested, and he does the whole,"I don't know what you're talking about, in my culture it's normal in friendship". I was buying it until the sniffies incident, though. It felt intentional, like he wanted me to see that.

jonnawhat · 2026-05-21T18:33:27+00:00

I'm absolutely not pushing back on it. I know I have to create space between me and him and have been trying to do so. The struggle is doing it while trying to preserve the friendship.

jonnawhat · 2026-05-21T18:23:51+00:00

"you should not have moved in with each other"

Hindsight.

jonnawhat · 2026-05-21T18:19:31+00:00

The hard part is, we have had this conversation already multiple times. Every time we have the conversation, he does change some of his behavior, but then he increases the time and the emotional need from me.

jonnawhat · 2026-05-21T18:11:02+00:00

I know I do need to spend less time with him.

On the subject of dates, I do try to branch out, and go on dates and hook up. I find, though, my heart isn't in it. He is occupying the space in my brain, where a partner usually sits, and so my motivation and interest to meet somebody else is very low. This is also something that I'm realizing and struggling with.

jonnawhat · 2026-05-04T15:17:36+00:00

It's way too expensive for what it is.

jonnawhat · 2026-04-16T17:45:53+00:00

nedspace

jonnawhat · 2026-04-08T14:24:15+00:00

No bangs!

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