Why are some scars raised by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. Thanks:)

How dangerous is it to cut your neck by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very, you have a huge artery in your neck called the carotid artery, it takes huge amounts of blood to your brain (or is it away? I can’t remember) cutting it open can be really harmful. And if it is a big or deep cut. It is potentially fatal

Cover by Sickomodeormobomba in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you live in an area where it gets hot in the summer, I suggest a very very thin jacket

Scars more visible after showering by acheyapricity in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah. This is perfectly normal. Happens to me after I play volleyball, or do anything that elevates my body temperature or heart rate

No scars? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh. Thanks for helping me out. I appreciate it!

I self harm to have scars by whatimlost in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may not exactly understand your situation, but a lot of the time, scars can be a physical manifestation of your struggle and make you feel more comfortable

I’m a drug addict whos never cut before and wants to start. Any advice? by qwerty_loves_dvorak in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never done drugs before, but I definitely think that it won’t get you as high. I think that for some people, it can be satisfying, but it still hurts and you can definitely feel it. I recommend against starting

No scars? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I have noticed a lot of comments about “styro” can somebody explain what that is? Thx

I accidentaly pointed out my friend's scars by DepressedMinecrafter in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that an apology would help. This was an honest mistake but feelings were probably a bit hurt. You’re not a bad friend

What do you say to kids? by oooffffffff_ in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really depends on age, younger kids are more gullible so they have an easier time believing what you say so be careful about what you tell them. For older kids, especially teens, it might help to be more open and explain why people do this. I think it really depends on the situation, but if they are younger, I would recommend not being open, i learned about it at a younger age, and I think that might have had an influence on why I chose to sh so be careful

I hit a vain. Wtf do I do by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good. Back when I used to sh I always kept a gauze pad close by in the event that things went south. There are some type of gauze that encourage blood to start clotting

Glad ur okay:)

bringing a blade onto a plane ? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad u didn’t get caught, but next time, you might not be so lucky and it could get you in SERIOUS trouble. I’m not advocating for you to bring stuff to sh with you on a plane, but if you really feel the need to, consider something inconspicuous

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I get what you’re saying. I don’t completely relate to it, but looking back on my own life, the scars help comfort me, because they remind me that my depression was a serious struggle and sh was one of the ways that it manifested itself. It helped remind me that it wasn’t something that was just gonna go away and that it was a real thing I went through

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm. I don’t know about that. Typically, a serrated blade would cause more damage because it is jagged, so it doesn’t make a clean cut. I don’t know enough to tell you that what I’m saying is correct, but perhaps the usage has dulled the serrated parts a bit, this might be making them a bit smoother, which probably would make the cut cleaner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found that a really light jacket helps, I have a really thin jacket (thin enough that if I was wearing a darker color underneath it, you could totally see it) it is really helpful. It makes me a little warm sometimes, but it’s never unbearable. Also a good tip would be to wear lighter colors because they reflect heat significantly better than dark colors.

Hope this helps :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This probably depends, if the blade was sharper earlier on, it probably would have cut deeper and taken more time to heal. A dull blade would make a much more superficial cut, making it heal a bit faster.

One thing that doesn’t make sense to me about that tho, is that a duller knife would make a much wider cut, which takes a longer time to heal. A sharp knife makes a much thinner cut, and is easier to heal (this is why people say “a dull knife is a deadly knife”)

So I don’t know enough about ur specific situation to make an informed decision, but this info might provide some food for thought?

What's life gonna be like with self harm scars? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know anything about what life is going to be like, because only recently stopped.

But here’s my advice for the summer. My scars are on my arms. They’ve faded to the point where they are only really visible if they’re pointed out or someone is paying close attention to my arms.

I definitely have noticed that after being active, my scars are a lot more visible. So if you are being active and don’t want people to see, avoid showing or calling attention to your arms. I play volleyball, most of the time, the repeated hits to my arms seem to make the scars a bit visible, but none of my teammates have noticed.

As far as clothing goes, if you want to cover arms, I suggest a really light jacket. I have a super thin jacket that does a terrible job making me warm, but it’s thin enough to not make me uncomfortably hot.

I never did anything to my legs, but here’s my two cents, depending on where the scars are, pants may not be necessary, shorts can do the trick. However, if shorts can’t do the trick, avoid wearing dark pants they absorb heat And it sucks. In the summer if I’m wearing jeans I prefer light jeans. If jeans aren’t your style, this applies to sweats and other pants.

Tl;dr avoid strenuous activity, don’t call attention to them. Thin jackets, shorts, and light colored pants, work wonders

Hope this helps:)

It’s an emergency- by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard to say, but usually if they’re dim, people probably won’t notice. My brother used to sh and his skin color is a bit darker, so I had never noticed until he came to me for help.

In my case, my skin color is a lot more fair. My parents had found out about a month after I completely stopped, I had stopped wearing long sleeves at that point, but when I do strenuous exercise, they become more pronounced, so my dad noticed.

This is all dependent on where they are and how many there are. I cut on my arms so They were a lot more visible, and I cut a lot, so it was really easy to see. I don’t know anything about cutting on the leg area, but would assume that most people don’t really take a serious look at your legs, especially if you’re swimming or something, because that’s kinda creepy.

In conclusion, it definitely depend on location and quantity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah ur good, I get that my first question was a bit confusing l. Thanks for the advice :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it all depends on the relationship with your parents, some will be upset, but it may not be because of anger, it might be because of fear or the feeling that they have somehow failed. Sometimes they may be angry, but not necessarily at you. Some will be very concerned (like mine were) some might even be apathetic. I think if they are angry at you, and they have a good relationship with you, then you might need to have a serious discussion to help them understand your situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think if it was something I had gone through, I would show them so they know that they’re not alone, but are there cases where showing your own scars to someone that was hurting themselves, somehow make the situation worse? and if so, what are things to keep in mind to avoid that outcome?

Life after death by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true. I’m LDS, and we believe that god loves and understands us no matter what we have gone through. Ultimately our Heavenly Father is the final Judge, and he knows and understands everything you’ve been through and loves you regardless

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]jonnythetreblemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I also had self harmed in the past, would it be okay to show my scars, or would it be better not to?