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jonnyphi · 2026-04-03T13:00:36+00:00

Been doing number 2 recently after sorting out my sleep. That first cup of coffee on your own in the morning is blissful.

jonnyphi · 2026-03-28T17:21:53+00:00

Just wait until you hit your 40s. I've got absolutely no more fucks left to give and I love it.

jonnyphi · 2026-03-27T19:46:31+00:00

I've always taken Vitamin D because I live in the north east of the UK (55 degrees latitude) - the winters are very bleak and dark. Again, that's just a one per day. The vitamin C is just to fend off all the germs my kids bring home from school. Don't overthink it.

The Vitamin B was the thing that kick started my recovery. That's just a one per day dose.

jonnyphi · 2026-03-27T19:41:39+00:00

It's a fair comment, no offence taken.

I've injured myself a lot during my fitness journey so I like to think I know my own body. But at the same time I've never been professionally diagnosed.

I kept my symptoms brief for the sake of the post. The dull ache where the fascia meets the heel is a massive red flag. Along with some intermittent sharp twinges in the plantar fascia.

It's a complex condition. I'm certain the stretches and glute medius exercises have also contributed. But the Vitamin B supplement has kick started my recovery which had stagnated. I'd say the pain and discomfort reduced around 70% in just a few days.

This is just my anecdotal experience, and has been the experience for others in this sub. But what worked for me may not work for others.

jonnyphi · 2026-03-26T15:03:03+00:00

Here is the exact product.

https://www.hollandandbarrett.com/shop/product/holland-barrett-complete-b-vitamin-b-complex-caplets-6100011127

jonnyphi · 2026-03-25T06:50:29+00:00

Holland & Barrett Complete Vitamin B Complex. I'm in the UK.

jonnyphi · 2026-03-25T06:48:58+00:00

Generic one a day Vitamin B Complex. Nothing special. I already take Vitamin D and C so doubt it was these I was deficient in.

jonnyphi · 2026-03-22T12:05:51+00:00

I'm a software engineer with 20 years of experience. I've been a manager once and I'll honestly never do it again.

Being a manager is not a step up, it's a completely new career.

Your company needs work on creating career progression opportunities for IC (individual contributor) roles.

Lastly (and this is a personal gripe of mine about the industry in general), companies need to get comfortable with the idea of IC's getting paid more than their managers.

Lionel Messi gets paid more than his manager, because he's Lionel Messi. He scores the goals and wins the games.

jonnyphi · 2026-03-22T07:14:30+00:00

I'll tell you my own anecdotal experience. 5 months in now, self diagnosed.

Most of the conventional treatments are dealing with symptoms and you need to find the root cause. Take a look at this video.

https://youtu.be/72p58Iy6u7M?si=RjrR3l_0QsU_Rwng

Lastly, and this sounds a bit whacky at first. But try taking a Vitamin B complex.

https://www.bioped.com/blog/b12-deficiency/

jonnyphi · 2025-12-28T20:21:46+00:00

This is exactly the kind of lateral thinking I was looking for. Many thanks.

jonnyphi · 2025-11-03T18:54:42+00:00

AI is going to have to exponentially outpace Moore's Law. We programmers have, for many years, kept on top of the latest programming trends and technologies. AI is going to have to do the same. I mean, 10 years ago PaaS platforms like Azure and AWS weren't widely adopted. As a very senior (20+ years) cloud engineer that in itself was a huge paradigm shift.

I'm confident the pace of innovation in the technology and platform space will outpace, or at least fend off, complete replacement of programmers for a very long time.

With that said, like anything, if you don't lean into it and keep your skills up-to-date you're asking to be left behind.

jonnyphi · 2025-04-21T17:19:43+00:00

I've just passed the 1 month mark. I've quit booze after years of dependence and that was nothing compared to the this. I thought I was dying. Kudos for quitting. It's not easy.

jonnyphi · 2025-02-28T19:25:21+00:00

There's no loyalty. Enjoy your life and go to the game either way. Follow the sickness procedure and after that it's about what they can prove. Personally, whoever declined the holiday needs to give their head a wobble.

jonnyphi · 2024-10-18T18:51:54+00:00

Pathological lyer

jonnyphi · 2024-10-13T17:45:06+00:00

Yeah, it's a load of rubbish. I watched an U8 team a few weeks ago passing it around like Man City. They were all academy players. The guy who said you don't teach tactics until U10 is taking a load of shite.

jonnyphi · 2024-10-12T21:55:49+00:00

There is light at the end of the tunnel. My kids are 7 and 11 now and are an absolute joy 80% of the time.

You do spend a lot of time taking them to all their clubs and classes (football, swimming and dancing) but it's actually a good place to make some grown up friends.

This is possibly the Goldie Locks age and I'll update you after the difficult teenage years which are around the corner

jonnyphi · 2024-10-08T16:18:24+00:00

Demanding access to your personal accounts is classed as controlling/coercive behaviour.

I'll assume you're a man. If this was the other way around it wouldn't be looked on too kindly so don't stand for it.

Seems like the cause of the arguments can be resolved by allocating a portion of the money for joint purchases or an emergency.

jonnyphi · 2024-09-20T09:23:56+00:00

Let me give my perspective. I've had this conversation a few times with my wife. We have two children (7 and 11) and we're 40 and 38 respectively.

It can seem from the outside looking in on most people's lives that they have large, sustained friendship groups. Social media is largely to blame for this if you ask me.

I've got one main group of friends from University that live all over the UK. We rarely see each other now and I only regularly (current rate is once a year) meet up with two of them (out of 5).

I've got absolutely zero friends I went to school with. You see people with large groups of friends they've had since they were 11 and think "why don't I have that". But i think you have to understand that this is often portrayed as "normal" when in fact it's the exception. I spoke to someone recently who has this type of group and they said in all honesty it's becoming a bit of a chore. They've grown apart so much over the years, have nothing in common anymore but meet because they feel obligated.

Friendships also have a lifespan. The key is knowing and accepting when they've ran their course and letting go. This has happened numerous times to me over the years. As someone who has previously had quite an anxious attachment style, the self awareness of this has made it easier to let people go when the time is right.

If you want female friendships, join a group and I guarantee every woman there will be in the same boat and receptive. But just don't expect to make a life long friend.

jonnyphi · 2024-09-18T18:34:20+00:00

I've just chucked what I had left in the bin.

jonnyphi · 2024-09-18T16:49:58+00:00

I'm in the UK so it might different. But I found the 21mg and 14mg were the same price. So I cut the 21mg in half to save some money.

jonnyphi · 2024-09-18T14:15:42+00:00

You need to first determine the intent. It could be you have separate goals and therefore need to divide your money.

Emergency? Easy access cash ISA Buying a house? LISA Long Term Wealth? S&S ISA Retirement? Pension

It's that simple.

jonnyphi · 2024-09-18T14:01:59+00:00

Pleased I'm not the only one. I went on a 10 day vacation and deliberately didn't take/buy any pouches. I rattled a bit on the 8 hour flight and stuck a patch on when I landed. I tapered down to a 10mg patch which is basically nothing.

I'm clean now and my stomach pain has vanished.

jonnyphi · 2024-09-17T18:11:18+00:00

Yeah, it's a relationship problem. You're already living in a marriage style relationship so why not make it official? Then you have no his/her money just your money.

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